The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

countrybum

BZ - all the best for today, hope you get lots of answers xxxx

Primmer

ETO - good luck with testing on thurs

BZ - hope all goes well at fs today and you get some answers on what your options are and how you can proceed. Will be thinking of you.

AFM - I have scan on Friday morning and it can't come soon enough as an so bloated from injecting that I look at least 6 months pregnant and am struggling to find any clothes to wear to work which aren't really uncomfortable.

tea_lover

Feel really rubbish today. Don't know whether it's hormones (cried at a puppy yesterday) or just a crap day. Am so fed up at work but we so desperately need the money, and we definitely need the maternity pay. Feel like I'm trapped here until I get pg, which just won't happen!

Am also probably going to be made redundant soon - which in some ways is fine as I really don't want to be here anymore, but then I have to find another job and straight away start asking for time off for appts etc. It's just all a mess. The only way any of this works out is if I get pg before they relocate in december. No pressure then!

TeamLowe

good luck today BigZ, hope you're happy with the outcome x x

bigzippy

tea_lover wrote: »

BZ - best of luck for today. Will be thinking of you and your DH.

If it's any consolation (in a weird roundabout way) I've got pretty severe endo and have had for years, but ever since I first saw the FS they haven't been that bothered about it. The focus has always been on the PCOS and getting that sorted (hopefully via metformin & clomid). The endo just doesn't seem to be an issue to them. I thought after years of horrible hormone treatments and a lot of laps that that was going to be our biggest problem but it doesn't seem to be.

That was v rambly... hope it made some sort of sense lol. xx.

I see what you're saying, thanks. I guess my concern about it isn't so much having endo, but having endo that's been unchecked for 15 years. :cool: I'm worried that there's adhesions in more places than just my tubes etc. then again, I know of someone who had to have a colostomy bag because of endo, so I'm aware of the worst case scenarios iyswim?

The irony is, at my last appointment I essentially asked for a lap, cos I was that convinced there was something going on the hadn't found, and she said no

countrybum wrote: »

BZ - all the best for today, hope you get lots of answers xxxx

Thanks countrybum! How the devil are you? Long time no hear!

tea_lover wrote: »

Feel really rubbish today. Don't know whether it's hormones (cried at a puppy yesterday) or just a crap day. Am so fed up at work but we so desperately need the money, and we definitely need the maternity pay. Feel like I'm trapped here until I get pg, which just won't happen!

Am also probably going to be made redundant soon - which in some ways is fine as I really don't want to be here anymore, but then I have to find another job and straight away start asking for time off for appts etc. It's just all a mess. The only way any of this works out is if I get pg before they relocate in december. No pressure then!

The clomid can make you feel like this, apparently.

As for the work situation, I hope the thing that's best for your family happens, whether it's something you've considered as a possibility or not yet.

Primmer, you're inspiring me to keep some oversized clothes just incase I need to stim! Hope you're not waiting too long for EC and aren't too uncomfortable :cool:

Thanks ETO, how you doing? Driving yourself nuts yet?

jujugaboo

tea_lover wrote: »

Feel really rubbish today. Don't know whether it's hormones (cried at a puppy yesterday) or just a crap day. Am so fed up at work but we so desperately need the money, and we definitely need the maternity pay. Feel like I'm trapped here until I get pg, which just won't happen!

Am also probably going to be made redundant soon - which in some ways is fine as I really don't want to be here anymore, but then I have to find another job and straight away start asking for time off for appts etc. It's just all a mess. The only way any of this works out is if I get pg before they relocate in december. No pressure then!

I know exactly how you feel TL, i was in the same position with my old job, hated it but had to stay to get maternity pay and didn't want to start a new job and take time off etc. I got made redundant, found a self-employed job which made taking time off for appts at little easier and then got pregnant, I won't qualify for statutory maternity pay as i am self-employed but should get some maternity allowance. Its strange how things work out. Keep your chin up.

Hope appt was ok BZ.

bigzippy

Appt didn't go great. I'll be having surgery next month but she thinks there's no chance of unblocking the tubes. She thinks ivf will be our only chance, and they only offer two cycles of ivf on the NHS - including FET. For them to retrieve the eggs they'd have to go in through my belly. I have to lose more weight before I can be put on on the 18wk waiting list for it. Which means the earliest I would start ivf would be April/May.

Feel like my life just consists of waiting and waiting, with b0llock all to show for it.:(

I have a cyst they're gonna keep an eye on too.

TeamLowe

BigZ so sorry to hear your news, and I'm sorry it's coincided with a bfp on the other thread, that must be heard for you x x

I really really feel like getting pg is a magic trick I just can't do I know I did it once but that's starting to feel like a dream now, especially since I have no baby (
Sorry ladies, just feeling glum. Appointment on Thursday and I'm dreading it, irrational fear that they're going to say I'm not allowed a baby x

Primmer

BZ - huge hugs hun, so hard to hear only chance is ivf. It is awful to feel you are constantly waiting and nothing seems to be happening especially when it seems to happen so easy for others. Try to keep the faith though, you can lose the weight and get the treatment you need to get your baby and at least it's good news that you can get funding as its very expensive.

TeamLowe - huge hugs, life seems so unfair at times, really hope you get your forever baby really soon and your appointment goes well on Thursday.

Runnerduck

((HUGS)) BZ, i know how frustrating this waiting game is xx