Taking control of my life

GeorgeUK

Hi Ames

Looks like you're making steady progress on all fronts. Well done.

My brother can be quite self absorbed and not even think about how something he does will impact on someone else - as long as he's okay, that's the main thing. It may be that your sister has gotten out of the habit of thinking of others so just doesn't.

It might be worth sitting down with her to advise of some of the debt busting tips from the board - SOA, budgeting, spending diary. Then you can point out that every time she calls you of your dad, it's to ask for something. When was the last time she called her dad to see how he was or just have a chat?

She may be hiding her head in the sand and trying to keep up with her friends who may be working. I'm also concerned about your dad - if the guilt trips result in him taking out a loan or something...

As you say though, it's not for you ti fix the problems she has, all you can do is offer advice and hope she is mature enough to at least think about it.

I'm glad to see that this isn't all landing on your shoulders though and you are fighting your corner. Are things still okay/improving health wise?

Right, now get back to those books - you need to keep your grade average up you know

Ames

Well, an all time low tonight. Sister pretended to take an overdose. Me and dad were frantic, I called the ambulance out. Two hours later she was showing no signs of it so we realised she was lying.

Manipulation doesn't even begin to cover it.

But she got what she wanted.

Really don't know if I want to have anything to do with her anymore.

I'll probably feel better about it in the morning but right now I'm a bit shell shocked about it all, and just need to get it out. I tried calling the number on my care plan but just got an answerphone, so typing here is the next best thing. Sorry.

beanielou

Dont ever apologise.
Big big hugs hun xxx
I wont say what I think of your sisters behaviour as you do not need to hear it.

redsquirrel80

Oh Ames, so sorry to hear that - I don't blame you at all for feeling like you don't want anything to do with her. Massive hugs x

Wol2

Hi Ames

:wave::wave:

It must have been a very emotional night for you - lots of differing feelings whirling around......:grouphug::grouphug:


Have sent an email in reply to your PM Hun - hope you are having a better day today


xxxx

GeorgeUK

Hi Ames

Sorry to hear about this.
Do you know for certain that she didn't take anything?
Did they pump her stomach?

ZTD

Ames wrote: »

Well, an all time low tonight. Sister pretended to take an overdose. Me and dad were frantic, I called the ambulance out. Two hours later she was showing no signs of it so we realised she was lying.

Manipulation doesn't even begin to cover it.

But she got what she wanted.

Really don't know if I want to have anything to do with her anymore.

I'll probably feel better about it in the morning but right now I'm a bit shell shocked about it all, and just need to get it out. I tried calling the number on my care plan but just got an answerphone, so typing here is the next best thing. Sorry.

Big hugs for you.

It would be best for you if you (both you and Dad) if you didn't have anything to do with her. But it depends on your individual abilities to cut her off.

Be sure to write to her GP and describe her suicide attempt, the called-out ambulance, and to express concern about her deteriorating mental health.

Ellidee

Hugs from me too Ames. XX

Ames

Thanks guys.

George, she didn't go to hospital, she refused treatment. But we were talking to her for hours after she supposedly took it and she wasn't showing any signs. From experience I know that the sweating and racing heart, slurring and falling asleep happens quite quickly. I saw her about an hour afterwards and she looked fine.

Z, I would write to her GP but I'm not sure it'll do any good. Last time she actually took an overdose the psychiatrist who saw her said she didn't have mental health problems (but, again from experience, I know how bad duty psychs are). Part of the reason she refuses to get help is that last time she was depressed and went to the GP she lost a job over it. They asked for a medical report and the GP said that she shouldn't work with children. Well, that's what sister said. Last year she actually admitted that what the GP actually said was that sister wasn't strong enough emotionally to do that job.

So sister's convinced that if she asks for help then it'll go on her notes and she'll never get a job.

Or so she says. All of that is assuming that she is ill and not just manipulating us.

But yeah, I think I will write to the GP, don't know if it'll do any good though.

As for me, I didn't sleep well. I was having a bit of an emotional rollercoaster night, I think I felt just about every emotion at some point! I think I'm going to phone the counselling service and get put on their waiting list.

Above all, I will not let her make me feel guilty and that all of her problems are my fault.

Thanks again for reading guys, it's good to have this outlet.

Shoe_Gal

Sorry, no advice to offer except say

'look after yourself and make sure you get the help and support you need. Ultimately, she is an adult and responsible for her own actions/health, as you need to be about your own'

Take care of you :A