MSE Pregnancy Club XV

Sarah_Joanne

Always that's really good news! 11 viewings in the first weekend is really good and very promising! Fingers crossed for you

nessquic80

Afternoon everyone, im still here!!!! Posted a status on fb and out of the 9 comments 4 people have said take castor oil and orange juice, ewh, that has got to be be gross, anway went tesco and got the smallest bottle, then read up about it via google, do i really wanna take this???any other suggestions................

Evansangel

It sounds like you have all the possible arguements covered.

DO you think he would resort to guilt tripping you? With questions like "but i'll be on my own - lonely" etc?

xx

Sarah_Joanne

Helen, it's a real tricky, but if it were me I'd be tempted to point out that £110k should be more than enough to kit himself out with somewhere to live. I'd also be inclined to suggest that there is obviously a higher increase in living costs if he spends half his time in Spain (if I remembered it right?) and then the other half of his time over here, but at the end of the day that's his choice, and you shouldn't have to accomodate him and his mood / attitude while he's here just to save him a bit of cash. Even if he didn't get his own place, how many week's rental in a holiday flat type place or short term let accomodation could he get out of the extra £50k you gave him? Probably quite a bit!!

Not sure if this helps at all but really hope you manage to sort things out

kindofagilr

Good Luck Always

I think you have everything covered Helen, if he says something about the utility bills when he isnt here then you simply tell him thats not your problem

Your house isnt big enough for 3 adults and 2 kids

BeenieCat

Soon to be 3 kids!

helen it sounds like he's gonna be awkward, stand your ground or he'll keep walking all over you. I can't believe he speaks to you all like that in your own home!!

helen81_2

Thanks EA, I had forgotten that argument..to that I'd point out the fact that while he's here in our house,we always either take the kids and go out just to get away on our own or we go sit upstairs in our bedroom and watch tv in peace..so he usually ends up on his own as it is now anyway!! But thats cos we get so !!!!!! off with him under our feet,we end up needing to go out or go upstairs because he's here,in our space. If he had own place, Im certain things would be alot nicer between us all..less stressed, we would get on alot better so really he'd see more of us not living with us IYSWIM? I know this because when mum was alive and they used to come over and stay together things were hard, but nothing like what they are now! It didn't used to get as heated,infact,we often got on ok really cos we didn't see them that often. Also..my daughter gets on quite well with my dad, they have their moments but on the whole she gets on with him fine (she's recently come back from staying with him in Spain for 15 days) so if he had own place,I'm sure she would go stay over with him for a week or so while he was there,infact I know she would..especially if he bought a house in town...all her friends live in town,so she'd love it,being nearer them instead of the 2 miles away she is at the mo,as we live in a village on outskirts of local town.

SJ- yes, it is Spain,quite right! :T and yes,your right about the money.

spikeysoul

Helen - so sorry about your friends, what a horrible thing to happen. I'm afraid I don't have any advice re:your dad. it sounds like one of those nasty catch 22 situations you only get with families.

I need to eek to some people who might understand, I just had my last physio appt with my regular phiso. She says I should move my bed downstairs NOW as avoiding the stairs may mean I don't deteriorate my joints to the point I have to be admitted becasue I become imobile - ARGH! Have hubby on the case, but it's a bit scary.

Then again she said you'll have to talk to your midwife, GP and consultant - well I'm not seeing the midwife for another 8 weeks, I don't see any consultant until 29 weeks and my GP I havn't seen regularly in a very long time. None of the other professionals seem particularly interested in how my body is coping with pregnancy - however they are certain I won't be able to have a home birth? Clearly I won't if I'm admitted - but that isn't what they mean.

So i'm making an appt with my GP but I don't see why he would take me anymore seriously than last time. I feel a bit odd - one person thins I'm possibly going to be in troubel and isworried (the one who knows my body best) and most couldn't give a fig - I'm not sure what to do

lou66_2

Helen
Sounds like you have everything covered, so good luck and go for it as hopefully once it's off your chest u will feel better, As for your friend I AM SO SORRY AND SENDING BIG HUGS ETC.

helen81_2

No, the house isn't big enough..especially when my older brother turns up to stay a few days aswell!! Even though he has own place down south..doesn't have my dad to stay with him over there OH NO he comes here instead to sleep in same bedroom as my dad!!? Thats the thinking behind my dad getting a 2 bedroom place y'see..so brother can go stay with him if he insists on coming over!