Can't see the future.

tomstickland

I'm feeling worried. I've just bought a flat which I'm going to move to soon, after a few years of living with my parents. I'm 33 and I've started to realise that time is moving on. 5 years isn't a long time, and in 3 of those I'll not be far off 50. That's been scaring me a bit, LOL. After ending a reasonably serious relationship over 5 years ago I've been single ever since. I'm struggling to see any reason whilst I won't still be single in 5 year's time. I have a fairly good social circle, but I don't seem to meet many single woman, and if I do then I don't feel that's they've any great interest in me. It's starting to worry me and I don't know what I can do to make any difference.
Oh well, I'm not going to worry for a few more years, see what happens I suppose.

aurora_borealis_2

don't worry Tom... we've seen your pics

You'll do just fine

cookiemonster25

best thing to do is just enjoy yourself, love has a habit of coming along when you least expect it, an old adege i know but very true, try too hard and you send out the wrong signals and scare people off
If most of you socailising invloves clubs and pubs do somthing different where you get to speak to people who are not half cut and will not remeber you in the morning
good luck ( but you wont need it)

tomstickland

OK, thanks, but I'm getting older every day.
A friend's girlfriend told me to die my hair (going a bit grey), maybe I should do that.
It's odd, because I feel more content at the moment than I've ever felt before and I reckon I can expand that when I move. So maybe it's for the better.
Hmm.

Pubs and clubs, I've given up on them, total waste of time. I should revisit the Leroc lessons. I binned the local dance lessons because I was the youngest there and I decided that I couldn't waste any more time like that.

Waiting is all well and good, but I've got a bit too good at it. Oh well, I'm not bitter.

aurora_borealis_2

tomstickland wrote:

OK, thanks, but I'm getting older every day.
A friend's girlfriend told me to die my hair (going a bit grey), maybe I should do that.
It's odd, because I feel more content at the moment than I've ever felt before and I reckon I can expand that when I move. So maybe it's for the better.
Hmm.

Don't die your hair :eek:

I like grey hair and dyed hair would be a HUGE red flag for me if i was a single girly.

elona

For a woman the biological clock ticks but for a man it ticks much later.

There are men in their 60's or 70's who are fathers.


This is such a cliche but things happen when you least expect them.


Try to meet people as people - you never know who has a sister , cousin , niece etc.

cookiemonster25

couldny agree more, most attractive thing about men is confidence ( not overly so) but happy with who you are and where you are going ,no to grecian 2000

tomstickland

Thanks. It's a lot of cliches though. I'm content and confident about who I am. However, for example, I went speed dating the once and got zero from that. I decided that it was a waste of time and a stupid concept. But it plays on my mind; was I unlucky, could I meet the ideal person at another one? Or is it all stupid, tacky money making stupidity?

Dora_the_Explorer_5

tomstickland wrote:

OK, thanks, but I'm getting older every day.
A friend's girlfriend told me to die my hair (going a bit grey), maybe I should do that.
It's odd, because I feel more content at the moment than I've ever felt before and I reckon I can expand that when I move. So maybe it's for the better.
Hmm.

Pubs and clubs, I've given up on them, total waste of time. I should revisit the Leroc lessons. I binned the local dance lessons because I was the youngest there and I decided that I couldn't waste any more time like that.

Waiting is all well and good, but I've got a bit too good at it. Oh well, I'm not bitter.

Sounds like you're having a midlife crisis a bit early
Information on hair dyeing from a blonde non-blonde : your hair is short, you'll have to dye it every week as white, or black, roots will be more obvious.
Only Madonna and Debbie Harry can get away with half an inch of roots showing :eek:

Ganyam

tomstickland wrote:

I'm feeling worried. I've just bought a flat which I'm going to move to soon, after a few years of living with my parents. I'm 33 and I've started to realise that time is moving on. 5 years isn't a long time, and in 3 of those I'll not be far off 50. That's been scaring me a bit, LOL. After ending a reasonably serious relationship over 5 years ago I've been single ever since. I'm struggling to see any reason whilst I won't still be single in 5 year's time. I have a fairly good social circle, but I don't seem to meet many single woman, and if I do then I don't feel that's they've any great interest in me. It's starting to worry me and I don't know what I can do to make any difference.
Oh well, I'm not going to worry for a few more years, see what happens I suppose.

It scared the !!!!!! out of me for long enough, been a constant worry, getting older and life not going anywhere, thinking in no time at all i'll be 40 and where am i... stuck in a rut..

As for single women , i havnt met any for years, come to mention it spoke to any!! :eek: :eek:

Think were in the same boat, need to go out more...... Good luck :beer:

tomstickland

Well, I try to rationalise it, but sometimes when I'm falling asleep I'll have a sudden moment of fear, realising that time is moving on and I'm a passenger, maybe not in control of my destination. Then other days, I think that every day on my own is another wasted day.

Hmm, I think I'm feeling bad tonight because a possible woman friend of mine, who gave me a nasty cold shoulder last year, well I think I've been developed unrealistic hopes and received another negative tonight. Suppose i'm realising there's no way forwards and I need to develope some alternatives.

Last year I had a major initiaive; joined some dating sites, went out, talked myself up. Then I gave up. LOL, making myself seem sad now. That's the thing; I'm not sad, but I am feeling a bit bugged.