Perfect Wedding Present?

VickyA_2

My best friend and her husband got £100 worth from me.

Everyone else gets £20 - £30 worth, depending on their list.

MissSunshine

Close friends and close relations anything from £40-£80, everyone else £20-£30. Got one couple a tree planted in Leicestershire last year for £25 to mark their special day.

miaxmia

If you are going to the main wedding reception and it is going to be a nice "do", I think £50 is a reasonable amount to spend (assuming you are going with a partner and giving a joint present) - the bride's parents have probably spent at least that amount on a nice meal and drinks, if not more (weddings don't come cheap), so I look on it that a nice meal with wine for 2 is probably worth £50, so I look on it as it is reasonable to spend the same in return for what has been spent on your meal.

stumpjumper

I think you should give whatever you can afford. I'd hate to think the guests coming to my wedding overstretched themselves to buy us a present (very un-MSE). I'd be happy with a card and to have them there! We do have a gift list that's only going out to anyone that asks for one and that's got gifts listed for £4 - £40 with most falling below £10.

If I was invited to a wedding tomorrow I'd only be able to spend £5-£10 max as that's all we can afford right now. If they frown on that then they're not people worth knowing.

Rachie_B

if its friends we spend about £20-£30 if its family then up to £50 ish

£80 !!!! OMG very generous !!

Rachie_B

miaxmia wrote:

If you are going to the main wedding reception and it is going to be a nice "do", I think £50 is a reasonable amount to spend (assuming you are going with a partner and giving a joint present) - the bride's parents have probably spent at least that amount on a nice meal and drinks, if not more (weddings don't come cheap), so I look on it that a nice meal with wine for 2 is probably worth £50, so I look on it as it is reasonable to spend the same in return for what has been spent on your meal.

or even the grooms parents / the bride and groom themselves

i dont agree with the "spend on a gift what you think it will have cost them to invite you " kind of attitude

no way did we ever think ok its costing us £xxxx per person to invite / feed etc so we expect at least that as a gift in return :eek:

you dont get married / plan the day with the intention to "get your money back in gifts" lol

just find that whole idea very strange indeed

equitydealer

One of my colleagues got married recently. One of her friends passed round a wedding card for everyone to sign and to pop some cash into an envelope. The card went to our boss first, I was second and I noticed a £5 note in there despite the fact that he earns over £175,000 a year. Nice.

misskool

Slightly off topic but for people who don't want to be restricted to one shop or a certain type of present, the website, https://www.whattogive.com is great for making personalised lists. One of my friends just got married and she put a list of things she wanted on it. We picked what we wanted and in true MSE style, went bargain hunting for them.

VickyA_2

Rachie_B wrote:

you dont get married / plan the day with the intention to "get your money back in gifts" lol

just find that whole idea very strange indeed

My sentiments exactly Rachie B! My parents are paying for the whole wedding and are embarassed by the whole wedding list idea. Some of our friends have requested details of our list, but our relations and parents' friends won't be receiving it.......... unless they ask for it.

All I want for my wedding day is my close friends and relatives to be there to see me get married. If they get me a present, well that's incredibly generous of them. If they don't, then it's very generous of them to spend the money in getting to my wedding as where we're getting married (ie my parents' village) is slightly out of the way of civilisation!

gingercordial

equitydealer wrote:

One of my colleagues got married recently. One of her friends passed round a wedding card for everyone to sign and to pop some cash into an envelope. The card went to our boss first, I was second and I noticed a £5 note in there despite the fact that he earns over £175,000 a year. Nice.

Maybe he didn't have much cash on him? Always seems to happen to me whenever suddenly it's a collection at work, as I hardly ever use cash! Then I have to top it up later after I've got some out. (Pressed thanks instead of quote BTW but never mind!)

I'd normally spend around £25-£30 on a present. I don't like giving cash as a wedding present as it's too impersonal so tend to just give a present anyway. The last wedding I went to was donations to charity so we were happy to give £50. But most importantly make sure you only give what you can afford!