Can I have a moan? Please feel fee to tell me I'm being an unreasonable cowbag...!

GoToGal

You can withhold your number if you are worried about being stalked.

I assume you haven't put that number in ebay?

Oh, and I prefer phone to faffing about back and forth via email too

sunnysea83

if you had rung the seller on tuesday or whenever it was he originally asked youd have a collection date by now and could have even had the itemrung

The seller could have replied to you on Tuesday saying 'okay come at 10am wed am' the seller waits in for a couple of hours and you dont turn uo cause you didnt check your emails/ebay till late wed avo for what ever reason whereas had you have rung him tuesday afternoon like he asked he would have said 'can you make tomorrow at 10.00am to which you could say yes thats fine and he would know youve got the time agreed ratherr than him having to sit by his pc and wait for you to reply maybe the same day, maybe the next or maybe the next!! making a five minute call take hours, days of waiting for an ebay message to come back!

I cant beleive you would bid on something thats collection and think that you wouldnt have to contact the seller by phone!

Maybe you actually dont want the item and your just wasting everyone on this forums time and the sellers. If you wanted the item enough to bid i dont see why you cant phone.

The seller might be thinkin your a time waster cause you cant be bothered to ring him/her. I can understand you not wanting to give out your number but they can get it from ebay anyway but if your that worried just ring them and withold the number.

How are you goin to collect it if you wont go round there house!

Your now saying youve won a collection item but therres no way in hell your going to collect it from there house - well how are you going to collect it?

You have an over active imagination - a seller asked a simply request - please ring me to arrange a collection time, the same as every seller ive ever bought collection from has and yet youve turned something very small and simple in to a massive mole hill and caused a stalemate between you and the seller.

Jacks_xxx

pulliptears wrote: »

I'm also in the calling is easier camp...

Phone convo could go:

jacks "Can I pick up tomorrow at 7?"
Seller "No, I'm out then, how about 5?"
Jacks "I cant make it then, what about the day after?"
Seller "I have an appointment that day"

etc etc Its only simple to email if you and your seller can come to a convenient time instantly, and as your seller doesn't know what times you are available he probably sees it as much easier for you to give him a call.

Email convo should have gone:

Jacks We can come any time you like we're completely flexible.

Seller How about tomorrow at 5? I live at....

Jacks See you then!

Jacks_xxx

MsCrow wrote: »

Sounds like your imagination has gotten the best of you when you could have just rung and sorted it. Honestly, 7p, all this over 7p.

This is not over 7p. And the last time I told myself it was just my imagination I ended up with a knife to my throat. But thanks.

Jacks_xxx

Okay. Thanks to everybody who has replied. This has been very illuminating.

By the way I'm deaf.

Not stone deaf, but not confident on the phone deaf.

My husband has now rung the seller, and he refuses to deal with anybody but me so...I think my spidey sense was right.

I'm only glad that due to my previous experiences with stalkers my address and phone number are not available to him on eBay.

DoWhatULove-LoveWhatUDo

Jacks, even without knowledge of your safety worries and hearing problems I can see absolutely no reason at all why any normal person wouldn't simply have replied to your original email with their address and a suitable time.

"Call me" was not an appropriate response to an email requesting an address and collection time, and it was even less appropriate once you had informed him that you prefer to communicate by email. If you prefer not to phone him it's no skin off his nose is it? You couldn't possibly have been more accomodating or clear in your original email. There was no need to have a conversation about it unless there was something faintly untoward occurring.

My advice is to pay by Paypal to avoid a non paying bidder strike, then file a non performing seller, leaving negative feedback delineating his refusal to arrange a time by email, and the three week + wait. Even without the "Call Me" weirdness, insisting that you wait several weeks is just not cricket.

DoWhatULove-LoveWhatUDo

MsCrow wrote: »

This is the only reason that has been given as to why she doesn't want to call, it's only in the last couple of posts, in defence of people saying just to call, that Jacks has given other reasons. Currently it seems, he's in the UK. It's not really a difficult situation, one that could be solved by calling. Then she'd find out why she's unable to collect earlier, if he's ok etc. In essence though, she asked the seller to suggest a time that suited him, and he did. If she'd said originally, I can come XXX does that suit? He may have been amenable. Unless I'm missing some massive detail, it seems Jacks is working herself up over a lack of information.

I think the massive detail that you are so clearly missing is that there is no need whatsoever for Jacks to have to phone the seller at all. His refusal to answer a simple but material question is the obstacle here.

sequence

I would not phone the seller. I absolutely hate phoning anyone, especially strangers. The seller is an idiot and should have sorted this by email. I would tell him to forget all about it now.

appleblossom

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

Okay. Thanks to everybody who has replied. This has been very illuminating.

By the way I'm deaf.

Not stone deaf, but not confident on the phone deaf.

My husband has now rung the seller, and he refuses to deal with anybody but me so...I think my spidey sense was right.

I'm only glad that due to my previous experiences with stalkers my address and phone number are not available to him on eBay.

someone can correct me if I'm wrong but I am pretty sure it is against ebay policies to have a void address and contact number on ebay.

Don't take this the wrong way, but given your previous ebay stalker history, do you not think that bidding on a collection only item knowing that you don't want to go to their house anyway is not really the best item to be bidding on? Whenever I sell a collection item I email the buyer with my phone number asking them to ring me arrange collection - it takes seconds to do on the phone, and I can't be bothered with Can I collect tomorrow morning - no I'm not around then, how about in the evening?, ooh, can't do the evening, what about the next day etc etc - not everyone sits at their pc 24/7 - I check my emails at night so if someone wanted to collect something at 9am tomorrow morning,it's a little late at this time of night to be saying yes or no without mucking up their plans - I would rather they rang me when they won the auction and got it sorted.

I'm not sure how you intend completing this tranx when you won't go to their house??

Perhaps in future you should be looking at either ebayers that deliver or forget ebay altogether and just shop in the high street.

custardy

you see i must say i prefer to keep it to emails
no mistakes or misunderstandings
all the details in black and white