Can't see the future.

northern_munky

Dee123 wrote:

Nice attempt at 'Stenders........makes a change from speaking fluent Corrie

Nowt wrong with Corrie luv :rotfl: , now are you up for a date then, meet you at 8, we can see a film, then have black pudding and mushy peas and finally a walk round the park with my pet ferret :rotfl:

Dee123_2

northern_munky wrote:

and finally a walk round the park with my pet ferret :rotfl:

Never heard it called THAT before! :rotfl:

Meet you in the Midland at 8, then. Now shall I wear my Pearly Queen gear or my Burberry outfit???

Tom, where are ya?

tomstickland

I'm back! I've been away mountain biking and drinking beer.
Thanks for the posts everyone.
OK, so the hair is staying as it is then I think.
I think my problem with speed dating is that I don't think it's the best way for me, since I'm the sort of person it'd take a while to appreciate, I think, and the "sell yourself in 2 minutes" just seems at odds with that. Plus I found it bugging that for every genuine single women there they'd have 5 of their workmates along with them. Same with online dating really, after a string of pointless dates I've decided that real life might be a better option.

I'm not bitter really. Overall I'd rather wait and meet the right woman rather than just enter into a relationship because it is what everyone else is doing.

one-non-blonde

I know exactly how you feel as I'm struggling to see any light at the end of my tunnel at the moment. A few years older than you and more or less single for the past 5 years I've recently started to feel a crushing loneliness and it's really getting me down. Not once in 5 years have I met anyone new and gone on a 'date'. I'd also like more children and the chances of that are slipping away by the day. Being a working, single mother I don't get much opportunity to actually meet people which is the biggest problem (work is a dead loss as far as talent goes! :rolleyes: )

The kids are away some weekends but it's not regular enough to plan much (where would I go on my own anyway?) or have a regular pastime. I took up snowboarding a few months ago but I'm out of it for a while after breaking my arm last weekend ( ) and the season's more or less over anyway. I'm quite shy and don't find it that easy to strike up conversation on the hills anyway (and the crash-helmet is so-o-o-o-o not a sexy look! :eek: ).

I can't afford to join a dating agency. I've tried internet dating but it's such hard work and so time-consuming. I came across this site however:

http://www.spiceuk.com

which I'm swithering about joining in the hope that it'll broaden my horizons and allow me to get out and meet more people. Does anyone happen to know anything about them and the type of person who goes?

ditzymuppet

Just wanted to say, that I've seen your "face" around here...and that you come across as a really likeable chappy... I just wanted to say that all hope is not lost for you, you're only a youngster..... and that the whole "good things come along when you're not expecting them" thing.....is pretty much true

Talk to your friends (yep, all those yucky coupley couples!) get them to have a think and see if they have got any single lady friends who you could get to know... get to know these girls as friends....and remember that they have female friends/sisters/colleagues.... it's all about networking!!!! No need to expect to woo them at first... just get to know them....

Also... you could turn to the dreaded internet.... It was about a year ago that I was jabbering away to someone online....and I now classify him as my best friend.... despite the age gap (him- 34, moi- 21) things are great....so don't just restrict your options to an age limit... I used to...but i don't now.... my friends can be any age!

You say that you enjoy mountain biking...make the most of your hobby Get to socialise with a new bunch of people!

Having your own space will also really help Enjoy it! And remember, the summer is coming up- what a perfect excuse for picnics and BBQs and random walks by the seaside Enjoy x and KEEP SMILING TOM!!!

~ditzy x

P.S, Being single sucks... but when you get used to it...it makes you appreciate what a good person you are, and how someone will be very lucky to get to know you and have you in their world....!

tina68

tomstickland wrote:

I'm back! I've been away mountain biking and drinking beer.
Thanks for the posts everyone.
OK, so the hair is staying as it is then I think.
I think my problem with speed dating is that I don't think it's the best way for me, since I'm the sort of person it'd take a while to appreciate, I think, and the "sell yourself in 2 minutes" just seems at odds with that. Plus I found it bugging that for every genuine single women there they'd have 5 of their workmates along with them. Same with online dating really, after a string of pointless dates I've decided that real life might be a better option.

I'm not bitter really. Overall I'd rather wait and meet the right woman rather than just enter into a relationship because it is what everyone else is doing.

HI tom would love to meet u but i'm almost 38
Tina x
ps will be in Coventry 11th ---15th may
xxxx

k_bagpuss

Hey Tom, Sorry to hear you are feeling down babe! You sound like I did back in January when I first met you guys at the bunkbarn! After I got over my break-up I was wondering where I would meet someone cos I didn't really think I'd meet someone in a bar. So I joined the Friends Reunited dating site (Dating Reunited) which seemed pretty friendly (and was the cheapest too! lol) and I met someone mid Feb and things are going really well so far so don't give up! And also keep in touch with treacle (Tracy) and get yourself out and about! Are you going to the wrexham meet up?

ms_london

Hey!! You look cute from your aviator (albeit in a drunk-slouchy-cant-see-you-very-well kind of way) ;0)

I know what you mean. I am 25, and was thinking about how long I've been single for the other day. Thought it was around 3 years (which is bad enough), but it suddenly dawned on me that it's been 4!!!!!!!! That has scared me a bit as I am only young & already feel like a spinster ;0)

I must admit that meeting men in London is difficult. The only ones I do meet are sleazeballs, or ones that are super keen & stop calling - however, on the whole I am happy being single, but it would just be nice to meet someone now!!

Try not to give up hope - I am sure you'll meet someone!! Although after what I've just written, I'm probably not the best person to advise you, hehe!!

On the speed dating front, I tried it once & had such a blast. Didnt meet any potential boyfriends but met some lovely guys & had a really nice evening!! During the speed dating I had hiccups though which was embarrassing, but definately an ice breaker - so you cant get much worse than that :0)

I dont think you need to dye your hair - I like men with a bit of grey hair myself!! xx

ms_london

galaxyone wrote:

Maybe your ideal woman is on MSE? Perhaps we could start a MSE dating forum?

p.s. I'm married (met my husband online) but have some great single female friends who feel just the same as you.

Good idea !! Pick me, pick me, pick me!!;)

ms_london

one-non-blonde wrote:

I took up snowboarding a few months ago but I'm out of it for a while after breaking my arm last weekend ( ) and the season's more or less over anyway. I'm quite shy and don't find it that easy to strike up conversation on the hills anyway (and the crash-helmet is so-o-o-o-o not a sexy look! :eek: ).

Hey one non blonde. I think that is so refreshing (sorry you broke your arm though in the process - no cute doctors in A&E? ) - you are so brave for trying that and doing something completely different - I think you are braver than you think!!

A bit envious (not of the broken arm though!!) :0) xx