MSE Parents Club Part 4

MrsTinks

cazscoob wrote: »

hi all just to say hi and im fine, well not really?? everything has come out today and i have actually scared myself with how bad i have got. im convincing myself that things are soo bad and wrong that i cant see light at the end of the tunnel. im pushing OH away and he is trying so hard to sort things out between us. i didnt sleep last night due to 1) me convincing myself that Oh is cheating again and 2) charlie was coughing and i was terrified incase something happend to him during the night.
today is the day i realise i have very bad PND and i need help, i have held it together for all this time but today i have crumbled and i know if i dont get help now that i will probably loose everything.
OH is going to phone the doctors tom for me as i know something needs to be done, i just cant face making the step to phone.
hope your all ok and thanks for being there x

Awww caz we're always here hun you know that
Your DH and you need to be totally open and honest with eachother right now and he needs to understand that for a while at least you are going to need to reassure yourself that he's not cheating on you again and let you access his phone when you feel the need to.
Keep talking to each other and come on here any time you need to talk to anyone

feelinggood_2

Caz, well done on admitting how you feel. Things will get better. Be open and honest and you'll get the help you need and deserve. Don't fib llike I did. Sorry for short reply, trying to feed baby and OH.

cazscoob

thanks ladies, i know ive just been getting on with it but its really been messing with my head? i had to go out couldnt talk to OH and sat in the car and my sisters texting him, have talked but i still have lots in me, am scared if i start talking im not going to be able to stop? am having an early night as im getting snappy being so tired so thanks again x

money_maker_3

Caz it took till Jasmine was nearly 6 months before I admitted that I had PND. It took a while to get sorted, but it was worth it.. PM me if you want to hun.:)

scruffy96uk

Caz ((((((hugs)))))) (((((((hugs))))))) and more ((((((hugs)))))) you've taken the 1st brave step and admitted you need help and I hope you get all the help and support you need

SM your dog is lovely, El use to always gurggle then giggle and now she just chases him around everywhere teasing him!!! Usually with food.

It's my mums birthday today so she was round for her tea as she was just going to have chicken ding for her birthday tea as dad is still in hospital so we had curry then yummy bithday cake.

((((((hugs)))))) to anyone else who needs them.

emlou2009

MrsTine wrote: »

We looked at money tonight and he's got about £800-900 spare a month at the moment thanks to the mortgage dropping loads after the fixed rate period ended so we're going to get the joint account set up and whatever he has left at the end of each month will go into the "pot" - that will help me pay the bills and so on and any left over will go towards overpaying our debts - I'm going to start doing some extra selfemployed work to supplement my maternity pay... If we're really lucky and careful we can afford for me to stay home the full year! Fingers crossed!

it looks weird to see you putting alexandra instead of roo!
£900 is more than my OH's wages :eek: i wish we were in a position to call that spare!!

caz, i remember you saying a while ago a couple of times you thought you had PND, i'm glad your OH is going to help you get some help for it, if you're going through it together it will be easier for you both. :grouphug:

i might have to kill OH, he's brought seth downstairs and let him fall asleep on him. i dont think we're ever going to get this child out of our bed and sleep!! lots of murderous looks are going across the room atm...

redmel1621

Will be back shortly but just wanted to say

HUGS to Caz

Em - I would also go with the cot close to bed option, as it is not Seth's fault that he has got used to being all snuggled up with mummy and daddy...and it seems cruel to suddenly have him feeling pushed out...iykwim (although I would only do it as a short term thing and get him quickly used to moving further away from the bed)

Tine - That is great if you can take the full year off, I remember it is something you were worrying about back on the preg thread:)


Had a very overtired baby this eve, was tears and tantrums while having bed time bottle, but he is now ast asleep and I am hoping he stays that way....every hour on the hour, he woke up last inght!!!! I am shattered. Just off to get big boys to bed.

Mel x

scruffy96uk

Just been on the grabbit thread and ASOS have some bargains. I might get El croc wellies

astonsmummy

cazscoob wrote: »

hi all just to say hi and im fine, well not really?? everything has come out today and i have actually scared myself with how bad i have got. im convincing myself that things are soo bad and wrong that i cant see light at the end of the tunnel. im pushing OH away and he is trying so hard to sort things out between us. i didnt sleep last night due to 1) me convincing myself that Oh is cheating again and 2) charlie was coughing and i was terrified incase something happend to him during the night.
today is the day i realise i have very bad PND and i need help, i have held it together for all this time but today i have crumbled and i know if i dont get help now that i will probably loose everything.
OH is going to phone the doctors tom for me as i know something needs to be done, i just cant face making the step to phone.
hope your all ok and thanks for being there x

Oh hun, (((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) remember that admitting it is the first step to recovery (sorry to make it sound like an addiction or something but I beleive thats true)
I suffered very bad with DS1, it finally came to a head when he was about 7 months old.
You will be fine in time hun, just try and take it easy xx

astonsmummy

feelinggood wrote: »

Caz, well done on admitting how you feel. Things will get better. Be open and honest and you'll get the help you need and deserve. Don't fib llike I did. Sorry for short reply, trying to feed baby and OH.

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