MSE Parents Club Part 4

Savvy_Sue

redmel1621 wrote: »

I always feel guilty if I consider one of the boys doing something and not the other:o

But you have to recognise that they are different, and different ages. It's better to do different things and leave the older things for them to look forward to. Plus it's nice having a younger one as the 'big boy' of the family too.

Plus there will always be age limits and height limits, and the younger ones might as well learn to deal with it now. Sorry, that's the wicked mum talking ...

DS2 has always followed very close behind DS1 developmentally, but only because I haven't been able to stop him! Once DS2 could read, he had the attitude that anything DS1 could read, he could read too. Then they both started getting hairy bits at roughly the same time! :eek: There's 2.5 years between them!

But I did try to keep some things 'special' for DS1, and then again for DS2 - DS3 had to wait until he was old enough.

Sorry, rambling, probably need to feed the crabby ...

redmel1621

elle_gee wrote: »

Mel, there is 17 months between me and my younger sister. There were very few things I was allowed to do and my sister wasn't and it caused a lot of resentment from me and smugness from her - call it immature but we were about 8 at the time! (PGL was a school organised thing for all Y6s so she got her turn the following year).

We don't intend to have babies close together, but we always said that if that's the way things happened we would always treat them differently and have a clear distinction between them and what they were allowed to do. You can always treat your younger one to something else at the same time, just not the same thing iyswim else it loses the "special-ness" for the older one

Thank You elle - That is such an insightful post, and definitely something for me to consider when making decisions regarding them...I suppose it is because as I was growing up, my older brother was allowed to do everything and I was allowed to do nothing....(there was a 5yr gap), but even now he is still the favourite. ('Golden underpants' we refer to him as!!) I think I am just trying too hard to make sure ds2 doesn't think there is any favouritism going on.

Thank You again:)

redmel1621

emlou2009 wrote: »

our new house is quite cottagey so has old fashioned doors that dont fit doorway bouncers which is a big pile of poop cos seth loved his. in the old argos catalogue they did one on a frame, but in the new one its been replaced by a swing, how annoying! does anyone know where i can get one on a frame?

Em, when I was little my mum or dad? got a big hook from a diy store and put it in the ceiling thy then hung my bouncer from that....probably had to get an extra length of chain but they said it was far better than it being in the doorway anyway, as I wasn't in the way and no worries abou tthe door shutting on me:)

Savvy_Sue

BTW, I have just been to the HMRC site and your offspring can earn up to £6475 each this tax year before they need to pay any income tax on it. Although that would include any interest earned on their savings, which normally would be paid gross because you'll have filled in a form to say their income is below the personal tax allowance.

searching_me

anyone watching bbc3? x

elle_gee

searching_me wrote: »

anyone watching bbc3? x

Yup, though Rhys is also squealing in my ear..

redmel1621

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

But you have to recognise that they are different, and different ages. It's better to do different things and leave the older things for them to look forward to. Plus it's nice having a younger one as the 'big boy' of the family too.

Plus there will always be age limits and height limits, and the younger ones might as well learn to deal with it now. Sorry, that's the wicked mum talking ...

DS2 has always followed very close behind DS1 developmentally, but only because I haven't been able to stop him! Once DS2 could read, he had the attitude that anything DS1 could read, he could read too. Then they both started getting hairy bits at roughly the same time! :eek: There's 2.5 years between them!

But I did try to keep some things 'special' for DS1, and then again for DS2 - DS3 had to wait until he was old enough.

Sorry, rambling, probably need to feed the crabby ...

Thanks Savvy....
I am often torn between allowing the older one to 'be older' and trying to make sure the younger one doesn't feel left out or less loved/valued etc...
None of this applies to ds3 as he is 6yrs younger than ds2 so probably have little idea of anything that the two older ones do anyway:)

searching_me

elle i really dont think it was PND i just think she was i silly teenager who thought it would be easy :rolleyes: x

scruffy96uk

SM did ur OH do something with his hair? That was you was it?

money_maker wrote: »

Jasmine had several teething bibs !! Best things ever invented (BTW - its the 2 at the bottom, not the ones with rings)

Those bottom 2 are from poundland.

I've only just caught up I've not been on all day, my sis and the kids were round then I was into see my dad. You lot have chatted non stop I think!!!!

Sami_Bee

searching_me wrote: »

forgot to say jayden did he first proper chuckle today ... and on the hair washing matter i wash mine every 2-4 days depending how often i leave the house x

me too I can go to 4 days if I tie it up n just wash my fringe after that it feels gross and itchy

emlou2009 wrote: »

our new house is quite cottagey so has old fashioned doors that dont fit doorway bouncers which is a big pile of poop cos seth loved his. in the old argos catalogue they did one on a frame, but in the new one its been replaced by a swing, how annoying! does anyone know where i can get one on a frame?

there's the jumperoo thing but they are about £80 I think :undecided
oh oh oh scrap that look http://www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplayA_102_10751_-1_14055_14245_10001_14055 it doesn't include the frame but says you can buy it seperate