MSE Parents Club Part 5

BrunoM

skintchick wrote: »

Ooh, more questions! sorry

When do they start sleeping longer at night? Is there a point at which this tends to happenn?

Also, bedtimes, we tend to have her up with us until about 9.30pm when she goes to sleep naturally. This suits us sso I've not tried to put her down earlier. Is that OK? Everyonee seems to be talking about 7pm bedtimes but we don't do that.

I think this thread has taught me how extremely varied baby's long night-time sleeps are... I think once they are 15?? lb (someone will correct me) it's "physically safe" for them to sleep through the night, but that doesn't mean they will.

Elijah's bedtime was more like 11pm ish for the first couple of months! It suited him, the little monster. We didn't start looking at a 7.30ish bedtime for maybe 4-5 months?

elle_gee

feelinggood wrote: »

Elle - how do you about having given that little bit of formula?

About the breastmilk thing, I feel responsible for this baby being born and I'm terrified it is going to have an awful life

Like I grudingly had to accept it - he had to have it cos he had to be fed, but that doesn't mean I have to be happy about it, iyswim. I made them either give half and half EBM or the majority EBM. I remember when he was on feeds of 28ml every two hours and I only produced 30ml in three hours, so they gave 14ml of each EBM and formula (Cow and Gate NutriPrem1 from a ready made bottle). The formula only last for a short time once you open the bottle so they were opening 200ml bottles, just for 14ml then throwing it away

Krystaltips

Skinty, that happens as they get a bit bigger... But all babies are different... Aimee was still waking every 90-120mins at 9 months old... Caitlyn has done occaisional 8hrs, but usually wakes after 5/6 now... (Oh yeah, Elle... When I give C a dreamfeed she is proper asleep, she doesn't wake up at all... Used to take ages trying to get her to take the nipple but now she just almost automatically latches on and feeds... Worked last night, she went until 5:30!) As for bringing bedtime forward, Caitlyn goes down when she's really miserable... Usually between 9 and 10, sometimes as early as 8, sometimes as late as 11/12 just do what ever suits you now and they settle into their own routines as they need to...

cazscoob

skinty erin goes down between 8.80/9.30 as this is when she is tired and sleeps. i think the 7pm is more for older children who are more active and can tire themselves out. if lilia sleeps at this time then i would continues as you are. also erin is still up twice during the night for a feed but she likes to go back to her cot and will wake me to let me know lol!

feelinggood_2

elle_gee wrote: »

Like I grudingly had to accept it - he had to have it cos he had to be fed, but that doesn't mean I have to be happy about it, iyswim. I made them either give half and half EBM or the majority EBM. I remember when he was on feeds of 28ml every two hours and I only produced 30ml in three hours, so they gave 14ml of each EBM and formula (Cow and Gate NutriPrem1 from a ready made bottle). The formula only last for a short time once you open the bottle so they were opening 200ml bottles, just for 14ml then throwing it away

I had to give a couple of formula feeds and despite knowing logically that it was that or starve I feel terrible about it.

How is baby getting on with feeding? Still having a good go?

redmel1621

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

I am moving bedtime backwards (or trying to) because I am worried that when I go back to work I will get less than an hour of a grumpy baby each night during the week

Does he like banana? Benjamin has started eating it straight from the peel in a bitey-mushy fashion!! He loves it!

My mum was a childminder when I was little and she still keeps in touch with lots of the kids that she looked after as babies. Only the other day she had a visit from a now-21-year-old 'baby' who still calls her mimda like he did when he first started talking!! She is also god-mother to some of her charges.
If you pick your childminder for the reasons that Mooki was talking about - because they like your child and want to give them cuddles and kisses and love then you are actually enriching babys life with another person to love and care for them.

Thanks MFD, I know it will all be fine. This lady is lovely too:)

Wow, well done Benjamin eating the banana from the peel....Kai still gags on it even mashed up..he has probably just gotten lazy from eating smooth food all the time:rolleyes:

Was meant to say Weezl - I only give milk before bed....Kai's day goes
Between 6/6.30 milk
7am porridge
11am milk then fruit puree
3pm milk and dinner and pudding
7pm milk

By 1yr I will have gradually have reduced his milk and he will go on cows milk at 1yr just for brekki and before bed.....sometimes with lunch, but usually make sure the kids get plenty of dairy by giving yoghurt and cheese at lunch-time

feelinggood_2

Toby sleeps 10pm till 7:30am, usually waking at 3am and 5am, although he does sometimes slip in an extra 1am and 6am wake up.

tiamai_d

Tummy time, can be started at birth, for the first few weeks just on your chest is fine. Lie down on the sofa on in bed with her ontop of you and talk to her. As she gets a bit older you can put a rolled up small towel or blanket etc under her arms to help prop her up a bit.

Bathing, Amber has had 2 baths The boys only get bathed twice a week (or if they need it), their skin got very dry if bathed too often as babies. I don't see the point in nightly baths if they are not dirty, it's a lot of work and as for it being part of a bedtime routine, never worked for us! Woke them up rather than relaxed them. I like to give Amber a little bit of massage when she is getting into her jammies, little bit of oil on my hands and I just rub her gently, she seems to like this then a feed.

money_maker_3

feelinggood wrote: »

Elle - how do you about having given that little bit of formula?

About the breastmilk thing, I feel responsible for this baby being born and I'm terrified it is going to have an awful life

just on what I said earlier, I expressed for Dylan when he was in hospital as it was the best thing for him and he really needeed it, but if I couldnt have done it, and when I dried up and he went onto formula, I know the 2 weeks he got of my milk helped him, but it was mine !! Someone elses to me would have been wrong, but then I feel the same with sperm and egg donation too, so I am best not getting into that conversation too much

Can I ask why you feel responsible? You dont need to answer if you dont want to, but I am curious as to why you think your friend wont bring the baby up well?

cazscoob

i have also found if baby has a sleep during the day then she sleeps better at night, it was someone on here that told me to do this with charlie and from around 6/7 months he has slept 7pm-8am (with the odd up early days!) and he has a 2hr nap in the afternoon!