The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

bigzippy

Very much hoping everything will be proven to be fine on the scan Juju

Crossing my fingers for you Primmer! Hope you're not driving yourself too mental

Can't say I blame you for feeling rubbish Lisa, it's a carppy situation, but I hope it passes soon I would say, can you make plans with friends while DH is away, but it sounds like they're all bumpy atm..?

ETO, bonkers? You mean you weren't before?
Thanks, I've now lost 11 BMIS 2 more to 30, 3 more for 29...

Primmer

Juju - good luck for Weds, will be thinking of you and keeping everything crossed.

Lisa - sending big hugs, can you treat yourself to something this weekend or go out for coffee with a friend (a non-pregnant one).

BZ - you have done so well, it really won't be long until you are under 30 an amazing achievement

AFM - my beautiful niece was born this week, unfortunately she is in Australia so I can't have cuddles. Am getting sent lots of pics and hope to see her and family on skype either today or tomorrow but it's not the same. I am upset that I can't hold her and upset they I may never get one of my own which isn't helping this 2ww

TTC40

CD16 and still no sign of ov. Think ive read that you can have cycles where you don't ov. Maybe it's one of those?

Probably worth a BD today just in case - managed Mon to Thurs but couldn't be bothered yesterday! OH annoying me though so will be a reluctant one!

Hope everyone has some sunshine today.

jujugaboo

:grouphug: Sending you some dodgy hugs Lisa, there is nothing I can say that will make you feel any better but i feel your pain.

TeamLowe

Dodgy hugs all round I feel x x

BigZ my sister and friend both got pregnant with forever babies with BMIs over 40, so I'm not convinced of the 'healthy lifestyle' business for the general population, I think it only makes a difference if you have PCOS, which a lot of the infertility stats must be based on

AFM thought I may have Oved last week, but more wishful thinking than anything as we'd had a great run up of BDing. Then I thought it'd happened yesterday, my new normal Ov day, but I have a temp dip not rise today but I have dried up soooo yeah, really paranoid no Ov again this cycle and all the meformin's hard work has been undone. Gynae said I could up my dose to 1000mg (1g?) a day if my cycle goes out of whack again but I just can't face the thought of more lost time whilst my body is being stupid.

Also worked out that the six months we've been given before clomid is only four cycles so feel despondent already

Sorry for the whine ladies, woke up early with DH who has to work and now brain is in overdrive x x

bigzippy

I'm kinda surprised you're not already on 1000mg/day Teamlowe... :huh: it was the dose I got put on straight away...

A thought just did occur to me though... Why am I still on metformin? Cos I'm no longer insulin resistant, and doesn't matter if I ovulate now, does it! I'm not gonna ask until I've lost the rest of the weight though, just in case it's helping me along

TeamLowe

That's because I don't mean 1000mg, I mean 2000 mg, she was talking about taking 2x1000mg and clearly that was too confusing for my little head! Lol

I'm a strong believer in the placebo effect, so i say if you think it's helping then carry on til you're told otherwise x x

sexki11en

So sorry you're feeling down Lisa, *huge* hugs from Bristol. I've been a bit of a stranger on this thread - I find it helps take my mind off it, but I do pop my head in occasionally to see how you're all doing.

We're coming up to the year anniversary of my falling PG (through IVF) for the first (and last) time, next month. Everything's sodding anniversaries when you've lost a PG isn't it? It's been an awful year and no more hope left here sadly - no more NHS treatment and no money to self fund, just month after month of BFN's and my early menopause creeping ever closer (cycles getting very erratic now so surely won't be long before I'm a dried up old hag with no children)

So I forget this place ever existed and live my life. It's all I can do.

I hope you find some peace soon Lisa.

SK x

chickpea

Aw SK - Good to hear from you even if there's not better news from your corner.

It is all about anniversaries, isn't it? And not the happy kind as a rule.

I too have measured out my life (or at least the best part of my thirties) in OPKs..

We have now spent all the money we are going to spend on either conventional or quack treatments. I guess what you're left with after that is quiet (but diminishing) hope/or coming to terms with it.

It's all unfair, the simple fact of the matter is we got the rough end of the stick.

Lisa - so sorry you are still going through this. I think about your situation lots, wish there was a way to make you feel happier. I hope your next/final go brings you either success or the ability to move on if not. (Have you considered adoption? I know it's not for everyone.)

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Primmer - good luck this week..

Juju - good luck Weds.

BZ - Your weightloss is making me feel bad - I'm currently suffering from very bad cheese guilt..!

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Right - I'm off to pack, I'll be off on holiday tomorrow! Have a good week, one and all xx

bigzippy

TeamLowe wrote: »

That's because I don't mean 1000mg, I mean 2000 mg, she was talking about taking 2x1000mg and clearly that was too confusing for my little head! Lol

That makes more sense now

I'm a strong believer in the placebo effect, so i say if you think it's helping then carry on til you're told otherwise x x

Well, it occurred to me that if I'm gonna go for natural IVF (in the hopefully not too distant future) it might just help the cycle along - FS attributed my normal looking hormone levels to it, but I do still have PCOS so we'll see...:cool: It would be a pain to come off it and then restart it, and have to readjust my body to it again

sexki11en wrote: »

I've been a bit of a stranger on this thread - I find it helps take my mind off it, but I do pop my head in occasionally to see how you're all doing.

:wave:
I wish I could wave a magic wand. Or make sure there was a special concession on the Lottery for infertiles/those that need/could really do with expensive treatment

I hope you find peace, whatever happens

chickpea wrote: »

We have now spent all the money we are going to spend on either conventional or quack treatments. I guess what you're left with after that is quiet (but diminishing) hope/or coming to terms with it.

It's all unfair, the simple fact of the matter is we got the rough end of the stick.

I was thinking about it today - when would enough be "enough". When would I give up and say "forget it, it's just not happening". I guess at the moment my answer is "when the money runs out". I don't know how I feel if on my last IVF I had a miscarriage though, as I think that would make me hope the next time would be better, iyswim?

I guess you can only really cross the bridge, or turn around, if/when you get to it. And for everyone it's different. :cool:

BZ - Your weightloss is making me feel bad - I'm currently suffering from very bad cheese guilt..!

:rotfl: But I'm also thinking :drool: Mmmm cheese! I definitely have to watch my cheese intake atm :cool:

I got comfortably into my "goal clothes" today I'm like 3lbs off the smallest weight I ever remember on the scales, as an adult (I may've been smaller when I was at uni, but I didn't have scales then )

I'm getting there...slowly, but surely! :j