Can't see the future.

Counting_Pennies_2

Having your own place will be a great start.

I noticed as soon as I moved into my own flat that my social life took off even more.

If you think the social circle you are mixing in isn't helping find that partner you dream about, try doing additional things in your spare time.

Join some clubs/hobbies, do an evening course in something that interests you no matter how mad it might seem.

You mention you are very content at the moment, that is bound to be a good sign.

Counting_Pennies_2

tomstickland wrote:

Last year I had a major initiaive; joined some dating sites, went out, talked myself up. Then I gave up. LOL, making myself seem sad now. That's the thing; I'm not sad, but I am feeling a bit bugged.

Dating sites aren't the only place to meet people, and some times I think just taking on a few new hobbies/interests is enough to spark a new circle of friends and relationships

ManAtHome

Tom - are you after a "long and meaningfull relationship+progeny" or a just a sh*g.?

There's a nasty rumour going round that you're only here once - just enjoy yourself, the old "relationship thing" is ver rarely what it's cracked up to be..

tomstickland

Well, I was hoping that the two could be bundled up into one package as it were!

tru

Tom I'll have to introduce you to Mr troo (though I think he already knows a relative of yours ). Last year our mate - then 32 - was saying exactly the same thing as you, then he met this girl but had only said hi to her twice in 8 months. He reckoned she was way out of his league. So Mr troo interfered and found out she fancied him too but thought he was way out of her league Mr troo forced them together one day, "you both fancy each other so would you just GET ON WITH IT", they're getting married in June :T

He also interfered with another couple (before they were a couple lol), they've been married for a year Groom was 40 when they married.

I think he should charge a commision :rotfl:

Only problem is people keep asking him to be best man at weddings "cos if it weren't for you we wouldn't be together" but then that means he sits at the top table at the wedding reception and I get to sit with one of the happy couple's relatives that I've never met before :rolleyes:

bobsa1

As a many years married woman in her 30's I've got to say leave the hair grey. Dyed hair on a man is wrong!

My sister has a hairdressing shop and loads of her staff end up going out with customers etc, so first stop go to a hairdressers with lots of female staff!

Do you like anyone you work with! Tell a female you are looking for a relationship and they will have a friend to introduce you too.

I seem to set up dates for people all the time.

The pub/club scene is not the way to go and if I was going to an agency I would go to a local one with real people running it!

galaxyone

Maybe your ideal woman is on MSE? Perhaps we could start a MSE dating forum?

p.s. I'm married (met my husband online) but have some great single female friends who feel just the same as you.

larmy16

There are a lot of us in the same boat apparently Tom? However all I seem to come across are married couples - I have been waiting for love to suddenly just happen for about 10 years now!!!! Luckily I enjoy my own company - however you are still very young.:j

I have a friend of about 30 who had only been on the odd date - never met anyone she wanted to be with properly, then out of the blue recently she met someone through a friend and they are quite loved up. I agree with the poster though who said not all relationships are all they are cracked up to be.

For instance someone I spoke to recently, who I assumed was a happily married woman, has left her old man as she said she might as well have been on her own for all the input he made to their life together.

The only place I seem to meet single men are at my church but they are either really odd or care in the community people (hope that is not breaking some PC rule)!

Good luck.

PS I could not get my head around your maths in your OP -wont you be 41???

HGLTsuperstar

larmy16 wrote:

There are a lot of us in the same boat apparently Tom?

Yep, that'd be me you're referring to

However all I seem to come across are married couples - I have been waiting for love to suddenly just happen for about 10 years now!!!! Luckily I enjoy my own company - however you are still very young.:j

Even younger, and its really not a consolation



The only place I seem to meet single men are at my church but they are either really odd or care in the community people (hope that is not breaking some PC rule)!

Probably not PC, but spot on observation
Good luck.

PS I could not get my head around your maths in your OP -wont you be 41???

He means 3 lots of 5 years, i.e. in 15yrs time

BTW, where are you located Tom?

larmy16

Thanks for that HGTL - well I wish you luck too. I agree, its no consolation whatever age you are - its just that when you are in your fifties, someone in their thirties seems still young.