MSE Parents Club Part 4

MrsTinks

As I said - it's your life

Ultimately we're all different - whilst I'd never scream and shout at hubby or "go off on one" I've snapped at him - but I always stop myself straight away turn round and take a deep breath then say "sorry I've had a crap day, it's not your fault I'm just in a sh!tty mood. Let's try that again shall we?" and usually I get a hugh and a kiss and worst case I have a little cry and that's the end of it...
In return I'd expect that he didn't naff off when the going didn't suit him If he did then he'd not get the chance to do it a second time... I took an ex back once thinking he was the love of my life... Needless to say he wasn't

astonsmummy

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I'm sure mine was 'only' about £30 when I got mine




What Sue said
We don't know very much of the story and as Tine says, it's your life.
From the little I know I personally don't think I would take him back BUT I'm not you and I don't know how strongly you feel for him and him for you. Also what has he done while you've been apart? has he been moping around thinking what have I done I love AM or has he been living the life of reily and now needs his washing done?

Mine was only £17 or was it £23, i know it was cheap anyway.

No he's not been living the life of reiley, he's been at his mums, so he dont need me to do his washing lol and we've seen him almost everyday apart from the first few days.

I dont know what it is with us, but we cant seem to keep away from eachother, but I'm starting to think is it worth it all, the same thing happened this time last year, we split, I found out I was pregnant with ryan and we got back together 2 months after.

Things were fine until just recently, oh god I sound like i should be on JK! :rolleyes:

searching_me

astonsmummy wrote: »

Mine was only £17 or was it £23, i know it was cheap anyway.

No he's not been living the life of reiley, he's been at his mums, so he dont need me to do his washing lol and we've seen him almost everyday apart from the first few days.

I dont know what it is with us, but we cant seem to keep away from eachother, but I'm starting to think is it worth it all, the same thing happened this time last year, we split, I found out I was pregnant with ryan and we got back together 2 months after.

Things were fine until just recently, oh god I sound like i should be on JK! :rolleyes:

dont do it ... we've all had problems with men at some point ... but sounds to me and again this is my JUST opinon you only got together because of ryan not because you love each other and if thats the case its always gonna crumble x

astonsmummy

searching_me wrote: »

dont do it ... we've all had problems with men at some point ... but sounds to me and again this is my JUST opinon you only got together because of ryan not because you love each other and if thats the case its always gonna crumble x

LOL NEVER! I do have some shame!
Maybe thats the case for him, but it wasn't the case for me, I always loved him.

Savvy_Sue

You might find it helpful to go to Relate or similar together, and hopefully work out how to stop it all blowing up again. Successful relationships are hard work, and if you're feel like PND is creeping up on you again then it's even harder, for both of you.

searching_me

astonsmummy wrote: »

LOL NEVER! I do have some shame!
Maybe thats the case for him, but it wasn't the case for me, I always loved him.

sorry if i offended it its just you said you got back together whn you was pregnant but if you or he or both of you really wanted to be together why would it take til you was pregnant before you were x

astonsmummy

searching_me wrote: »

sorry if i offended it its just you said you got back together whn you was pregnant but if you or he or both of you really wanted to be together why would it take til you was pregnant before you were x

Cos I only found out I was prengnant about 10 days after we split

EDITED TO ADD: we were still seeing eachother everyday when we split then, and for the 2 months before we got back together too.

astonsmummy

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

You might find it helpful to go to Relate or similar together, and hopefully work out how to stop it all blowing up again. Successful relationships are hard work, and if you're feel like PND is creeping up on you again then it's even harder, for both of you.

Yeah he suffers with MH problmes himself (ex army) and has been going through a rough time of it himself lately too, he's lost 2 jobs since Ryan was born and I do wonder if there is any such thing as blokes having PND, i'm not trying to make excuses for him, was just wondering if it's exclusive to Mums.

searching_me

and why did you break up? ... and has it changed or are you sat asking the same questions everytime you argue or he walks out ... i know its not my business and again im not telling you what to do but in a relationship shouldn it be equal and most important shouldnt you be happy not thinking is he gonna walk out ... this must be very hard for you but at the end of the day your kids need a happy mummy even if it is without your OH not being there x

Sami_Bee

aww another baby has arrived http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.html?p=23650887&postcount=2001