The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

angelavdavis

Lilo, poor you, it all sounds like a complete nightmare! I hope things get better for you. After my horrible holiday in June in France, I am starting to think that being at home is the new holiday!

Shelly, I ended up having to buy another size Mooncup as the guidance it provides on sizing was incorrect in my case, it was too big and I struggled to remove it! I was OK once I got over the panic of thinking I would have to have it surgically removed :rotfl:

All OK now thankfully!

MadMac_2

Oh Lilo, that does sound like a nightmare. Given your circumstances, I would think it reasonable that the garage owed you a bigger duty of care than would otherwise be expected and you really should take the issue further. Absolutely disgusting and these things should never be left - they must be brought to account! :mad: OK, will get off my high horse now!

BTW which organic decaf coffee do you favour? I've yet to find one I like, so still stick to lemon and ginger tea here, but am happy to accommodate you! There's also a plate of chocolate brownies sitting here if anybody wants to pop over...

Good morning to all!

I haven't yet dared to try a mooncup although I can really see the benefits of having one. Hells bells, I really must pull my finger out and get more organised, it would be such a money saver!

Leopardlady

Good morning ladies, and welcome to the newbies

Lilo i am soo sorry to hear of your awful treatment by the garage! Take care of yourself and get back to full health before any dieting!

MadMac i would love a brownie, are there any left?

Well i think this month is going to be out for us this month as OH little issue raised its ugly head again, so i have said a month or two of sillyness to see if that helps? I really hope so as i know i am going to be very down when AF arrives! But oh well.

Just need to get him registered with the docs and then they will test him, hopefully before i see the hospital in Dec!

Take care all, it is raining a lot here, and i am trying to be positive, but so far this week have felt quite down, no reason really so i will buck my ideas up and get smiling

shelly

angelavdavis wrote: »

Shelly, I ended up having to buy another size Mooncup as the guidance it provides on sizing was incorrect in my case, it was too big and I struggled to remove it! I was OK once I got over the panic of thinking I would have to have it surgically removed :rotfl:

All OK now thankfully!

I have size A which I think is the smallest? I am having a problem with the stem. I left it alone the first time I tried it but could feel it on the outside so trimmed it down....needed trimming again so now I don't have much stem left. I definately need the stem to get it out so I'm hoping the next time I try it it will be ok.

ginvzt

Any brownies left?... And I would love a tea....

Sorry, I am down again. Another morning being upset with OH (different reason). I just wish we finally got on that 'boat to Australia' and forget all this heartache.

lauzjp

Thank You for the replies and suggestions; I went to the doc yesterday & *shock* he has referred me to a midwife! It still didn't really sink in, and after a bit too much running around last night my tummy didn't feel the same & I was worried I'd lost another so I did 2 more tests, both still positive! I'm going to buy some more off ebay so I can keep checking.. I guess it might hit home when I have a scan - I keep thinking God, I hope it's still there then..

I have pcos and am still hugely overweight. My blood tests came back saying that I wasn't even ovulating! My last period was July, which is not unusual, I can have 2 a year.. but you try figuring out when the due date is! lol. sorry for big ramble.

I will still go to the fertility show at olympia this friday & saturday, there are lots of interesting seminars I'd like to hear. Anyone else going?

sarahs999

Hello girls. Have been avoiding posting for a while as I just feel so fed up at the moment. We had our appt at ST Mary's last week and they told me they've now found that I have ANOTHER blood clotting disorder, this time Prothrombin. Along with my Factor V Leiden that gives me a double whammy, which measn they'll have to up my heparin next time I am pregnant. I saw Prof Lesley Regan though whcih was brilliant as she's the leading authority on ercurrent miscarriage, and she was pretty awe-inspiring. She's also the first person to give me a straight answer as to whether my pre-eclampsia would have been directly caused by my blood disorders ('Oh yes') and managed to dictate a letter, answer my questions and write notes all at the same time while seemingly giving all three activities her full attention. Anyway, she aslo said that she 'couldn't emphasise enough' the importance of me losing more weight, and that every study they do shows more and more that weight is a hugely significant factor in the success or otherwise of pregnancies in women like me.

SO that's told me. I have been really good since then. I know I'm on my last chance really; 40 next year. Heads down, I guess.

angelavdavis

shelly wrote: »

I have size A which I think is the smallest? I am having a problem with the stem. I left it alone the first time I tried it but could feel it on the outside so trimmed it down....needed trimming again so now I don't have much stem left. I definately need the stem to get it out so I'm hoping the next time I try it it will be ok.

Persevere with it, now I have got used to it I think it is fantastic. Apart from the financial saving, I am a scuba diver and its great to not worry about polluting the sea with man-made rubbish. Its bad enough if you are unlucky enough to see toilet paper on coral reefs - without anything else :eek:

Ginvzt, cheer up. I know how down it can all make you feel. It leaves you so miserable and feeling powerless. It's hell if you are a fairly capable individual. It feels like nature is cheating you. Sometimes, I am truly horrid to my poor husband (whether I feel he deserves it or not!).

For some reason, now AF has gone again, I am feeling quite up at the moment. I am spending my time decorating the house - have been completely renovating the downstairs WC, including replacing joists, the floor, the toilet and installing a new radiator - so keeping quite busy and now I am up to lining the walls, it is starting to feel like I am almost finished (only the wall painting, flooring and toilet installation to go!)

lauzjp, it must be completely natural to feel the way you do after all you have been through. I know I would. According to all the GP/hospital blood tests I wasn't ovulating - yet according to CBFM I have ovulated ever since - I suspect they simply weren't testing at the right time.

I thought the fertility show looked interesting - particularly the Zeta West seminar, but sadly having not worked since December last year, I simply can't afford to go.

sarahs999 wrote: »

She's also the first person to give me a straight answer as to whether my pre-eclampsia would have been directly caused by my blood disorders ('Oh yes') and managed to dictate a letter, answer my questions and write notes all at the same time while seemingly giving all three activities her full attention.

Congratulations Sarah, sounds like you have found the only multi-tasking doctor in the NHS (I used to be a medical secretary, apart from dictating letters whilst eating their lunch - I never came across multi-tasking doctors!!!)

MadMac_2

Yup, plenty of brownies left as I'm trying to lose weight - honestly! But now have choc and orange brownies sitting with them. I just can't resist, the least I can do is cook, even if I can't eat them! :rotfl:

LL, sorry to hear your husband is suffering again, fingers crossed he'll get over it and will bounce back soon. As to keeping positive, well I'd be a fine one to be advising on that, wouldn't I?!

Lauzjp, great news! Really, really great news. So lets be positive and I will hope and pray that this is going to be your time, which of course it WILL be if I put my PMA back in its rightful place!

I just couldn't even face the fertility show - I would be a wreck walking around it and certainly wouldn't want to see Zita West as I've followed her book and taken her vitamins and ordered her tests... well, I won't say any more, but I'm still here! Ooh, could I be any more grumpy, grouchy or bitter... I'm so sorry :eek:

Sarah - wow, I've seen Prof Regan on the telly so many times! She always seems very level-headed and efficient, so you haven't burst that bubble, so glad you got some straight answers and made some progress, x

Think I'll go and bake something else and try and channel my frustrations elsewhere... :rolleyes:

ginvzt

angelavdavis wrote: »

Ginvzt, cheer up. I know how down it can all make you feel. It leaves you so miserable and feeling powerless. It's hell if you are a fairly capable individual. It feels like nature is cheating you. Sometimes, I am truly horrid to my poor husband (whether I feel he deserves it or not!).

For some reason, now AF has gone again, I am feeling quite up at the moment. I am spending my time decorating the house - have been completely renovating the downstairs WC, including replacing joists, the floor, the toilet and installing a new radiator - so keeping quite busy and now I am up to lining the walls, it is starting to feel like I am almost finished (only the wall painting, flooring and toilet installation to go!)

I think it is AF on the way that makes me this way (probably first time I am actually having PMS...).

I would love to decorate!!!! Unfortunately, we are renting this house and while landlord would not mind if I did some painting, etc - there is no way my OH will let me!!!! We actually had a chat last night and I don't think we will be buying soon. I love the current house - it is huge and a very reasonable rent, so there is no way we could find anything as big, such a good area and a decent garden for the price my OH is prepared to pay.

Can't wait to go home tonight.