MSE Parents Club Part 4

ManOnTheMoon

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Its only natural that if you are a worrier/protective then they may have that trait too.
I'm going to tell you off now though... stop saying things are your fault! its so negative - try to think positive

I personally think no facebook is a bit strict but I'm sure some others would agree with you on it
I'm confident that by the time my boys are old enough, I'll have taught them well enough that they won't be naive enough to fall for anything dodgy on the internet but also I think I'll probably set up the account and make sure I know the [assword so I can keep an eye on them!

the type of person I am though if at 16 my mum/dad said I wasn't allowed facebook I'd have just gone and done it anyway - I never have been one to follow orders though:cool:

This thread moves quick! Quicker than me anyway. I must teach myself not to stay up too late. I'm tired and it feels horrible I'm not as alert as I need to be and with a houseful, it's not good. Especially if we play anything, i'm going to get trounced! All quiet-ish watching TV at the moment. Cartoons are my friend

I'd sooner they have my traits than there mothers to be honest. That's me being positive. I'm far from perfect, but i'm not aggressive or negative towards them.

I do blame myself for some things. I always think I should be doing better, like saying 'no' is letting them down. I hate them being unhappy for even a split second.

I worry about the internet as much as I do about life. I know there are not nice people out there. As much as I trust them, influences can be impressionable. I just have to hope i'm more influential. We have good relationships because what we have been through together. I know little about facebook and these other networking sites, just the horror stories I have heard.

I've never been one to follow orders, but that's one trait they don't have, as far as I know... a nasty surprise is likely to hit me one day, but I shall deal with it then. We talk about everything, including the taboo if it comes up, I just have issues with things like facebook.

ManOnTheMoon

searching_me wrote: »

motm i agree with sami i think facebook is abit strict but thats up to you ... if you've installed right from wrong and the fact they can come to you about anything then they'll be ok ... you've done a good job raising them time to have a little faith in the work you did x

You're right, I do need to have more faith. They've never let me down yet, at least not in a major way.

The only times they let me down, even in a non important manner, they've hated me being upset with them and then they've been upset, so that upsets me and.....:rolleyes:

I'll need to maybe be a little less protective at some point. That first step is the hardest though and as Sami says, I may have to have passwords, but then i'd feel like I was not trusting them and we have alot of trust.

I've more issues as a parent than I thought :rolleyes:

ManOnTheMoon

Dribblekitten wrote: »

OH doesn't take baths (but he does shower so doesn't stink!)

Man on the Moon I am in awe - hope you stick around, I'm sure you could give great advice.

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Glad you added the bit in brackets :rotfl:

Advice.....well, we'll see if it's any good, but I shall try if called upon. Most of the advice I could give is basic and predictable, but if it helped one person, then I suppose that's better than not sharing it at all

Sami_Bee

Fritha wrote: »

ooooh that's a gorgeous colour! superb Sami, bloody good tying, it doesn't look like your first time! What did Ed think about it?

Well, I had a fun night, I was specactularly ill. I'll spare you the details but lets put it this way I need to throughly disinfect the bathroom... _pale_

I dyed it myself Dylon Intense violet Ed quite liked it (well stopped crying anyway!) he didn't like it covering his head but I think I had it a bit too tight for it to be comfy on his head so shall keep trying.
Do you thinkyou have food poisoning? sounds bad you poor thing, Hope you're feeling better for 2mo!

SugarSpun wrote: »

I'll invest in some apples I must be drinking 3-4 litres of water every day, I just don't know where it's going

What amused me was that I was complaining about not being able to go, and she gave me something that virtually guarantees to prevent you going. I'm definitely not anaemic, either.

I was told of the other day by my physio for not drinking enough, apparently BFing mum's should be drinking 3-4litres so you're doing well (I know it seems obvious but I didn't think about the fact that my milk is fluid that needs replacing in my body)

SugarSpun wrote: »

I'm going to have to go on a high-prune diet, although I'm also concerned about the effect it'll have on my milk. The infant has absolutely no problems in that regard and if she goes any more often there'll be no point in feeding her because it'll just fall straight through her :rotfl:

I have been having to take Lactulose and it didn't have any noticeable affect on Ed's pooping she HERE for BF friendly solutions

ManOnTheMoon

MrsTine wrote: »

MotM - I think she can volunteer at 16 - it really depends on what charity and what exactly is concerned - she probably won't be able to do "front line" stuff where she'd actually be in contact with people - anything that could basically put her at risk would be out of the question.
That said - but has she thought about St Johns? (No I'm not kidding...) they don't only do local fairs etc but also have a nursing course which could give her some good experience with people in a vulnarable position etc or even if she wants to do some duties as a first aider she would always be under the supervision of another older and experienced first aider - it would just give her some face to face experience of people in different situations that might come in handy later down the line if she wants to do social work.
I wanted to be a social worker many years ago when I finished my A-level equivalents - eventually I decided it wasn't actually what I hoped it would be and accidently ended up in IT :rotfl:

As for social skills - I think it's tough for all single parents at times to be honest... keep coming on here and chatting. You'll be amazed at the level of support and help you can find amongst a bunch of chatty ladies and gent on here when you're having an off day

I hope she can do something. I understand whe won't be able to do frontline work, but she wouldn't want to be stuck in a back room counting pieces of paper and sorting out paper clips either.

Not sure St Johns would be a great idea, she hates the sight of blood. I don't know the full spectrum of what St Johns do, whether they expand into some sort of care roles that doesn't necessarily mean the sight of blood regularly...

I shall keep coming on here, although won't be as much as last couple of days. Seems silly, but I feel like I am neglecting them Especially late at night, as I feel tired today, so it affects today.

It's strange, all the issues that come around with the 8 year olds, even though I have done it 5 times before, I still don't know if i'm getting it right. I had help with some of them at that age mind. Saying that, it's just an example. When the 13 year old hits 16, I won't remember what I am doing now with the 16 year old. I guess each child is individual and needs different things

searching_me

morning ish ... can i come cry... i just done my moth budget and coz ive paid for my provisional and my sisters coming ive had to up my shopping and save a little spending more (and i do mean little) spending money so we can go round town and meadowhall and im left with little to nowt ... i hate being broke i have back up cash but that for xmas ... grrrrrrrr im just gonna have to be careful x

ManOnTheMoon

Well, we support Exeter. 3 games, 1 league defeat and draw and a cup defeat. Saying that, i'm amazed we have hit League One. Two seasons ago, we were Conference. Plus we have played 3 tough teams and in the league, played well. Will likely go down, but who knows!

Sunderland could have a decent season. My only worry would be Steve Bruce jumping ship, as he often does.

Thanks for the offer of the board, but I only have time for this board and that is sometimes limited. Like I say, thanks for the offer.

We got rid of sky sports as we were watching football and I felt it was taking away my time with the girls. They like football, but I feel more at home away from it these days. When I was younger, I was every game on TV kinda guy, now I enjoy watching Lazy Town more, not because I like it (honest!) but because my younger girls love it and the older ones what they like etc. I've got Match Of The Day etc when they are in bed and we'll watch a live game together when the younger ones are in bed, or if on in daytime, the others will play whilst we watch.

They'll probably all grow up and support Torquay or something :rolleyes::rotfl::o

Becles wrote: »

Who do you support? I'm a Sunderland supporter, so I've been through a bit of a rollercoaster with Keane leaving last season, Ellis Short taking full financial control, Ricky Sbragia keeping them up by the skin of his teeth last season (it all hinged on our result and others on the last match!) and now Steve Bruce who's bought in some decent players. They played well yesterday and got three points at Bolton, so I was really happy with that.

If you want to talk about football, you're more than welcome to join my husbands Sunderland board. Although it's mainly Sunderland supporters, there are a few fans of other teams on there just for the chat. Let me know if you want the link.

ManOnTheMoon

tiamai_d wrote: »

I think you are doing a wonderful job, it can't be easy.

As for college, your DD would have more time doing a regular day time course. Most are only 3 days a week and night courses sound great until you see just how much work and study you have to do at home.

Thanks

Do they really have alot of 'homework'. I'm not sure she'd be too impressed with that, if it's the case, although if she was home here, she liked to bring her homework to me when at school. Not that I was much use. My learning part of the brain died years ago :rotfl:

Glamazon

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Bl00dy baby hats!!! Whoever uses them I had half a dozen little outfits with hats plus someone bought me a pack of 4 hats and he wore one once :rotfl: in the hot, hot hospital on his first night! He did look cute though


My work sensibly gave me money - before and after the baby was born :T


Glam - way back when I did a cracking hospital bag list for the pregnancy thread (combined everybodys suggestions)...I may still have a copy if you need it

Did drop a few hints that I'd rather have the money - what I could have done with £100!
Forgot to mention the one good thing - A Humphreys corner baby box which she filled with stuff. The box empty was £18 though!

Please post the list for us on the pg thread - I spent an evening going back thru the old threads and compiling my list based on what I could find. I did post it but am sure I probably missed stuff off

Sami_Bee

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

This thread moves quick! Quicker than me anyway. I must teach myself not to stay up too late. I'm tired and it feels horrible I'm not as alert as I need to be and with a houseful, it's not good. Especially if we play anything, i'm going to get trounced! All quiet-ish watching TV at the moment. Cartoons are my friend

I'd sooner they have my traits than there mothers to be honest. That's me being positive. I'm far from perfect, but i'm not aggressive or negative towards them.

I do blame myself for some things. I always think I should be doing better, like saying 'no' is letting them down. I hate them being unhappy for even a split second. Life isn't all rosey its your job as parent to teach them that and how to cope with it no parent likes seeing their babies upset but we just have to be strong for them

I worry about the internet as much as I do about life. I know there are not nice people out there. As much as I trust them, influences can be impressionable. I just have to hope i'm more influential. We have good relationships because what we have been through together. I know little about facebook and these other networking sites, just the horror stories I have heard. The best way to find out more is to get on there yourself and have a play around, its quite complicated at first but you get used to it

I've never been one to follow orders, but that's one trait they don't have, as far as I know... a nasty surprise is likely to hit me one day, but I shall deal with it then. We talk about everything, including the taboo if it comes up, I just have issues with things like facebook.

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

You're right, I do need to have more faith. They've never let me down yet, at least not in a major way.

The only times they let me down, even in a non important manner, they've hated me being upset with them and then they've been upset, so that upsets me and.....:rolleyes:

I'll need to maybe be a little less protective at some point. That first step is the hardest though and as Sami says, I may have to have passwords, but then i'd feel like I was not trusting them and we have alot of trust.

I've more issues as a parent than I thought :rolleyes:

I'm sure if they are as you describe they will be happy to be open and show you there's nothing to worry about.
They sound like wonderful girls!