MSE Parents Club Part 4

weezl74

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

How about a cowboy hat?
Or some velcro-on fringes for Fergie's trews?


I don't know what it was that made me think that you didn't have a wardrobe full of Jimmy Choos :whistle:




Today I have started writing a letter to Benjamin for his 18th Birthday. He is 18 week at the moment so it seems appropriate. I know that I am not the kind of person to keep a baby book etc but writing him a letter to tell him some things is right up my street.

Have shed more than a few tears already

Jimmy Who's? Actually that's a joke

you've got me welling up too with your letter!

MrsTinks

MFD I love the idea of a book for baby's 18th birthday - I may steal that (Shamelessly! )

My_Fathers_Daughter

MrsTine wrote: »

MFD I love the idea of a book for baby's 18th birthday - I may steal that (Shamelessly! )

LOL - that's why I mentioned it!

Mine is just a box of memories (hospital tags etc) and a letter that I may or may not add to as Benjamin grows

See how I need to have a girl - if Benjamin is anything like my stepsons (the older 2) the he will be more bothered about what is going on there and then than what his soppy old mum thought 18 years ago :rolleyes:



Edit - I am purposefully not doing a traditional baby book because
a) I don't want anything which will end up looking unfinished because I don't keep up with it
b) Loads of people I know did baby books with their first then didn't have time with any subsequent children which makes them feel really guilty.

Sami_Bee

MrsTine wrote: »

I appreciate that others are more "happy go lucky" - not saying there is anything wrong with that, just that like Sami being OC about germs, I'm OC about control and planning and I can't get my head round others not being the same... *sigh* darned it... it's so hard to explain!

I understand (I hope everyone else does too) It didn't surprise me in the slightest when you said you'd never taken the risk, not because you're boring (I know ur not!!) but because I know you are not the kind of person to take that kind of risk

I think Feely summed it up well, that was the case when we made Chris, whilst we didn't think it would happen we knew full well it could and followed our hearts (and nether regions:p) and ignored our head but now I know what it is like to be pregant/give birth/be a mum I won't be taking that risk again:cool:

SusanC wrote: »

My mum was always particular about pronunciation so although I'm obviously from the north I don't have a particularly localised accent (and even less so now I've been in Durham for 11 years). When I was at school people used to accuse me of talking "posh" but then when I went to university people would look down on me because they considered a northern accent to be working class and they thought my accent (and localised vocubulary I used) was a reflection of (lack of) intelligence.

I didn't know I was "posh" until I went to college, I'd gone to school in a middle class area of warrington where most spoke like me but I went to college in wigan and got laughed at when I couldn't understand why my friends were talking about a furry christmas tree turned out they were talking about a fairy on a christmas tree.:rotfl:

Sami_Bee

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

LOL - that's why I mentioned it!

Mine is just a box of memories (hospital tags etc) and a letter that I may or may not add to as Benjamin grows

See how I need to have a girl - if Benjamin is anything like my stepsons (the older 2) the he will be more bothered about what is going on there and then than what his soppy old mum thought 18 years ago :rolleyes:



Edit - I am purposefully not doing a traditional baby book because
a) I don't want anything which will end up looking unfinished because I don't keep up with it
b) Loads of people I know did baby books with their first then didn't have time with any subsequent children which makes them feel really guilty.

You are so clever!! both of those things have happened in the Bee household!:o
Ps. I think Tara used the Shettles meathod for getting a girl

Conceiving a girl

If you have your sights set on a little girl here is what Dr Shettles recommends....

• Have sex as much as possible on the days leading up to ovulation but then abstain for 2-3 days before and on the day of ovulation itself. This works on the principle that sperm are able to survive for up to 6 days in the female reproductive system and that by the time ovulation occurs only the more resilient X sperm will remain to fertilise the egg.
  
• Have sex in a position that allows for shallow penetration (such as the missionary) as this deposits sperm lower in the reproductive system where the environment is less alkaline (so harsher on Y sperm) and where there is further to travel, giving the X sperm a fighting change of outlasting the Y sperm and reaching their target intact.
  
• As the female orgasm increases the alkalinity of the vaginal environment making it more friendly to Y sperm, Dr Shettles recommends that women refrain during the fertile period if they are trying to conceive a girl.

http://www.askbaby.com/dr-shettles-conception-method.htm

MrsTinks

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I understand (I hope everyone else does too) It didn't surprise me in the slightest when you said you'd never taken the risk, not because you're boring (I know ur not!!) but because I know you are not the kind of person to take that kind of risk

I think Feely summed it up well, that was the case when we made Chris, whilst we didn't think it would happen we knew full well it could and followed our hearts (and nether regions:p) and ignored our head but now I know what it is like to be pregant/give birth/be a mum I won't be taking that risk again:cool:

Thanks sami... It's hard to try and explain it really... It's odd because with soem things I'm a risk taker... I mean for goodness sake I used to race 4x4's off road for a hobby! I always pick the most insane horses, I would think nothing of hopping on the back of one of my uncles race horses and used to ride out on his stallion before he was retired, knowing there were mares in season less than a mile away...

It's hard to explain how your mind works isn't it? :rolleyes:

I guess it's just that SOME things I refuse to budge on and I guess I've become so tunnel visioned about certain things that I unintentially have got to a point where I can't even understand another point of view
Is this how people who are racist and homophobic get so stuck in their views?
Maybe we need a new term for it?
Oh dear... the more I think about it the more things I want to add to my list of things I can't understadn people would do... I better go away before I REALLY upset someone LOL

money_maker_3

Don't think you would upset anyone on here MrsT !! We might think your a bit weird .....:whistle: (only joking )
There are a few things that I dont see how people can do either, like eat marmite or tuna, or jump out of a plane .....
its each to their own as far as I'm concerned

weezl74

money_maker wrote: »

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There are a few things that I dont see how people can do either, like eat marmite or tuna, or jump out of a plane .....
its each to their own as far as I'm concerned

apart from big boobie, cheese and corned beef is NOT OK!

SeptemberBaby_2

I'm a planner. I planned not to get pregnant with DH until we both decided to have children and I was very good at it for, oh, about 8 years! Never had a scare, never thought am I, aren't I?

Then the first time we do it after having Poppy the contraception fails :eek:. The option is there and I took it as even for me getting pregnant after 3m is a tiny bit too soon.

I told my Dr that I blamed her! :rotfl:. At my check after Poppy she advised me not to choose long term contraception if I was planning another baby in the near future, which I was, so I left the surgery with a little white bag. Not my preferred method before and certainly not after!

xx

SusanC_2

MrsTine wrote: »

I know we do want a second child, but I guess (and I'm totally ignoring my reservations about pregnancy and labour here ) I want time to enjoy my beautiful baby girl first,

Me too.

MrsTine wrote: »

I just don't understand people knowingly taking the risk? Maybe it's just that I plan things to death - Roo was planned (even if she surprised us with how quickly we fell pregnant with her! I never thought it would be that quick!) - I spent 18 months planning my wedding - I plan for a living and I suppose I must be somewhat of a control freak But falling pregnant by "accident" is just something I struggle with understanding... how can you NOT plan the single most important thing you'll ever do? Or plan and control NOT doing it till you're ready if you IYKWIM...

I appreciate that others are more "happy go lucky" - not saying there is anything wrong with that, just that like Sami being OC about germs, I'm OC about control and planning and I can't get my head round others not being the same... *sigh* darned it... it's so hard to explain!

I like to plan things too. I got a shock by how quickly Alice came along - I'd prepared myself mentally for it taking a long time (not for any particualr reason - just because I know it can for some people) so it was quite a shock when three weeks after deciding to try I was already throwing up due to pregnancy. (Unfortunatley didn't plan on the sickness part.) I also had everything ready for Alice by the time I was 6 months pregnant and started choosing names before we'd decided to start trying (which is a good thing because it took us 7 months). I'm already planning for next time.

I did read about a study on natural family planning which found that those who were using it for child spacing had a much higher "failure" rate than those who were using it because they didn't want any more so I guess a lot of times when people have an unplanned pregnancy due to getting carried away it is in a way partly planned.