Can't see the future.

Dora_the_Explorer_5

Voyager2002 wrote:

Basically, British women are only interested if you are a multi-millionaire with rock star looks. They (rightly) demand equal pay with their male colleagues, equal opportunities for education, professional development and promotion, but then demand that any potential love-interest earns more than them! I suggest that you leave them to their complaining, get on some international pen-pal and dating sites, and plan a romantic break in Asia.

Well - that might be how things are on Planet Zanussi, Voyager, but they really aren't like that here :rotfl: - unless you've been mixing with the wrong crowd :eek:

Tom_Saunders

Tom,

Get a grip, I've been married since 24, engaged since 18. I am also 33, what do you need a wife / girlfriend for ? enjoy being single and pop down the local massage parlour once week like my mates do!

tina68

Tom_Saunders wrote:

Tom,

Get a grip, I've been married since 24, engaged since 18. I am also 33, what do you need a wife / girlfriend for ? enjoy being single and pop down the local massage parlour once week like my mates do!

ooooooooooooooo young man!!!!:rotfl:

jazzyjustlaw

To be honest, you are panicking over nothing. I feel perhaps you are just frightened of getting old per se. I know when i reached 25 I was concerned already. I am 34 now.

You do not need dating agencies, massage parlours or anything, you need to change your mindset. First of all go to Yoga a Hatha Yoga class with meditation that will sort you out. Secondly, draw a box and divide it up between all areas of your life, such as health, family, love, finances, work, and whatever and tick the boxes you are happy with. Love and relationships are only one part. You are better of being single now that being in a relationship that you thought you would never get out of by the age of 50.

I wish you all the best but dont jump into anything just because you feel you need a girlfriend.

tina68

jazzyjustlaw wrote:

To be honest, you are panicking over nothing. I feel perhaps you are just frightened of getting old per se. I know when i reached 25 I was concerned already. I am 34 now.

You do not need dating agencies, massage parlours or anything, you need to change your mindset. First of all go to Yoga

Yes that will get you into a whole lot of different compromising positions
Tom:T

northern_munky

Voyager2002 wrote:

Basically, British women are only interested if you are a multi-millionaire with rock star looks. They (rightly) demand equal pay with their male colleagues, equal opportunities for education, professional development and promotion, but then demand that any potential love-interest earns more than them! I suggest that you leave them to their complaining, get on some international pen-pal and dating sites, and plan a romantic break in Asia.

Nice attitude mate! I take it you're single? :rotfl: :rotfl: And whats romantic about visiting prossies in Thailand, ask Gary Glitter!

margaretclare

Voyager2002 wrote:

Basically, British women are only interested if you are a multi-millionaire with rock star looks. They (rightly) demand equal pay with their male colleagues, equal opportunities for education, professional development and promotion, but then demand that any potential love-interest earns more than them! I suggest that you leave them to their complaining, get on some international pen-pal and dating sites, and plan a romantic break in Asia.

What a load of absolute c*bblers. I agree with:

They (rightly) demand equal pay with their male colleagues, equal opportunities for education, professional development and promotion

but I totally disagree with

Basically, British women are only interested if you are a multi-millionaire with rock star looks.....but then demand that any potential love-interest earns more than them!

Be aware that any 'romantic break' in Asia may mean a gold-digging woman who only wants you as a route to a British passport and then an expensive divorce, leaving her free to milk our benefits system.

I agree with Dora - what planet are you on?

Margaret Clare

ronaldmacdonald

Tom_Saunders wrote:

Tom,

Get a grip, I've been married since 24, engaged since 18. I am also 33, what do you need a wife / girlfriend for ? enjoy being single and pop down the local massage parlour once week like my mates do!

I agree, get a grip, everyone gets old, everyone croaks it - embrace it when it happens, just think, the older you get the closer to retirement. Loadds of free time to play on the xbox :j , no work :beer: - what a laugh :T

Enjoy being single with no kidz, loadza mony to spend on boys toys. Jeez, now im jealous :mad:

tomstickland

The spirit of my original post was that I'm quite content, really enjoy my job etc, don't mind being single, but I can't see any route to the future at the moment and, yes, I am starting to feel older than I used to be.

You do not need dating agencies, massage parlours or anything, you need to change your mindset. First of all go to Yoga a Hatha Yoga class with meditation that will sort you out. Secondly, draw a box and divide it up between all areas of your life, such as health, family, love, finances, work, and whatever and tick the boxes you are happy with. Love and relationships are only one part. You are better of being single now that being in a relationship that you thought you would never get out of by the age of 50.

I agree with the not needing massage parlours or dating agencies. I'm very happy with my work, finances, health etc, and not happy with my personal life. I've got a lot of good friends, and I have a lot of fun generally. I've not had a girlfriend in 5 years though, or anything remotely relationship wise happening. I'm not happy about this, but I still see the positives of being single. I'd rather be single than in a relationship for the wrong reasons. But I would like some sort of promise for the future.

I was feeling a bit bad on Friday because I'd drunk a load of beer, realised that I'd got my hopes up (unrealisticially) with a woman I know, then felt a bit miserable about it. I don't care so much today.

SnowyOwl_2

Eeeek!!!! No, defo don't do the hair!!!! Think Paul McCartney...it's so wrong!

"Marry in haste, repent at leisure." This is often true, don't wish your life away, better to be single and happy than to be married to the wrong person and thus ruin two lives. One in three married persons becomes spend a lot of dosh becoming single again. There is nothing wrong with being single anyway!!

It's easy to say relax and Miss Right will come along...but worrying about it isn't going to make her show up faster. Keep busy, crowd out the worries by doing things, that'll make the wait seem shorter.

Curley...I'd say the same to you too. Being shy is a bit of a handicap I appreciate. Perhaps join something where you don't have to depend on people approaching you. I'm thinking of your joining a course of some sort even if it's cookery or photography or whatever, it'll get you out and you'll have something to chat about with the others during breaks. You mightn't fancy it but if you have a look through college prospectuses you may find some assertiveness training courses and what have you. At the very least a self-help book eg Susan Jeffers "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway" is a good source of tips on how to change your approach to situations you feel are intimidating. It's really just a matter of practice and you can start with small things and build your confidence a little bit at a time. Sorry if I am preaching, but hearing of a young person hiding themself away makes me a bit cross! There is a big world out there, and you can experience as much of it as you want if you just let yourself.