MSE Parents Club Part 4

tarajayne

OH's friend and his wife, kids are visiting about 4pm, not my friends though so I really can't be bothered!

Hope your friends ok Sami. X

searching_me

hide in your bedroon tara x

astonsmummy

searching_me wrote: »

right opinons ...i need a form of id now do i get a citzern id card for £21 or provisional driving licence for £50 as i hopefully will be going for my test next year ....... i dont know???? x

£50 for a prov licence! :eek::eek::eek:

astonsmummy

Ok, quick question? so am I stupid for getting back with OH?

Savvy_Sue

weezl74 wrote: »

if it were me the nanny would be doing the 5 a day and I'd look after the kids. I don't actually find child care that much of a strain. But 5 a day forever sounds like a prison sentence!

:rotfl: wot, even the monsters you had the other day? But I'm with you on this one ... :rotfl:

BrunoM wrote: »

Those of you who've BFed and then weaned the baby off, did you go to bottles (of cow's milk or etc), or straight to cups? At what ages?

We must have gone from BF to cups, because none of mine had bottles. Don't remember what ages, but they didn't have cows milk until they were over a year old, to reduce the likelihood of eczema - DH has suffered all his life. We were giving calcium supplements once the BFs were being reduced.

searching_me wrote: »

right opinons ...i need a form of id now do i get a citzern id card for £21 or provisional driving licence for £50 as i hopefully will be going for my test next year ....... i dont know???? x

Provisional gets my vote, if you have any plans for driving at all. As Sami said, there will be places which don't accept the Citizen card.

MrsTinks

astonsmummy wrote: »

Ok, quick question? so am I stupid for getting back with OH?

It's your life...

But being as he's decided twice now that he didn't want the package deal I'd certainly tell him where to get off if it were me... but ultimately I am not you

Savvy_Sue

astonsmummy wrote: »

Ok, quick question? so am I stupid for getting back with OH?

I would never call anyone stupid for the decisions they make about their relationships.

If you were my friend IRL, I would be asking you what's changed? If I remember right, he left for some reason rather then you throwing him out. So why does he want to come back? Because he loves you and the boys and can't bear to live apart from them, or because he's got a cushy number with you and can't cope on his own? You don't have to answer those questions here, but you do have to know the answers in your heart if you don't want a repeat performance every 6 months.

astonsmummy

If i'm being tottally honest I sort of forced his hand, I'm actually quite highly strung, and we both have our faults, but I seem to blame him for everything.
Dont get me wrong,he can be an !!!! lol

It was basically a case of me kicking off big time and him probably having enough of it, I am feeling a bit 'mental' at the moment and am going to book in with the docs on Monday, I can feel the PND creeping up so want to nip it in the bud.

I dont know if he truly loves me, he must do to put up with me, he is good friends with my neighbours BF and he told him he loves us but had to leave to give us some space and decide what was going to happen.

Maybe i'm stupid, but I love the bones of him and cant bear being away from him, oh I dunno, i'm prbably making the wrong decision as always, but I have to go with my heart.

searching_me

astonsmummy wrote: »

Ok, quick question? so am I stupid for getting back with OH?

not stupid no id never say that and i understand why you want to be with him ... but my opinon is if h can leave twice he can leave again and then you kids have to see there mum upset again ... but as i say only my opinon ... im guessing you think the same or you would asked us... people only ask peoples opinon when they know the answer but dont like it x

Sami_Bee

astonsmummy wrote: »

£50 for a prov licence! :eek::eek::eek:

I'm sure mine was 'only' about £30 when I got mine

astonsmummy wrote: »

Ok, quick question? so am I stupid for getting back with OH?

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

I would never call anyone stupid for the decisions they make about their relationships.

If you were my friend IRL, I would be asking you what's changed? If I remember right, he left for some reason rather then you throwing him out. So why does he want to come back? Because he loves you and the boys and can't bear to live apart from them, or because he's got a cushy number with you and can't cope on his own? You don't have to answer those questions here, but you do have to know the answers in your heart if you don't want a repeat performance every 6 months.

What Sue said
We don't know very much of the story and as Tine says, it's your life.
From the little I know I personally don't think I would take him back BUT I'm not you and I don't know how strongly you feel for him and him for you. Also what has he done while you've been apart? has he been moping around thinking what have I done I love AM or has he been living the life of reily and now needs his washing done?