MSE Parents Club Part 4

ManOnTheMoon

Becles wrote: »

Yes - he grew up as a Newcastle fan, and as things are unsettled up the road, I am worried in case he jumps ship if they ask him to go there.

:rotfl:

She keeps asking where's Cisse gone (he was her fave as he kept dying his hair wacky colours) but she hasn't managed to pronouce Panathinaikos yet

How do the girls manage with bed times? My boys are 12 and 10 and the eldest one needs less sleep. The youngest one has lights out at 8.30pm, but the eldest varies between 8.30pm-10pm depending on how he's feeling. The youngest thinks that is totally unfair, but he'd be horrid the next day if I let him stay up till 10pm!

I doubt Bruce will go Newcastle. Drop a division and financial compensation...doubt it. He'll stay until Man Utd need a new coach (if they think he's good enough, but I don't) or Newcastle come up and need a new coach.

Cisse Always hard to explain to a child, changes. We watch F1 and when the drivers swap teams it confuses the younger ones :rotfl:

Well, 8 year olds are in bed by 7.30, 10 & 11 are in by 9, 13 and 14 by 10 and 16 can now stay to what she likes, within reason. No 2am or anything just yet, although on non school next day nights/special occasions, I am flexible. No idea if that's reasonable, but it's how we work it and it works, so I guess it is reasonable

They all sleep pretty well, no issues. 2x8's, 10 & 11, 13 & 14 all share a room in pairs and 16 has her own, as do I, obviously . We have 5 rooms, but also a spare room which is storage, but i'll have to change that when 14 starts wanting her own space :rolleyes: It's a decent sized house which was left to me by my mother, so it's safe, no worries about losing it, which is one less worry.

What happens if yours get up in the night? Do they go downstairs or come into your room? I always get my girls to wake me up if they feel lonely or not well, rather than their sister in the room with them.

MrsTinks

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

Badger section? Is that children? She might enjoy that as she likes playing with her sisters and it will new kids to be around.

Not sure she knows what she wants to do, but she wants to work with people in need as she knows what it's like to be unhappy and she doesn't want people to be unhappy. I do worry about her though, that she may be doing it to escape her own head :rolleyes:

Badgers are 5 to 10 year olds - technically your daughter would be in the cadets though (10 to 18). I've often had cadets out on duties with me but it means there has to be extra adults on duty to look after the cadets should anything happen etc. Have to say i've always found the cadets very mature for their age and very helpful

I wanted to be a social worker and work with people in need... so I can kind of understand her If she wants to take care of people there are hundreds of careers she might not have thought of yet - paramedic or a bloodfree option of controlroom staff social workers, nurses or carers. If she wants to be out and about then there are community nurses who drive round to peoples houses caring for them at home etc - it's a long list
In the end she might find that whilst looking at one career she discovers a totally different one she'd like to "try out" instead I accidently stumbled in IT and have kind of done the rounds - from support for the bit servers and mass storage devices that keep banks and huge companies running, to software support for anti virus and now I have ended up as a partner operations manager for an ISP :rotfl: No-one could have predicted a careerpath like that in a million years when my first full time job was selling mobile phones :rotfl:

angelfairy

searching_me wrote: »

AF jayden does this it ends up he dont want a feed just his dummy to sooth him maybe madam just wants something to chomp on x

hi SM,

over the past month madam has decided she doesnt want her dummy anymore :mad:

xx

searching_me

angelfairy wrote: »

hi SM,

over the past month madam has decided she doesnt want her dummy anymore :mad:

xx

is she taking a full feed both jayden and zoe (all be it a fair few years ago with zoe) would not settle if they dont or didnt get a full feed on the one just before you settle them forbed ... jayden has a habit it of falling a sleep in the middle of a feed so have to take the bottle off him and sort of wake him then he finshes the feed ... awkward bu99er :rolleyes: x

ManOnTheMoon

MrsTine wrote: »

Badgers are 5 to 10 year olds - technically your daughter would be in the cadets though (10 to 18). I've often had cadets out on duties with me but it means there has to be extra adults on duty to look after the cadets should anything happen etc. Have to say i've always found the cadets very mature for their age and very helpful

I wanted to be a social worker and work with people in need... so I can kind of understand her If she wants to take care of people there are hundreds of careers she might not have thought of yet - paramedic or a bloodfree option of controlroom staff social workers, nurses or carers. If she wants to be out and about then there are community nurses who drive round to peoples houses caring for them at home etc - it's a long list
In the end she might find that whilst looking at one career she discovers a totally different one she'd like to "try out" instead I accidently stumbled in IT and have kind of done the rounds - from support for the bit servers and mass storage devices that keep banks and huge companies running, to software support for anti virus and now I have ended up as a partner operations manager for an ISP :rotfl: No-one could have predicted a careerpath like that in a million years when my first full time job was selling mobile phones :rotfl:

It's something to talk to her about. I'm not sure she will hear anything though, she'll just be thinking blood When I get through to her it's not all blood, she may listen.

My concern of her wanting to do this kind of work is because of her own issues. I'm not stupid enough to realise she is okay. She's happy and we're very close, but she is angry, because of what her mothers did to her and until 3 years ago, she wanted to be a hairdresser or caterer when she grew up, then when her step mum left, she suddenly wanted to help people who had problems and it hasn't changed.

I've told her to keep her options open and if she isn't ready yet, do something voluntarily to test it out and do something at college to keep learning and earning qualifications. Their are options that I will look into and discuss with her. I'm reluctant to push her as much as I would the others, as she's a bit touchy. Some you have to give a kick up the bottom, others you need to put an arm around and she needs a big arm, even if she won't admit it.

It sounds like you have had an interesting 'career'. I've been here, there and everywhere until the last waste of space left and since then a father and a bit of part time work from home.

Thanks for the advice

angelfairy

searching_me wrote: »

is she taking a full feed both jayden and zoe (all be it a fair few years ago with zoe) would not settle if they dont or didnt get a full feed on the one just before you settle them forbed ... jayden has a habit it of falling a sleep in the middle of a feed so have to take the bottle off him and sort of wake him then he finshes the feed ... awkward bu99er :rolleyes: x

she isn't great at taking full bottles at any time of the day, and i too think it would help if she took a full bottle at night.

she is taking domperidone to help empty her stomach and the change in formula has seen her take more, but not always a full bottle.

she is also one for not taking the bottle again after she has stopped to be winded or the like.

i'm at a loss really

Buttonmoons

It's normal for kids to get a temperature, feel unwell after their jabs isn't it? I recall the health visitor mentioning a few days after they can feel unwell, and also over a week later because of the MMR one I think (she got 2). She's been a right grouch today, won't eat, says she is hot, and is crying at the drop of a hat, probably doesn't help that she doesn't have her dummy to soothe herself with.....

OH took her to the park earlier and when she came home she was knackered (Plus the fact she was up half the night last night!) and kept saying she wanted her dummy to sleep on the sofa.....felt like a circus in my head, she kept going on and on and on and ON....

Now if we can crack this fussy eating, and refusing to poop in the toilet we are sorted!

Just realised I don't have enough money in my bank to cover the CT DD that comes off between the 19th and 20th:rolleyes: So OH has to nip by the bank after work tomorrow and put money from his account into mine. I've been meaning to change the DD to his bank for months now, yet I never get round too it, probably because I really hate phoning those sorts of places, tax credits is the worst! They once cut me off because during the security questions, I said Keira's birthday was the 10th of April instead of the 11th (her due date was the 10th,and I went into labour then but she was born at 2am the next day) so I always get a bit confluffled as it was imprinted in my brain for so long! They are meanies!

searching_me

hmmmmm you got a toughy there AF .. you could let her cry for alittle bit then feed her she will tire herself out from the crying and feed .. or what works with mister is play play play til they cant play no more then feed ... being tired really helps x

Krystaltips

Tara, a couple of times Caitlyn's covered me in her entire feed without being unwell, the health visitor said it's probably an air pocket under the milk that forces everything out in one go rather than just coming out as a burp...

Sami_Bee

Tara bringing milk straight back is usually just because of a stuck burp or they've been too greedy

button yes slight temp and grouchy is usual, any worries call nhs direct on 0845 46 47

tia if you're about still try YouTube for feeding positions there's loads on there

I woke ed at 12 after my shower and attempted to changge his nappy in the dark, all was going well until he weed EVERYWHERE just waiting for him to finish feeding now