Perfect Wedding Present?

sophiedb

rammy007 wrote:

talking of wedding presents,we SHOULD have been going to a wedding on sat ...(snip)... was told the wedding had been called off 3 weeks ago

*lol* That was lucky!! Sad, but still

To everyone in general, thank you very very much for all your ideas!! I now have a fantastic list to present to the guys - and it's payday, so maybe they'll even be feeling generous

Viz_2

aromaannie wrote:

What about a years season ticket for their nearest cinema?

Or the local football team ! LOL

smokey112

Hi

Looking for a little advice.

We have been invited to wedding reception of a work colleague who is getting married on Sat but we will not be able to go.

All of my other work colleagues who are going have decided that they would put £10 per head (£20 per couple) in a card for her which I am happy to do - one other colleague who cant make it is just giving her money in a card - I think £30. The problem I have is that I mucked up my budget this week and dont get paid till 28/3 - I do have £20 to put in the card but this would leave us with no spare cash in case we need anything (petrol etc) - I do have enough food in the house - maybe something for Sunday lunch as DSD is a fussy eater.

Do you think it would be okay/acceptable/appropriate to leave giving her card until the 28th or should I go with my other colleagues

Thanks in advance

Ang
x

jenniferpa

I would think that would be fine. Alternatively, does she have a list somewhere? Could you not buy something from that (for less that £20). Having said all that - how close a colleague is she? I think the concept of inviting people to your wedding willy nilly smacks of asking for a gift and is somewhat tacky, but even if that is the case, I suppose you don't want to offend. I personally would not give cash, but if you're happy with it, so be it.

Jennifer

smokey112

I agree with all you say Jennifer - it is both their 2nd marriages and they dont "need" anything and I agree that giving money is not "very nice" but is is what she has said would be most appreciated as they have some work to do in their house

Thanks

Ang

MrsB_2

how about giving the £20 in the form of a cheque?? You can then give it at the 'right' time, knowing that it wont leave your account for several days.

nickinoo

Now I might be being stingy but I don't buy if I don't go.

across

why not just put a tenner in as a gesture seeing as youre not going it is more affordable and noone would think any the less of you, i always do what i can afford and would not feel pressured by others to do what they are doing, if i was recieving it i would be more than grateful some guests didnt turn up to mine and they didnt even get me a card or say they werent coming that is far worse! so i woudnt worry too much always do what you can afford. good luck!

Jet

nickinoo wrote:

Now I might be being stingy but I don't buy if I don't go.

I'm with you on this. If you're not going - then I would keep my money in my purse, unless it was someone very close to me.

If money is that tight for you, then don't make yourself skint for this.

barbie_babe

i would just send a card if i wasnt going .