Perfect Wedding Present?

callansdad

I know of a wedding a couple of months ago and someone that they invited didnt buy from the wedding list. It wouldn't have mattered but there wasn't any expensive items on it.

We are getting wed in June and we told everyone that we would rather have money than presents. We have been together for over 5 years and lived together for 4 1/2yrs and have 2 little ones so we pretty much have everything that we need.

Some people gave us a funny look when we told them so we said you can buy us a present if you really want too but we aren't bothered if you give nothing. At the end of the day there is nothing that we need (apart from a new roof). My father joked that he should get us some plasterboard and nails, i thought it was a pretty good idea.

There will be a secure box at our wedding dance for small donations which we will use towards the roof. The idea behind it is that i know that some people can't afford to give much and if all they want to give is a fiver then they can and no one will never know if they gave anything/or how much they did give. It will be anonymous so people may be more comfortable with that.

VickyA_2

callansdad wrote:

There will be a secure box at our wedding dance for small donations which we will use towards the roof. The idea behind it is that i know that some people can't afford to give much and if all they want to give is a fiver then they can and no one will never know if they gave anything/or how much they did give. It will be anonymous so people may be more comfortable with that.

Apparently (please correct me if I'm wrong) in Italy it's tradition - or was in the early 70s! - that the groom's tie is cut up and "sold" to the guests. In return the guests who receive - through their own choice - part of the tie give a cash donation to the couple. My dad still has part of his friend's tie that he got in Castel Gondolfo 30 years ago (a nice, expensive Yves Saint Laurent tie apparently!).

Rachie_B

never heard that tradition but in some countries money is pinned to the brides dress lol

Noozan

Becles wrote:

The bride tutted when she opened it and sighed "it's not from the list, perhaps it'll do for the guest room". I felt like smacking her one!

How rude! Being the tempestuous soul that I am, I'd have taken it back from her and whacked her with it and tell her "There, that will give you something to sigh about!" GRR! :mad:

Ruby76

Wow - Ive never really thought about this. I thought that putting a gift list in invites was the norm. I have been to several weddings recently and all put gift lists in thier invites and never thought anything more about it.

I think putting a gift list in an evening invite is cheeky and wouldnt dream of doing that

nelly_2

trigger_mike wrote:

we are getting in june and also have everything we need, we put a note in the invites asking for money towards are honeymoon which most people are o.k with though we have had a couple of family members moan saying it was a cheak, this has really angerd me and i feel like say sod ya then don't bother coming!

same here but no one moaned at me cos they know i didnt give a !!!!!!

I didnt want 184 toasters and a towel

if it was the other way around i'd much prefer to be asked for cash no thinking no shopping excellent result

rainee

we need a loft conversion so when we get married in august we are having a 'materials list'
our builder will give us a list of what we need amounts and prices and we will set up a new savings account for our guests to put in anything they like. £5 would pay for a sheet of plaster board and we need say 40 sheets. we would when they go in take a photo and mark their names on it so they know even the smallest of money has produced something we desparately need!
unusual but all our friends and family think its a great idea.
what can £5 buy these days??

ms_london

A friend of mine put their website link on the invite, which then had details of how to get to the reception/church, places to stay & also the gift registry - a lot more classy then an actual gift list in the invite - thats just cheeky!!

I think the reality is that weddings cost so much nowadays, that most couples probably ask for money so that they can pay some of the debt back!! hehe!!

I am a long way off from getting married (esp since I'm single hehe!!), but I know that I want a simple wedding, with close friends & family - I would rather have a luxurious honeymoon so that I can spend some time with my OH rather than spend £20,000 on one day!!

xx

ms_london

sk101 wrote:

Lots of you will have digital cameras so if you could let us have a copy of your images on CD or email them to us after the wedding that would be fantastic. 35mm film and APS can also be put onto CD or made into e-photos at the time of processing. Our intention is to set up a website and to share the images with all of you. We will then be able to make up our own unique wedding album using the photographs you have so kindly shared.

Aaaaw. This is such a nice idea!!! Esp since most people do have a digi camera, so easy to email. Well done - must remember this!! xx

nelly_2

rainee wrote:

what can £5 buy these days??

Tea coffe sugar and milk for the lads to have a brew