No children at wedding

Ianna

I'm having a childfree wedding. I'm not someone that likes being around young children, I just don't see what the fuss as. I'm happily childfree and me and my partner will not be having children ever. We're having a small wedding and only inviting people we want to be around us so why would we pay hundreds of pounds inviting children when we don't like them?

I used to work in a venue that did weddings and I lost count of the number of ceremonies and dinners ruined by screaming, crying or just plain bored and fidgety children. Ceremonies and formal sit down meals are NOT for children and it's unfair and unrealistic to expect them to sit through a formal occasion in a strange environment without getting fussy.

Realistically you can't rely on parents taking their kids out whenever they whimper because sadly many parents just aren't that bothered or will just get sick of getting up and down every few minutes. Or just too tipsy to deal with it properly!

As to weddings being about families joining - well, that's not our opinion. It's about us setting up together as a unit not joining of families. That view dates back to a time when weddings were done for business reasons and couples were basically sold off into marriage for the good of the family. NOT what our wedding is about.

We've put a lot of thought and money into making this a nice day for the guests because we respect that they're travelling and making an effort. I'm not having that ruined because of someone else's lifechoices. Part of being a parent is sacrifices and if you want to come then hire a babysitter or make some kind of an arrangement. If it means you don't come that's fine, it's your choice and I won't harbour any ill will towards you.

mrscb

Fast forward a few years when a bride and groom have their own kids.....they get an invite that states no children allowed and then they have to start sorting out childcare(possibly overnight)etc ,I bet a lot of them will be annoyed as priorities are different when you have children.
I have just been to a wedding where we were told no kids so we sorted out overnight sitter etc and then at church the bride had young children on her side and we even has a baby on our table!!!!!(not that he was any bother)
It should be children or no children......

kettlefish

About 3 years ago my mum and dad went to the wedding of my dad's best friend from school days. I was 17 but wasn't allowed to go as I was a "child" They said they didn't like the idea of children at weddings... Fast forward 3 years and they've got their own little (gorgeous!) girl and they've all of a sudden changed their minds and will be bringing her to our wedding this October! We're just gutted that we don't have any more than 2 kids who we could feasibly ask, and none of them are close enough family or friends to be flowergirl or anything

melancholly

i guess i don't really see a problem if the wedding couple do change priorities a few years down the line - happens to all of us really - what we want in a birthday party at 18 isn't what we want at 50! whether or not they have their own kids at a later date, it's about what they want on the day.... as long as they aren't rude about it, it really is up to them!

irishjohn

Marky123 wrote: »

irishjohn.

If you hate weddings and are not planning on going to any.
What are you doing on this thread or on this board?

I browse via New Posts, I like to read, It attracted my attention purely because I have quite strong views about weddings myself and I found the feedback to my post useful and appreciate it.