MSE Parents Club Part 4

searching_me

scruffy96uk wrote: »

SM did ur OH do something with his hair? That was you was it?
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twas me ... yer he agree to have it done he said the reason he was being an !!!! because he said i was making feel useless and that it was his fault he couldnt get a job ... male pride :rolleyes: x

elle_gee

SM, maybe that's why they said teen mums are three times more likely to have PND. Three times more likely to be labelled with it or maybe cos they often have their own mums watching over them so it's picked up quicker and there's less opportunity/ability to cover it up like older mums might..

That's just me musing - not meant to cause offence, I hope everyone understands

scruffy, how is your dad today?

searching_me

elle_gee wrote: »

SM, maybe that's why they said teen mums are three times more likely to have PND. Three times more likely to be labelled with it or maybe cos they often have their own mums watching over them so it's picked up quicker and there's less opportunity/ability to cover it up like older mums might..

That's just me musing - not meant to cause offence, I hope everyone understands

exactly what i thought ... to quick to label x

r.mac_2

evening all

MFD - I wash my hair every day aswell.

Red - I went to brownie camp and then guide camp when I was little. I loved them both, but my younger sister chose not to go until she was quite old as she was a much more shy child. My mum was offended when I didn't want to call home as I was having too much fun so we established our rule of no news is good news and a call home signalled something was wrong or I wasn't having fun.

right - LO not very settled this evening - little cries coming from her room every now and again, poor wee thing.......

scruffy96uk

Elle he is ok today, they have started intense physio with him now so he is really tired. He is also very happy coz he has got his much beloved internet back thanx to me and OH, well OH really as he gave him his notebook and dongle as his ward does not have hospital tv/internet. So ha now got something to kurb his boredom!!! thanx for asking x x

Savvy_Sue

redmel1621 wrote: »

Thanks Savvy....
I am often torn between allowing the older one to 'be older' and trying to make sure the younger one doesn't feel left out or less loved/valued etc...
None of this applies to ds3 as he is 6yrs younger than ds2 so probably have little idea of anything that the two older ones do anyway:)

there's a whole 'middle child syndrome', apparently. Nursery alerted me to it when DS2 was going.

I had the worst of ALL worlds, I am the middle one of 5 but there is a bigger gap between me and the 'big ones' (because Mum had a miscarriage, I discovered when I had mine!)

I was always a 'little one' when the 'big ones' got to go off and do anything interesting, but as the biggest of the little ones I was expected to look after them / behave better than them etc. And as soon as little sister joined me anywhere, she made FAR more of an impact than I ever did so I was promptly known as HER sister! :eek:

Anyway, I just did my best to see that each of mine did activities which they wanted to do, rather than the things their brothers were doing. I also insisted that they didn't go into the same tutor groups at secondary school (the norm was to put siblings together, which I just find barbaric!)

Interestingly, DS2 has gone to the same Uni as DS1, but doing a different subject. I don't think either feels overshadowed by the other, even when they were going to the same societies.

Becles

I usually wash my hair every 2-3 days as it starts to look greasy after 3 days. When I've been ill, I know I'm feeling better when I want to get in the shower and wash my hair

Charlotte really hates having her hair washed. She screams her head off in the bath and you'd think I was torturing her with the noise she makes. She also hates having her hair towel dried and her arms and legs are thrashing about trying to get rid of me with the towel. I've now perfected the art of wrapping her in a big towel like a straightjacket and perching on the loo seat with her jammed between my thighs, so I can get her hair towel dried and keep her limbs still. She still screams her head off though

scruffy96uk

Becles wrote: »

Charlotte really hates having her hair washed. She screams her head off in the bath and you'd think I was torturing her with the noise she makes. She also hates having her hair towel dried and her arms and legs are thrashing about trying to get rid of me with the towel. I've now perfected the art of wrapping her in a big towel like a straightjacket and perching on the loo seat with her jammed between my thighs, so I can get her hair towel dried and keep her limbs still. She still screams her head off though

Thank god I'm not the only one, I feel like such a cruel mum when it's hair wash time, I've tried different ways under the shower different cups I even bought a shampoo shield but she refuses to wear it!!! And the towel drying is the same here!!!!

elle_gee

Hehe, we used to call hair washing time "mother's revenge" - dunno where that came from but we used to squeal everytime. In the end, hairwashing became Dad's job cos he wouldn't take any funny business so we'd just stay very still or get drown!

scruffy96uk

elle_gee wrote: »

Hehe, we used to call hair washing time "mother's revenge" - dunno where that came from but we used to squeal everytime. In the end, hairwashing became Dad's job cos he wouldn't take any funny business so we'd just stay very still or get drown!

So you obviously sat very very still coz your still here to tell the tale!!!