The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

MadMac_2

Hi Hamish, and of course you can join us! Thank you for sharing your story and I think it is always good to share - and certainly when it comes to trying to conceive as we don't tend to have many people we can unload to. Well, at least I don't - so I find threads like this can really help and be supportive in many ways!

It certainly sounds like you are doing lots to enhance your chances and I can relate to thinking you might need money for later - I've had a secret baby making fund for years and it is only recently my OH has found out about it. Even then it was only because he started to worry about how we would afford to proceed - well, I've got that avenue covered at least, I said!

See, I can ramble too!

Try and enjoy the journey, x

shelly

Hi Hamish & welcome. Hope you aren't here too long......in the nicest possible way of course

lauzjp

hmm, so after having some brown d/c and a bit of spotting I just didn't have time to go to the doctors, I did another test and it said not pregnant, so I assumed I wasn't anymore... then for some reason I decided a couple of days later to do another test and it said I was still pregnant? I did another test this morning, and despite the little bit of yellow d/c it said yes, I was pregnant - I still can't believe it, so am going to have to make time to go to the doc!

I did a google for yellow d/c and it seemed pretty common and not too alarming - anyone had any experience of this?

beebuzz168

Hi guys

I think I've dipped my head a couple of times into this forum to say hello, and have then disappeared again just as quickly (while still lurking in the shadows!).

The last time I disappeared was because I found out at the start of September, after a year of trying, and two days short of our first visit to the fertility clinic, that I was pregnant.

Shock, coupled with delight, and I didn't want to post anything on here as I know how disheartening you all find it when someone pops up to say hello then immediately announces their happy news :rolleyes:

Anyway, my news was short lived, as I had a small bleed a couple of weeks ago, followed by hours in A&E and, the following day, an internal scan that confirmed there was no baby.

Still very much coming to terms with it, more so with the fact (sorry if tmi) that when I had the scan my womb was empty. If there had been a dead baby I think I would have been able to cope with that better, but as it was I'm left thinking that it was a horrible trick my body played on me.

I had an ERPC (I think I've remembered that right) the following week and am now back to normal, physically anyway.

They were lovely at the EPU, very supportive, and have given us the fertility clinic details so we can make a new appointment whenever we're ready rather than go through a referal again.

I'm just scared that it's going to take us another year to get to this stage (I have cycles somewhere between 40 & 70 days).

Sorry guys, long post for this early on a Sunday morning.

But I just wanted to say that I get so much support from this thread, even though I'm not much of a poster. It's a difficult thing to talk about with friends (and only a couple of them knew I was expecting). One of them even said last weekend that the reason I was spending so much on clothes at the moment was because I knew I wasn't going to get fat any more! She probably meant well but...

Bx

ginvzt

beebuzz, sorry to hear your news. Take time and don't rush anywhere. I am probably not the right person to talk (third year of ttc started and I still haven't had a bfp), so I can only imagine what is going through your head. And I would have been so upset at what you friend said!!!! (being pregnant and getting fat is not equivalent!!!!!)

And don't hide - join in. We are here for each other!!!!

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lauzjp wrote: »

hmm, so after having some brown d/c and a bit of spotting I just didn't have time to go to the doctors, I did another test and it said not pregnant, so I assumed I wasn't anymore... then for some reason I decided a couple of days later to do another test and it said I was still pregnant? I did another test this morning, and despite the little bit of yellow d/c it said yes, I was pregnant - I still can't believe it, so am going to have to make time to go to the doc!

I did a google for yellow d/c and it seemed pretty common and not too alarming - anyone had any experience of this?

Not happened to me, sounds like a very confusing time for you though. You will have to make time to see the doc first thing monday. They can do a blood test to see what's going on, maybe even send you to the hospital so make sure you can have the day free.
Fingers crossed for you x

liloandstitch

Hi all, am back from the short break from hell!

Lets just say am glad to be home! AF managed to wait until I wanted her, so blood test tomorrow am should be spot on, and my scans and dry run should be on the right day at least!

Glad to see lots of posting, hugs and things as appropriate, and nice to see some new faces, hopefully you will all carry on posting, this is a wonderful thread and very supportive.

Lilo

ginvzt

Lilo, sorry to hear your break wasn't that good!!!! Well, it only makes you appreciate coming home...

I had a quiet weekend. Nothing much, a walk in town, got some fish and vegetables from the market. Went for a drink (ok, tea in my case) to a local pub yesterday, just making a stop in Asda before to get The Times.

And I am giving up trying to understand my body. My bbt this month is all over the place!!!! Yes, I did take at the same time more or less, but it went from 36.92 to 36.67 to 36.97 in the last few days!!!! It looks like the saw this month and I have no idea what to make out of it. And it is like this since about CD18 (it is CD25 today).

I am a bit mad at OH today (for not doing what he was promising to do all weekend, so he was sent a very harsh email this morning). Need to get over it... And do it myself, as usual...

cedrickerry

Hello all ... hope everyone is OK .....and wishing I was ....
Just been to my brothers wedding at weekend (which was good!) and had to endure my 10 week(ish) pregnant sister and the fact that she was smoking and drinking .....:mad: I love her to pieces but can't be happy for her as shes only been with her partner 12 weeks (and she's 30 so too old to be an irresponsible teenager!). Her long-term partner died in July 2008 in an accident and it seems that she's just jumped into this ...........I feel sorry for her children (she already has an 8 year old from her 10 month marriage 7 years ago!)

We're still going through the tests, but I'm so impatient! Feeling really down - the shops are playing CHristmas music and since my family decided to do a couple secret santa (very MSE) and we aren't doing or seeing anyone at Christmas just feel like I can't be bothered (normally I'm a festive freak!) what's to celebrate with just me and DH? Not able to go to work Xmas do, and DH working on the day itself. To top it all the dog we got a few weeks back is an angel apart from her desire to kill the cat (literally) making home stressful ....

Sorry to rant ...am trying to cheer up ...so dumping it all on you guys:o

MadMac_2

Beebuzz, welcome back and don't be such a stranger - we're a friendly bunch really, just very emotional at times! I'm so, so sorry to read of your troubles, that sounds rough and I hope you're coming out the other side of it OK. Stuff what people say to you, we can all be insensitive at times without meaning to be and then kick ourselves afterwards - but some people are just cows, pure and simple :rotfl:

Lauzjp, I'll keep hoping for you that you'll be posting great news soon. Our bodies can be so unpredictable and cruel that I can't say much more, but fingers crossed, x

Lilo, oh no! Really the break from hell? Will we see you on Watchdog soon?! Well, I'm selfishly glad to have you back and I hope you recover from your trip soon - well, I'm sure the bloods and all will help

Ginvzt, don't be too cross with your OH - we do need them for certain things, ah hem... And are you feeling a little under the weather? That could explain your temp wobbles. Just a silly idea that popped in to my empty head! :rolleyes:

Cedrickerry - oh dear! What is your sister thinking, putting you through that? I'm upset and hurt with you, that would be so hard to bear. No wonder you feel down and not ready for the fun of the festive season! I hope you can see some of the light to enjoy it a little at the least, here's hoping. But oh no! Dog wants to kill the cat?! Maybe an early snip for said pooch might be in order - or counselling like you see on the telly! Feel free to dump any time hun and big hug coming your way from my corner of the world, x