MSE Pregnancy Club XV

Fishcake_Random

Shes actually 10 but if you met her you`d think she was about 7 she extremally babyish still. i`m wondering if thats the issue as its her "thing". She walks everywhere holding peoples hands, still plays with dolls, refuses to leave the house without some kind of soft toy etc. If she stays over she`ll wake you up because she needs the toilet even though our flat has only 3 rooms total lol.
Maybe the baby is a threat to all her attention, or her place in the family and she doesnt want to grow up?

helen81_2

Girls..twilight fans..he's on tv now on Harry Potter if you didn't know

Fishcake_Random

I got my special edition dvd through today and im about to watch it while OH has dinner and I attempt this eating malarky again. Lol
Mmmmmmmmmm Edward.
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Sarah_Joanne

Fishcake that sounds like you've hit the nail on the head - she realises the attention won;t all be on her and she doesn't like it. Do her parents not say anything when she makes these comments?

TBH it sounds to me like it might be good for her to not be the baby any longer.

Fishcake_Random

I think that would be excellent for her Sarah. Their parents do treat her in a very babyish manner just because of the mere convenience more that anything I think. She is the youngest of 5!
I have spoken to OH about it and said I want a carefull eye kept on her around the baby when its here as I feel she may attempt to sabatage it etc as shes been asking what happens if you drop babys and if you get hit in the tummy before you have it does it die etc etc. Its pretty freaky. Maybe I`ll just hide from her till the kids about 3 lol
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Nicki

Can you try some psychology on OH's little sister Fishcake? We were worried about how our special needs daughter might react to not being the baby any longer (she's 8 and very used to being the centre of attention) so from the outset we have made a big fuss of her, as though the pregnancy is her thing, not anything to do with us! So when we talk about it in her presence, its always about how good she's going to be as a big sister, how exciting it will be for her to have a little one that she can teach all kinds of things to, how much attention she will get at school when the baby arrives, etc, etc.

Maybe you could do something similar with little sil and make it seem to her as though she will be the one who gets to do most with the baby, because she will be closest in age to it, so will understand about all the games, toys, films, music, etc which it will like when its born, unlike the rest of you old out of touch fogies. If she's as immature as she sounds, she might just not get how unrealistic that is at least for a newborn...

lil_miss_06

Fishcake_Random wrote: »

I think that would be excellent for her Sarah. Their parents do treat her in a very babyish manner just because of the mere convenience more that anything I think. She is the youngest of 5!
I have spoken to OH about it and said I want a carefull eye kept on her around the baby when its here as I feel she may attempt to sabatage it etc as shes been asking what happens if you drop babys and if you get hit in the tummy before you have it does it die etc etc. Its pretty freaky. Maybe I`ll just hide from her till the kids about 3 lol
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:eek:omg fish,,,,that is pretty freaky:eek:

xmaslolly76

You could try and involve her make her feel like the big girl who has to show the baby how things are done and make sure the baby is safe this is what i did with my DS (he is 7) he has taken the whole big brother thing to heart cant believe how much he has grown up in the last couple of months. She may come round before baby is born but watch out for a backlash once baby is born too you may find you will have to repeat the whole process again. I cant believe she is acting the way you say at 10yrs old my DD is 11 and is more like a teenager these days than a little girl she wouldnt be seen dead with cuddly toy now apart from at there pyjama parties where they all have one and its more of an accessory than a comfort thing. You never know during the next few months you may find she will grow up automatically through peer pressure she wont want to be seen as the small child around her friends and will want to be treated more grown up :-) x

workinmummy

Glam - I really don't know how you take spending so much time with your OH, without falling out. OH has booked two weeks paternity and i think by the time the second week rolls around i'll probably kill him. And thats after me spending 3-4 days in hospital after C-Section. Would have been happy if he'd only booked a week off, but will most probably need help due to section wound. And that will do my head in, having to ask him to do stuff, because if he doesn't do it straight away i will loose it.

Nicki, glad you are getting some help to destress. Wish i had the funds at the moment to book in for a haircut and colour. But will have to settle for doing my roots myself.
Pedicure is a good one. I had one a few weeks ago. Great for our poor weight bearing feet. Or a manicure?. I am very lucky to be able to attend free pamper sessions for pregnant women at my local Surestart centre, and tomorrow will be the last one for me . Need to decide between the manicure, foot massage or neck and shoulder massage, all are absolute bliss.

Also, do you get time to either sit and read a good book - mind escaping chick-lit? or watch a good film, by yourself. I find reading extremely relaxing and always read for about half an hour before going to sleep, nothing taxing. Have even bought and packed "Twilight" in my hospital bag, just in case i get the chance to read.

always29

jennynoo wrote: »

Do you need to book? The Westcroft is actually the second nearest aquanatal class I can find to me so just go to work out which is easiest to get to. Does it have car parking?

Definitely no need to book - although when I went a couple of weeks ago it was well busy whereas a couple of weeks before that there were only half a dozen of us! There is a car park but as I don't drive, I don't know how easy it is to park there.