MSE Parents Club Part 5

elle_gee

Krystaltips wrote: »

.. (Oh yeah, Elle... When I give C a dreamfeed she is proper asleep, she doesn't wake up at all... Used to take ages trying to get her to take the nipple but now she just almost automatically latches on and feeds... Worked last night, she went until 5:30!)

Thanks Will give it a go if I get the chance tonight.

feelinggood wrote: »

I had to give a couple of formula feeds and despite knowing logically that it was that or starve I feel terrible about it.

How is baby getting on with feeding? Still having a good go?

Yeah, getting there Less time spent latching on to random parts of me or him, so his aim is getting better I've been leaning towards breastfeeding first thing in the morning - about 5-6am and onwards until about 10am when I have to give him a bottle because he needs meds in it. Then we might have another go during the day (for ease and speed if he's not due any meds) then maybe again at night. Using it more for comfort to calm him down whilst he's starving and OH is [STRIKE]taking his time over[/STRIKE] making up the bottle with meds.

Still waiting for the blood test results from yesterday to find out what his calcium levels are doing. One of the powders for his milk is a calcium inhibitor so he needs that more when calcium levels are high so if they're high now I'd prefer to bottle feed then I know he's getting the powder meds too

redmel1621

BrunoM wrote: »

I think this thread has taught me how extremely varied baby's long night-time sleeps are... I think once they are 15?? lb (someone will correct me) it's "physically safe" for them to sleep through the night, but that doesn't mean they will.

Elijah's bedtime was more like 11pm ish for the first couple of months! It suited him, the little monster. We didn't start looking at a 7.30ish bedtime for maybe 4-5 months?

Oooh dear Kai was sleeping right through the night from 3wks old...was he not safe

My boys have always been early to bed. I think I have always had 7.30/8pm bedtimes for them right from about 3mths old! But they wanted to go to bed at that time, I have never battled with them at bedtime - apart from when they hit the terrible two's and EVERYTHING became a battle:rotfl:

feelinggood_2

money_maker wrote: »

Can I ask why you feel responsible? You dont need to answer if you dont want to, but I am curious as to why you think your friend wont bring the baby up well?

I set them up

She isn't that mentally healthy, and we don't know if SS are going to let her keep the baby

I just worry that the baby will be destined to continue the cycle

Lu_T

I'm doing this quickly cos meant to be workig with DH takes Alex out and Imogen naps.

Tummy time - if they get frustrated roll a towel up and put it under their chest and armpits. It means they won't bang their nose every time they bounce their head down.

skintchick wrote: »

Ooh, more questions! sorry

When do they start sleeping longer at night? Is there a point at which this tends to happenn?

Also, bedtimes, we tend to have her up with us until about 9.30pm when she goes to sleep naturally. This suits us sso I've not tried to put her down earlier. Is that OK? Everyonee seems to be talking about 7pm bedtimes but we don't do that.

Don't be sorry!

Bedtime - Alex goes to sleep anywhere between 8.30and 9.30pm. He's 7 weeks. We're leaving it at that for now and hoping he'll drop the middle of the night feed (3-4am) before we then start to move bedtime forward to nearer 7pm. We did it the other way round with Imogen and she didn't sleep through until 16 weeks when others I knew who moved bedtime backwards (IYSWIM) had babe sleeping through much earlier.

I think most babies will sleep through by 6 months. Some much earlier (gotta hate Mel!), some much later (just ask Bruno!). It all depends, as with most things baby-related, they are all different. Alex is now 10lb and showing no signs of sleeping through, although he does seem to feed less in the middle of the night. Sometimes this just results in him getting hungry at 6am though, rather than 7am.

HTH?

Feelie - repeat after me, "I am a good mum because I love my baby, I am a good mum because I love my baby, "I am a good mum because I love my baby," You're doing great hon. Please believe in yourself.

money_maker_3

Thats not your fault or responsibility feelie Please dont feel bad if SS do take the baby, it will be because they feel it is the right thing to do. For some people with previous history of depression, a baby can actually lift them out of it, so it may work out well for her. Just be there for her hun if she needs it, btu dont feel like you have to be responsible

tiamai_d

on the other hand feely, the baby just might be the making of her.

elle_gee

tiamai_d wrote: »

Tummy time, can be started at birth, for the first few weeks just on your chest is fine. Lie down on the sofa on in bed with her ontop of you and talk to her. As she gets a bit older you can put a rolled up small towel or blanket etc under her arms to help prop her up a bit.

Like this: http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=7807295&l=bdcab95831&id=723825074

(gosh, doesn't he look dinky there! )

redmel1621

Lu_T wrote: »

(gotta hate Mel!)

Outta context:rotfl:

tiamai_d

elle_gee wrote: »

Like this: http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=7807295&l=bdcab95831&id=723825074

(gosh, doesn't he look dinky there! )

yup

and you dont do anything special eh?

ladybirdintheuk

I found it Sami - beetroot risotto would never have occcured to me, i will have to try that!

elle_gee wrote: »

Incidentially, OH and I were talking about weaning earlier.. Two questions:-

1. If you don't have a microwave (still debating whether to put ours back in the kitchen or not), do you take out the frozen purees, leave them on the side/in the fridge to defrost then serve at room temp, or can you warm them up on a pot of hot water (or is a microwave best)?
Thankyou

I do use the microwave if I don't get myself organised in time. But if you get everything out of the freezer first thing then it will be defrosted by lunchtime, then if you want to warm it up you can pop it in warm water. I don't normally bother about warming Izzy's food (depending on what it is), as it is cold by the time she gets half way through anyway.

elle_gee wrote: »

Rhys will be 6mths in November.. and I ain't paying November prices for strawberries - he can damn well wait til.. oh.. February!

Strawberry puree freezes fine, so you could always do some now for November? I was in Tesco on a Sunday about an hour before it shut (it is 24 hours, but not on Sunday), and they were reducing the price of all the strawberries, so I got a couple of pots and we are working our way through them slowly. I got 8 avocados the other day too, as they were reduced to 25p. Have to get her to eat some really, or I will run out of room in the freezer for food for us grown ups