The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

bigzippy

TeamLowe wrote: »

Aww you're so lovely BigZ, now have an image of me ringing the doctors 'my friend on the internets says...'

:rotfl:

DH and i have had a quick chat about what's really bothering me ... but he's just reassured me that we'll consider all options if the time comes and I'm happy with that

Glad you've got to the root and gotten some peace through talking about it

mrshappy wrote: »

:wave:

:wave:

AFM-Mrh is going in for his PESA next week, he is trying to be brave, but he isn't really, I'm trying to be brave for him, but secretly terrified that it is still rubbish and there really are no swimmers in there at all, I must find my PMA again, I know it's here somewhere

Good luck!

lilymay1 wrote: »

I'm feeling very flat today. I've been having loads of cloudy ewcm for days now but my OPK's are pretty much clear. I've just done one now and there is a very faint second line but i just feel very deflated. Ovulating late is !!!!. Long cycles must be even worse - I really really feel for you ladies who only get the chance 2 or 3 times a year. I suppose I should shut up and count my blessings.

I've said it before on the other thread I think, but I've never been convinced you haven't ov'd closer to cd10 and have a fallback rise...
Hope you feel a bit more "up" soon

Zippy - Any news from you yet? Are you going to test, or just wait to see if AF arrives?

I'm feeling deflated
/not hopeful. My IBS flared yesterday, which it normally does in the few days before AF. And I have AF cramps too. My bo.obs are still a little tender, but not particularly reassuringly. And in any case, I think I'm preparing myself for the worst. It's going to crush DH when/if AF does turn up though

Waiting til Saturday before considering any testing. Otherwise DH isn't with me. And Saturday would put me at 14dpo, in any case.

Tea - Good luck for your FS appointment later. Let us know how you get on xx

What she said Let us know how you go

time2deal

Hi all,

Hugs to all, but do you mind if I do a quick *all about me* post!

time2deal wrote: »

Doc has put the tests on rush, so that we can do the full things next week (the loop excision), assuming the biopsy comes back as expected. He did seem to think it would be necessary - and as I going away for a month I'd rather get it done now. It means no s3x for over a month though! Nothing for 5-10days, then for a month after the excision. Which makes taking soy this month somewhat of a waste...

So they have the tests back and want to do a Cone Biopsy. According to NHS that is normally done under a general anesthetic, and is quite unusual. Consultant had said local or general, and I'm waiting for a call back from him (rather than the receptionist) to confirm which he is doing. Not sure if I said but I am doing all this privately, all covered by my insurance.

I feel like my test results always come back slightly worse than expected. I also want to ask if I can BD tonight, as I feel fine after last week, and it would be nice before an enforced period of celibacy.

I'm thinking I might see if I can get Monday off. The appointment is late on Friday afternoon, and even if I'm ok on Monday I think an additional days rest would do me no harm, especially if they go with a general.

lilymay1

bigzippy wrote: »

:rotfl:
I've said it before on the other thread I think, but I've never been convinced you haven't ov'd closer to cd10 and have a fallback rise...
Hope you feel a bit more "up" soon

I'm feeling deflated
/not hopeful. My IBS flared yesterday, which it normally does in the few days before AF. And I have AF cramps too. My bo.obs are still a little tender, but not particularly reassuringly. And in any case, I think I'm preparing myself for the worst. It's going to crush DH when/if AF does turn up though

Waiting til Saturday before considering any testing. Otherwise DH isn't with me. And Saturday would put me at 14dpo, in any case.

FF has always put my crosshair's around CD20 and my OPK's always back that up. I've been testing since about CD9 this cycle and they're still lily white. I always get a lot of EWCM from the records I've kept, even in the 2WW...maybe I'm estrogen dominant.

Don't feel deflated. I think people can sometimes get a bit 'hung up' my pregnancy symptoms. So many people have no idea they are pregnant until they miss a period, and at 4 weeks the levels or hormone are so low anyway I think most people's 'symptoms' are psychosomatic to begin with.
You have a great chance this month. You had 3 follicles at the scan didn't you, and you BD'd at the right time, and clomid made you ov at the perfect time! Keep the faith...I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you

bigzippy

time2deal wrote: »

Hi all,

Hugs to all, but do you mind if I do a quick *all about me* post!

Never!

So they have the tests back and want to do a Cone Biopsy. According to NHS that is normally done under a general anesthetic, and is quite unusual. Consultant had said local or general, and I'm waiting for a call back from him (rather than the receptionist) to confirm which he is doing. Not sure if I said but I am doing all this privately, all covered by my insurance.

I feel like my test results always come back slightly worse than expected. I also want to ask if I can BD tonight, as I feel fine after last week, and it would be nice before an enforced period of celibacy.

I'm thinking I might see if I can get Monday off. The appointment is late on Friday afternoon, and even if I'm ok on Monday I think an additional days rest would do me no harm, especially if they go with a general.

Bl00dy hell, it never rains... what did he say on the call back? How do you feel about it?

lilymay1 wrote: »

Don't feel deflated. I think people can sometimes get a bit 'hung up' my pregnancy symptoms. So many people have no idea they are pregnant until they miss a period, and at 4 weeks the levels or hormone are so low anyway I think most people's 'symptoms' are psychosomatic to begin with.
You have a great chance this month. You had 3 follicles at the scan didn't you, and you BD'd at the right time, and clomid made you ov at the perfect time! Keep the faith...I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you

Thanks, I know all the "it's not over til it's over" milarky. But I'd rather be realistic and prepared for the worst.:cool: Anything else is a bonus and I'd be happy if/when that happened. I also have some brown cm streaking.

time2deal

bigzippy wrote: »

Bl00dy hell, it never rains... what did he say on the call back? How do you feel about it?

I didn't get a call back today, so will hopefully talk to him tomorrow. I wrote down questions so I remember to ask everything.

I feel... well... resigned to it now. I feel completely unfocussed on ttc now, this feels more important. I didn't feel like that to start with, but now it's a little more serious I think it's finally getting through my thick head that it's important.

I'll get the motivation back up I am sure when this is complete. People are starting to ask at work about the time off, and I'm incapable of lying. I haven't said what it is, but said I have to have a small procedure, but everyone is curious. We are a really close team normally, and I'm normally an open book.

I can't think of any symptomless benign condition I could say instead. Any ideas?

bigzippy

time2deal wrote: »

I can't think of any symptomless benign condition I could say instead. Any ideas?

It depends on what level of information you're happy to give out.

e.g. if you didn't want to mention the area(s) being treated then you could just say that some abnormal cells were found so you're having biopsies, and would rather leave it at that, thanks.

If you don't want to give anything away that's even remotely involved, and don't want to stick with some kind "women's trouble" excuse, then I'd just say "I'd rather not talk about it just yet" and hope that keeps them quiet?

bigzippy

My spotting is now bright red

time2deal

bigzippy wrote: »

My spotting is now bright red

Sorry to hear it BZ. It's such a letdown each month, even when you know it's likely.

big hugs. And thanks for your support.

onestep

Prepare yourselves ladies.. T'internet is full of 'Kate's pregnant' rumours. Sigh.

Hugs to BZ, Team Lowe, TeaLover, Time2Deal and Everyone.. We could use some good news here, couldn't we?!

bigzippy

onestep wrote: »

Prepare yourselves ladies.. T'internet is full of 'Kate's pregnant' rumours. Sigh.

Hugs to BZ, Team Lowe, TeaLover, Time2Deal and Everyone.. We could use some good news here, couldn't we?!

Great. All we need (!) :cool: thanks for the heads up :cool:

Thanks have one for yourself
We certainly could!


*sigh*