Perfect Wedding Present?

tee_pee_2

my SIL got married and was in a similar situation as yourselves (got what they need) and they did a poem saying got all we want and come to our special day blah blah and if you want make a donation to our kitchen fund we would be delighted.

Obviously it rhymed and was a lot better than that but you get the idea. I thought it was a quirkly way to bring up an issue which no one likes to mention and did it in a lighthearted way. They got mostly cash/cheques.

HTH

cheekymole

Rachie_B wrote:

would you rather a "poem" or letter asking for cash instead ? :eek:

cash could be spent on anything ,at least with a giftlist you can SEE what you are buying

i prefer to buy a gift rather than give money

I'd prefer nothing, getting married isn't all about getting presents it's about making vows to someone for the rest of you life

Wizwoo

To be honest I'm always quite relieved to find a list with an invite. Makes things far simpler.
Is it a generational thing you think?

cheekymole

Wizwoo wrote:

To be honest I'm always quite relieved to find a list with an invite. Makes things far simpler.
Is it a generational thing you think?

possibly but I'm not sure which generation that puts me in

stumpjumper

I really hate gift lists so we're not including one with the invitations. However, we have made a list with Argos with a variety of items of various values and vouchers and have told our parents about it so they can give it out if anyone asks. We're not doing it for the presents, and frankly if someone gets us something we don't want or need there's always ebay!

Rachie_B

cheekymole wrote:

I'd prefer nothing, getting married isn't all about getting presents it's about making vows to someone for the rest of you life

exactly ! but sadly for many couples it IS about the big "party " and loadsa gifts

wizwoo im 27 so not exactly old lol and i dont like giftlists etc in with the invites

we were invited to a wedding (evening reception only ) once ,we knew the couple, but not hugely well

out dropped a huuuuuuuge giftlist with really expensive stuff on it :eek:

Becles

My brother kept pestering me for our gift list. We only made due to his pressure and to get the free £50 from Debenhams! I hate lists really and I think there is only my brother who has looked at it so far. We didn't put a list in the invites, and nobody else has asked if we have one. Most people are aware we want to decorate though through general conversation, and although we haven't specifically said we want DIY vouchers, people have hinted that is what they are buying us!

When I kept saying I hadn't made the list, my borther said out of all the wedding plans, him and his wife liked making the list best. I thought that was awful.

I've also been invited to a wedding where they had all really expensive things on the list, like a Royal Doulton dinner service where it cost £20 for one plate. I would have felt crap turning up with one plate!

I didn't have a lot of money and couldn't really afford the things on the list. Instead I saw a pretty duvet cover and pillowcases in cream, which would go with nearly any decor so I bought that. The bride tutted when she opened it and sighed "it's not from the list, perhaps it'll do for the guest room". I felt like smacking her one!

VickyA_2

Becles wrote:

The bride tutted when she opened it and sighed "it's not from the list, perhaps it'll do for the guest room". I felt like smacking her one!

How incredibly rude :eek: I'm horrified at that! I hope that I don't turn into that sort of bridezilla!

As for the Royal Doulton at £20 per plate, I was invited to a similar wedding. Their list was at Debenhams, so I went in to have a look at what was available. The prices of some things was hideous - as were the things that they wanted. Although I wanted to get them something they wanted, in the same vein I wasn't going to buy something that I disliked.

sk101

Here is what we put into our invitations along with directions to the venue and possible places to stay. We wanted to explain that we didn't expect gifts but that we understood that some people would want to give them. We also wanted to ask people to bring their cameras because we are not having an official wedding photographer. Several people have commented on how much they liked the wording.

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Your presence at our wedding is more important to us than your presents, but many people have already asked if we have a gift list. As we have now been living together for nearly three years, there really are no household items we need. However, if you would like to mark the occasion with a gift we have provided details of a 'Trailfinders' wedding list which we have opened for our honeymoon which you may wish to make a contribution to. We would also love it if you could help capture our special day by bringing your cameras to the wedding and then sharing your photographs with us.

Lots of you will have digital cameras so if you could let us have a copy of your images on CD or email them to us after the wedding that would be fantastic. 35mm film and APS can also be put onto CD or made into e-photos at the time of processing. Our intention is to set up a website and to share the images with all of you. We will then be able to make up our own unique wedding album using the photographs you have so kindly shared.

Rachie_B

Becles wrote:

I didn't have a lot of money and couldn't really afford the things on the list. Instead I saw a pretty duvet cover and pillowcases in cream, which would go with nearly any decor so I bought that. The bride tutted when she opened it and sighed "it's not from the list, perhaps it'll do for the guest room". I felt like smacking her one!

:eek: :mad: OMG i WOULD have smacked her one :rotfl: