Can I have a moan? Please feel fee to tell me I'm being an unreasonable cowbag...!

sunnysea83

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

Or to any woman I would imagine. I am going to be required to go into his house to collect the item so I definitely don't want to be doing that with a guy that already freaks me out!

Im a women and it wouldnt bother me in the slightest! I would just think oh the seller obv wants me to ring him to arrange a collection date rather then keep sending emails back and forth cause its soo much quicker

Jacks_xxx

sunnysea83 wrote: »

Maybe because he wants to discuss when you can collect, your sat here complain about a seller being unreasonable and moaning he wont agree when to collect when you cant even be reasonable and give him a ring as hes asked you too many times from what you say above! just give him a ring, maybe he likes to actually speak to the person hes dealing with! Ive sold and bought a lot of collection items and only ever had the initial communication via email and the rest via phone!

You cant complain the sellers being unreasonable when you cant be bothered to ring them! or why not give them your number to ring you!!!

if your as desperate for the item as you sound and are making out then why are you so set against not ringing and arranging collection with the seller.

I'm not desperate hon, and I think I've covered the why.

Jacks_xxx

sunnysea83 wrote: »

Im a women and it wouldnt bother me in the slightest! I would just think oh the seller obv wants me to ring him to arrange a collection date rather then keep sending emails back and forth cause its soo much quicker

Why is the phone quicker?

If he won't name a time and place on email what makes you think he'll do it immediately by phone?

It's only taken more than five minutes to sort out now because he refuses to name a time and place.

If he had replied to my one message with another one message that would have been it.

Done.

Dusted.

There's absolutely no need to email back and forth. One single solitary email with the relevant info is all that was needed from him.

Not about seven all telling me to ring him.

Honestly? You don't think it's strange that he doens't just name a time and place like we've asked him to.

I have explained that I would prefer to deal by message in my second on Tuesday - and I'm still getting "Call me".

There is no chance in hell that I'm calling the guy - or going round his house.

I appreciate that me not wanting to phone is a bit unusual perhaps - but tough shit.

All he's got to do is pick a time and send one message. How is sending loads of messages telling me to call either quicker or easier?

pulliptears

I'm also in the calling is easier camp...

Phone convo could go:

jacks "Can I pick up tomorrow at 7?"
Seller "No, I'm out then, how about 5?"
Jacks "I cant make it then, what about the day after?"
Seller "I have an appointment that day"

etc etc Its only simple to email if you and your seller can come to a convenient time instantly, and as your seller doesn't know what times you are available he probably sees it as much easier for you to give him a call.

DaveAshton

appleblossom wrote: »

it's only 7p a minute on BT now to call a mobile and its only going to take a couple of mins to arrange a time.

Use 18185, it's even cheaper then

MsCrow

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

Honestly? You don't think it's strange that he doens't just name a time and place like we've asked him to.

I have explained that I would prefer to deal by message in my second on Tuesday - and I'm still getting "Call me".

There is no chance in hell that I'm calling the guy - or going round his house.

I appreciate that me not wanting to phone is a bit unusual perhaps - but tough shit.

All he's got to do is pick a time and send one message. How is sending loads of messages telling me to call either quicker or easier?

Sounds like your imagination has gotten the best of you when you could have just rung and sorted it. Honestly, 7p, all this over 7p.

madison-nyc

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

Why is the phone quicker?

If he won't name a time and place on email what makes you think he'll do it immediately by phone?

It's only taken more than five minutes to sort out now because he refuses to name a time and place.

If he had replied to my one message with another one message that would have been it.

Done.

Dusted.

There's absolutely no need to email back and forth. One single solitary email with the relevant info is all that was needed from him.

Not about seven all telling me to ring him.

Honestly? You don't think it's strange that he doens't just name a time and place like we've asked him to.

I have explained that I would prefer to deal by message in my second on Tuesday - and I'm still getting "Call me".

There is no chance in hell that I'm calling the guy - or going round his house.

I appreciate that me not wanting to phone is a bit unusual perhaps - but tough shit.

All he's got to do is pick a time and send one message. How is sending loads of messages telling me to call either quicker or easier?

I'm with you on this one , I wouldn't expect to have to ring someone , it is just as easy to sort out in one e-mail. All he had to say was i'll be in on so at so and so and so time , jobs done.

Also to expect you to wait over two weeks whilst he is on hols is unreasonable , he shouldn't have listed it or at least put in the item description when he would be unavailable.

He may be a weirdo or more than likely he just prefers to sort out on the phone. Same on freecylce, some people request you call them some all done by e-mail.

But it is odd that you've requested to arrange via e-mail and the only response your getting is 'call me'.

MsCrow

See it from both sides though. How does the seller know the buyer isn't a freak with a hammer? Perhaps he wants to check the buyer is safe to have round which you can't necessarily know via email. Perhaps he wants to give directions because the house is hard to access. Who knows, you can only say that getting into a tiz and emailing repeatedly when someone's asked you to call is easy to solve.

hayley11

I agree with Jacks, why couldn't he have simply replied with a time and date? She has been very accommadating, I don't know why he is trying to make things more difficult. Also I think he's out of order for making her wait two weeks, if it was the other way round, he'd be going mad!

When i'm selling/giving away furniture on ebay or freecycle, I do it all via email and it's always quick and pain free.

I don't know why everybody is going on about the cost of the call either, Jacks has explained several times why she doesn't want to ring him and that is up to her.

MsCrow

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

Now being a moneysaver I didn't want to ring the mobile of somebody who may be abroad on holiday when I can''t even pick the item up until he returns so what's the point?

This is the only reason that has been given as to why she doesn't want to call, it's only in the last couple of posts, in defence of people saying just to call, that Jacks has given other reasons. Currently it seems, he's in the UK. It's not really a difficult situation, one that could be solved by calling. Then she'd find out why she's unable to collect earlier, if he's ok etc. In essence though, she asked the seller to suggest a time that suited him, and he did. If she'd said originally, I can come XXX does that suit? He may have been amenable. Unless I'm missing some massive detail, it seems Jacks is working herself up over a lack of information.