MSE Parents Club Part 5

redmel1621

Morning All

I have flicked back through a few pages but forgot to quote...so off the top of my head...

Caz - Hope your friend gets some joy at the hospital - poor mite!

Feelie - I know where you are coming from with the 'addicts getting vilified' thing. I hand out methadone to drug addicts and must say a few of them are really, really lovely. There are obviously the ones who just couldn't care less, but a lot of the time I can't imagine that it is the life even they, would have deliberately chosen...but once it has you.......

Sami - Those trainers are mega cute. Also, yes I have tried to explain about the having children close together thing, but he (very sensibly) says that it is more important that he/we become qualified and can earn a decent salary and be good role models for our children (whether we have 3 or 30!!) than whether they 'are born close together' Maybe I am just having a strop because I can't get my own way?!

3 - Yay on violet crawling (commando)...this is all ds2 did, he didn't ever crawl properly, just eventually got up and walked.....

I don't usually buy for christmas until after all our birthdays are over...we have them on 9th Oct, 21st Oct, 3rd Nov, 16th Nov.....Thankfully Kai is in March so I get a bit of breathing space there. Although I do start thinking about what I might get them from about August. I already know what they are getting for their birthdays and have a few things picked out for ds1 for christmas....ds3 will be easy anyway, there is loads of cool baby toys, but ds2 I have NO idea at all!!!


Dh is just off to another exam, so I may toodle off to town and get the boys lunch boxes - but then again I might not, because it is raining...

3onitsway

BrunoM wrote: »

I want to hear that Weezl is ok please! Thanks!

Oh yes! Weezl, are you out there? What happened?

Mel - i don't think you're selfish!
I know exactly what you mean - I was an only child til I was 16 and hated it! I've got my lovely little sister now (21), and we get on great, but we obviously didn't have a lot in common when she was younger.
I was determined to have more than one, so DS1 and DD1 came quite close together. Now i'm also thinking DD2 will feel like an only child as the others are so much older.
But, unlike me, you've got plenty of time! I've only got a couple of years to think about it!

Thanks Tine.

MrsTinks

3onitsway wrote: »

Thanks Tine.

I have NO idea what you're on about :whistle:

ladybirdintheuk

Morning all.

We start buying Christmas presents in September. I aim for two or three a month from September onwards. We still always end up with a good few to get in December, but I save up my boots points all year so I can do the 3 for 2 thing and pay with points, so it makes less of an impact. The people we have left by December are always the awkward people we can't think of anything for, so they would always end up with smellies or something anyway. Last year we ended up needing 5 presents I thin, so we also got to pick ouselves one for free!

No idea what we will spend on Izzy this year. DH seems to want to spend hundreds on her, but she'll be just short of 1 year old - what is the point in spending that much on a 1 year old?! We've agreed we will start putting money away from January for next christmas though. (We did that last year, but didn't manage it this year, what with maternity leave and all)

I have been making chutney like a demon though, so I think aunts and uncles will all be getting a small gift pack of 2 or 3 different kinds of chutney (all in baby food jars!) and maybe some home made sweets or something.

r.mac_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Pjs are opened on Christmas eve though so we all look nice in our new PJs on the present opening photos

I remember you saying this last year and thinking it was sweet, this year now I am permanently attached to my camera I totally get it:p:rotfl::T And will be following suit....:D

elle_gee wrote: »

Now that sounds to me plenty enough for a wee dinky one who'll probably be more interested in eating the wrapping paper anyway, but if you as parents get all that, what do family and friends buy?

I am formulating a list and will be making suggestions. One set of grandparents are buying a pushalong, one aunty is buying wooden blocks etc

BrunoM wrote: »

I want to hear that Weezl is ok please! Thanks!

Yes - Weezl let us know you are ok ((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))

redmel1621

3onitsway wrote: »

But, unlike me, you've got plenty of time! I've only got a couple of years to think about it!

But if you want them close, you don't NEED a lot of time;)

If I do as dh wants and wait until he has qualified then ds3 will be coming up for 5 and that is before taking in to account the time it 'may' take to fall pregnant then the year until baby is born - it will be another 6yr gap!! I want 2-3yr gap at most:rolleyes: Oh well I must try not to keep going on about it.....

r.mac_2

more christmas stuff - like you Ladybird I save my boots points up for using on presents and have been saving my tesco vouchers. I plan on doubling them up and buying LO a couple of presents. TBH, I know that she'll get lots of presents from family so while I plan on getting her presents from mummy and daddy - they'll be useful things we would have bought her anyway. She's too young to appreciate so many things at one IMHO - however santa will visit!

My mum's top tip is to let her open all the presents and later in the day scoop up the ones she wasn't immediately drawn to. Put them away in the cupboard and then bring them out slowly over the course of the next couple of months, when the days are raining and cold outside and she's getting bored of what toys she has.

As for presents for others - I plan on buying lots of those cheap ikea frames, some nice paper/card and pretty paints and LO can give paintings and hand/feet prints to people

BrunoM

I have 2 brothers each 2 years apart, and although actually we weren't THAT close growing up, I still want something similar. OH was an only child and she wanted a big gap before number 2 so that she could have a period free of nappies and feeds.

However I am "already" 35 :eek: and I don't want to be a "pensioner with a teenager" - I have slowly over a period of many moons talked her round into accepting that a 2-3 year gap is best

BrunoM

r.mac wrote: »

My mum's top tip is to let her open all the presents and later in the day scoop up the ones she wasn't immediately drawn to. Put them away in the cupboard and then bring them out slowly over the course of the next couple of months, when the days are raining and cold outside and she's getting bored of what toys she has.

That is a GREAT top tip! :T

r.mac_2

Mel - I don't think either you or your DH are wrong in your thinking or are being selfish. Babies provoke strong reactions in people. I think that both you and your DH should take some time to yourselves to decide WHY you both want a baby/don't want a baby and then prioritise those feelings. Then when you know what you are prepared to compromise on when you discuss it together. Good luck x