The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Leopardlady

Welcome Nichart, i am sorry you have had to move over here, and as MadMac says you are more than welcome and there are lots of experienced people on here, so pull up a chair and grab a banana or clemetine and a cup of tea and prepare to chat

Take care all, off to see some fireworks then my friend, thanks for all the comments, it really does make you think, my OH and i both feel very lucky at the moment

nichart20

Thanks madmac im going to have a good read of the board now get to know you all x

angelavdavis

ginvzt wrote: »

That is horrible!!!! I know of someone (went to uni together), who's husband after a few weeks of marriage said he doesn't have 'enough space' (they lived together for about 5-6 years before) and left.

Sounds like my ex-marriage! My ex went back to living with his mother and going to football every Saturday rather than grow up and be responsible. He overnight had decided he didn't want responsibility or children but had failed to mention that (he always knew I wanted children)!!

I am like you Madmac, it look a lot of contemplation before I accepted his proposal, such was the importance I had placed on marriage.

When he left, his behaviour about walking out on the marriage was similar to "something going wrong in the wash". I was devastated with having a failed marriage, and was quite shocked how little he cared about even talking about how he had got to that stage. However, it helped me to realise very quickly that I just needed to cut the ties and move on. I initially tried to shock him into reality by visiting a divorce lawyer quickly and putting my cards on the table, but he seemed so relieved that he hadn't had to do anything, I just let the whole legal process kick in and we were divorced before the 6 months were up - financial settlement and everything (I had to give him a financial settlement because I earned more than him). Once it was clear he had no intention of trying to 'fix' the marriage in any way, I was keen to get shot of him before the change in law which stated he could have a call on my pension too!

The relief that we never had children together didn't leave me for many years after we split and I stayed clear of relationships for 6 years after that - that was how little trust I had left for the male sex! I was even accused by a friend of being a man-hater. I didn't hate men - just didn't trust them!!!

Its all water under the bridge now I have met and remarried my lovely husband though. I couldn't wish for a more understanding, warm-hearted, loving husband and feel really blessed for having a second chance.

Hi Nichart, and welcome to our little group of ttc'ers. Feel free to offload.

liloandstitch

Hi Nichart, welcome to the thread. Sorry they have only offered you clementines, I am hoping that the brownies are back on offer, I did ask Madmac to bake them for me!

Well, shopping was shockingly okay today, but I have to say the doctors cant organise a p**s up in a brewery - she had the flu jab at 1.30 - along with 50 others:eek: All booked at the same time - I have never seen so many old people in one place at a time. And how rude they all are - they all wanted to be first. It was only 15 mins beginning to end but what a thing to put old folks through - there was about 15 seats for this lot, and most of them couldnt stand up. Glad I dont have to go through that again for another year!

The relationship thing is sad, but better to realise now before they have kids etc, I always think they suffer when parents split however well mannered it is. If it is not to be, she has the time to find someone who will treat her how she deserves to be treated. But as you say, hopefully this is a blip and he will come to his senses and realise that she is the one.

Congrats to leopardlady's friend on the birth of her little boy.:T:beer::T

Lilo

nichart20

I could do with a brownie now have just read the full thred did make tea in between and had the distraction of corri and eastenders and peter andre and reading http://www.hfea.gov.uk/index.html in between, I am very multi skilled tonight.

I really wish I had got chance to discuss it all with OH tonight, as soon as appointment was over had to rush back to work and he went to work before I finished, because of work hours clashing now I wont see him until saturday afternoon which is annoying

angelavdavis - Glad you have a good man now just a shame you had to go through that first

Leopardlady - hope you enjoyed the fireworks & hope your friend is going to be ok tissues and wine sound like a must

MadMac_2

Angela, I'm so glad things worked out OK for you and I can completely understand why you would have avoided men after your first husband - I think I would be exactly the same! What a brave and dignified lady you must be, I'm most impressed... :cool:

Lilo, sorry I haven't had the time to bake today but I can cheat and offer you a chocolate brownie as I have an unopened box in the cupboard that we keep for emergencies of the depressed variety. Sad, I know, but we find sitting in bed in the morning with a mug of tea and a brownie most uplifting, so I keep some in hidden at the ready

But I was good today and had a banana, two clementines and two tomatoes (don't ask) so I think I can tick this off as a healthy day!

Lots of CM now making an appearance, so it will be an early night for me. Goodnight all, hope you all have a happy and/or peaceful night ahead, x

liloandstitch

Hope your early night went well MadMac - as you can see by the time, I havent had one!! Have been shopping online (oops!)

Lilo

liloandstitch

Nichart, well done on reading the whole thread - I should think you need the whole box of brownies rather than just one!

Sorry you havent had chance to discuss with OH - I know Saturday seems a long way off, but it will come round in no time.

lilo

ginvzt

Lilo - what are you doing on MSE at THAT time????

AF still not here!!!! Lots of brownish discharge, but no AF. Annoying if anything... (And I don't even have a hope that *maybe* AF won't show up this month)

Well, I informed my family last night that we will not be coming home for Christmas. I have to say, it was all very civilised, and my mum seem to have understood that to spend that sort of money on the flights is ridiculous. So, it is just me, OH and a cat for Christmas. I imagine we will spend it in front of TV... Or cleaning the house...

liloandstitch

Ginvzt, well done for tackling the christmas issue. As you have saved so much money by not going home, why not treat you and OH to a special treat that you wouldnt otherwise have had? - And I do find cats a lovely addition to christmas!!!!

Lilo