The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

chickpea

Oh, and CD1. What else..!

lilymay1

time2deal wrote: »

Private. Too fat for nhs!

Thank you for this :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

You made me smile today

onestep

chickpea wrote: »

Aw - I wish I could hug you, Lisa and Onestep!

I'm in the same place - the need to give up is nearly as strong as the need to keep going. Maybe it does come down to wanting what you have, rather than having what you want?

Virtual Shiraz all round. Tanqueray if you don't like wine.

I think you're absolutely right. I'm coming to accept it now.. & I'm beginning to see that what I have already is pretty bl00dy good, if only I stopped fussing/plotting/wishing about ttc. Time to step away from the thermometer, and finally get rid of all the ttc books, & those baby clothes we kept 'just in case'.

Mines a Shiraz please! ((Hugs))

time2deal

lilymay1 wrote: »

Thank you for this :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

You made me smile today

Glad to help!

The irony is that once I corrected my height, I would actually have been eligible as my BMI was (briefly) 29. The stone that has crept on this year now is a problem though.

I think the timescales would have driven me a bit bonkers though. Months and months between appointments must be very frustrating. I think the consultant yesterday was assuming we would start IVF immediately - with my next cycle.

I am going to try and get back below 30 before I start IVF though.

Can anyone who has done it tell me if this all feels a little too quick?
The consultant is saying to go directly to stimulated IVF right from the start. It seems a very aggressive approach right from the start. I have very low AMH, so would that be what is rushing things? Opinions (informed or otherwise) are welcome!

tea_lover

Are we seriously now on the moneysaving mums and dads board?? Come on MSE, have a bit of tact!

TeamLowe

yip, and the thread just below is currently 'just found out i'm pregnant and worried about money' regarding what seems to be an accidental pregnancy.
not that there's anything wrong with someone posting that, i'm sure she's very happy and i hope everything works out well for the girl but it just shows having us here is very insenstive x x

Derby2

Well hello ladies,

It took me a while to find you there! I can kind of understand why they have moved us here, but I'm not a mum in spite of all our hard work, and trying to come to terms with probably never being a mum makes me feel like a fraud!

time2deal: I suspect I will be told the same thing when we have our next FS appointment-I think it is all to do with cracking on with it as our low AMH tells us we should do it sooner than later (but is my uninformed opinion!).

Lisa: I'm (nearly) 34 and it difficult to get my head around the fact my fertility journey might be over. I sway between kicking myself for not starting sooner, and knowing in reality it wasn't practical before now. I don't know whether we would qualify for adoption but I suspect not. I often feel a little spaced out and numb. I just can't get my head around it.

AFM, well, still plodding along. I had a terrible week last week

After my abandoned IUI, I came home one day to find out my cat had died while I was at work. Typically that was the day before I ovulated and clearly wasn't in the mood, so we've completely missed this cycle. I'm so annoyed with this cycle-I was scanned on CD 10 and normally ovulate 11/12. The lining was too thin so it was abandoned. The annoying thing is that I ovulated later than normal, so I can't help thinking that if I had a later scan my lining would have caught up and we could have done the IUI. With my low AMH I feel that every cycle is precious :mad:

Oh, and my husband has now also had a cardiac referral for a chest problem that isn't clearing up.

Seriously...this is getting a bit ridiculous now.

Perhaps we need some Christmas cheer. 1st of December I'm planning decorations, tree, Love Actually and hot chocolate. And a Christmas jumper!

Anyone care to join me? :beer:

tea_lover

:rudolf::santa2:
Ooh I love a christmas jumper, I'm in!

Runnerduck

Hi all, been distracting myself for a while, just wanted to say fantastic news juju, its great to hear all is well.

Lisa i'm so sorry you are struggling, i can't imagine how bad it must be after so many tries, i'm going slowly mad and i havent had near as many as you, i hope something will work out for you soon xx

good luck to all on chlomid, i am watching out for some Bfp's xx


well i'm in for egg collection the beginning of next week, round 5 here we come, i'm already dreading the tww when i know i will drive myself insane with google!

jujugaboo

Good luck runner, I will be thinking off you.

Good luck to all those on clomid too, here's to lots of BFPs!!!

x