No children at wedding

talulahbeige_2

flea72 wrote: »

I always laugh when people are adamant about no kids at their wedding

You can bet your bottom dollar, that they will be the ones who kick up the biggest fuss in 5yrs time, when they get invited out somewhere, and get told that darling little johnny isnt invited

As for people saying 'Its My Day' - you have alot to learn about family, and all the associated protocol. No-one forgets how you treated them, especially family, and thinking that a wedding is just about you, is a bit ....... - A wedding is the joining of two families, not just two people

Flea

Would you like to pay the £1200 extra for me then flea? Or perhaps you would like to take offence becasue I've been freinds with you for over 10 years and cant afford to invite 24 kids so therefore my only option is not to invite you at all?

I wont be complaining as I won't be having kids!

I love my family and friends, they love me, we all know that, but they also understand that feeding 24 kids is exepnisve and they are LOVING the idea that they get a night away without the kids.
It is my and my OH's day, who's elses day is it? Its a day dedicated to us showing our love and making a commitment to each other, not to each other and a few kids.

You say a wedding is about joining 2 families, perhaps you should tell that to the future MIL who cant be bothered to travel to visit her son an meet her future DIL's mother at the same time.

OrkneyStar

I personally cannot understand anyone who would say 'no kids' at a wedding, they make the day imho. This said I would respect anyone who invited us without DS being invited, as it is ultimately their choice.
Although I may not word my thoughts exactly the same as flea I understand her sentiment.

talulahbeige wrote: »

Would you like to pay the £1200 extra for me then flea?

How can 24 odd kids cost you £1200 ? Thats £50 each :eek: (not the £500 I had written in error last time lol!)

Surely the caterers could do half portions for kids, at say £10 per head.....being only £240.
Also if there are 20 odd of them they can play together, and dance too. It's lovely watching them on the dancefloor....who cares if they tread on someones toes, I bet you did many times as a child and noone complained.
Anyway, I realise it is your day, just trying to give a counter side of things and make sure you don't end up wishing you had invited them.

cte1111

The problem that people don't seem to recognise is that if all your family and close friends are out at the wedding with you, who do you get to look after your small children for the very long wedding day / night?

floss2

I managed it with only 2 under-16's first time round, and there will only be my own children (both adults) at my 2nd wedding. The evening do will be for families though, so we will have at least 1 small + a couple of teens.

I fully agree with those who think a wedding should be a child-free ceremony, but think an evening do is more of a family event.

*Louise*

I guess it all depends on numbers in the end really.

I had 8 kids out of a total of 40 guests at my wedding, 3 of them were my own. But if there was going to be a possible 20+ I would probably have had to consider another solution. (ie. family kids only) I wouldn't have had the day without the kids there tbh, and they were all fantastic and behaved well.

I've never been at a wedding with my kids - mind you it's mostly more distant relatives/friends who have been married, I would expect to take them if it was one of my siblings, and would be offended if they didn't want their nephews/niece there. But anyone other than them, then I wouldn't even question it.

irishjohn

£1200 divide by 24 makes £50 as far as I am aware :cool:

jaydeeuk1

When my wife and I got married, its about our day. If the inconvenience of having to arrange a baby sitter got in the way of sharing our day, then sod 'um. We didn't want screaming kids there. Plus as shes a teacher, she's glad to get away from the little sh*ts

lindaatno9

This wasn't supposed to start a debate. Just a promise to a response in a thread yesterday.
I think it's perfectly acceptable to have an opinion and not to invite children if need be. We didn't have any at ours except our own who were bridesmaids. I think because we were tied to numbers and the intimate affair that it was, people accepted. We were married at the venue, had a dinner and then came back to ours. If people wanted to collect the kids then that would have been fine. Yes,it is all about family but it's also about budgeting. I think if you consider the way the invites are worded then you won't upset, people will understand. :A

Mme.Hibou

We'll have 5 under ones and 10 under tens at our wedding, they're nieces, my DS my DSDs and babies of my friends. There'll be 60 people there in total, but it really is each to their own.

If I got invited to a wedding that was happening soon and had to leave my baby who is 4 1/2 months old, I'd politely refuse and if it was one of my siblings I'd just take him.

OrkneyStar

irishjohn wrote: »

£1200 divide by 24 makes £50 as far as I am aware :cool:

yes, doh I have altered now. £50 is still a lot though and my point stands!
(For some reason I am typing extra numbers today as I had 254 insread of 24 initially!).