Perfect Wedding Present?

smokey112

thanks for your replies

We dont have a cheque book so we dont have that option MrsB

I know that I shouldnt feel pressured into giving if I am not going

I think I will just wait till next week and send a with some money.

Ang
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Rachie_B

i agree i wouldnt give anything if i wasnt going esp if its "just" a work colleague and not someone who you are particularly friendly with outside of work?!

cattie

Why not get her a gift voucher? When big sums of cash are not involved they always feel more acceptable to me.

If you got one from M&S then they could choose to put it towards something for the home or perhaps a nice bottle of wine or bubbly to celebrate when they have finished the work on the house.

I loathe people saying they prefer cash. It's so vulgar!

tee_pee_2

I wouldn't send a gift if I wasn't going to the wedding, but if you feel you couldn't be that hard faced then def only send £10.

When I got married loads of people didn't bring gifts, you will be very surprised how many people don't give anything - and attend all day !! Anyway I am getting distracted, £20 is too much.

Debenhams do ornaments of weddings days and angel things, they are very nice got one for my dd christening and it was £9.00

If you have a store card bill comes in 56 days , and if you don't have one open one get 10% and close it when the bill is paid. :T
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smokey112

Thanks again for all of your replies.

I have probably done her an injustice re asking for money - we have assumed that that is what she wants as she doesnt need anything.

I dont socialise a lot with her now - did when we where younger about 14 yrs ago but we have quite a good relationship as we have had a lot of the same life experiences.

I think I will get her M & S vouchers - better than money and means she can put it towards something. I told her today that I would send her card onto her as she stops today.

Thanks all

Ang

broke_mary

hi

i'm new to the thread usually a old styler.

i am hoping you can give me some advise on wedding gifts. we are getting married in august and are sorting out invitations. we have been together 10 years and have got everything we need. we would love to be able to ask for money to go towards re-vamping the kitchen but don't know how to ask. i have been reading on another web site NOT to put a note in with the invites but know people that have.

HELP we don't know what to do

thanks

Debras_Angel

I personally won't give money and get wound up by getting an invitation with this request but I'm happy to give vouchers.

Do you know what kitchen company you want to use and ask for vouchers for that company.

Most people are comfortable with giving vouchers.

Cheers

Debs

TraceB

when we got married (7 years ago now!) we put an information pack in with the invites (which included directions to the venue, a map, tel numbers & prices of nearby hotels, taxi tel numbers & also wedding gift details) that way the wedding list didn't stand out too much!!

i agree - find out which kitchen company you want to use and ask for vouchers. people will understand as you have been together for 10 years.

congratulations by the way - i hope the day goes well!

Heth_2

I'd also ask for vouchers for a specific shop if I was you, and definitely say that you want to use them for a new kitchen so people feel they are contributing to a specific thing. I wouldn't be terribly impressed by a 'request' for money and no idea what it was for.
When we married a year ago we had a very traditional list as we were setting out first home up together. We put the details in the information pack even though I'm not that convinced about this. All the weddings we had been to for both families and friends had done the same, so I think this was acceptable for our guests, for other circles it might not be.

emmadibbs

When we got married we were broke and asked if people could contribute a tenner towards there meal instead of buying a gift. We got congratulated on that one by loads of people who said it made a change from tea towels and irons!! It just made life a lot easier. Why anyone would get upset with the request I don't know tere is absolutely no point giving you stuff you don't need or want!! I suggest putting together a nice letter with a bit of humour to it (maybe a poem) and sending it out with the invites. Of course if the company you get to do the kitchen will set up an account for you then great.

While I think about it one of my distant(ish) relatives got married a few years ago and they were both very much into Gospel singing and church. One of their guests was from Jamaica and at the reception she stood up and said it was tradition there to give money rather than presents and the money was pinned to the brides dress. She started it off with £50 and everyone followed suit!! Quite a spectacle really and people can give £5 if that's all they can afford.