The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

EverTheOptimist

Evening all.

No news for me, still in 2ww. Am trying desperately not to symptom spot, or compare with the BFP i had in Dec, which i am failing miserably. I know many of the symptoms are probably due to the progesterone.

Hope the injections are going ok Primmer.

Hope everything has calmed now juju and you are able to relax somewhat.

BZ - pleased the bleeding has stopped, lets hope you have a good appt now.

Hope everyone else is well.

bigzippy

How many dpo/dpt are you ETO? I catch myself thinking about symptoms I have right now, and that maybe I should do a test, and then I remember about the progesterone and the blocked tubes

Good luck with the follicle scan Primmer

Mrs rogers, I recognised your name straight away but I've forgotten your "story".:o Have they really left you for a year without inducing a period for you?!

I've got a scan (says pelvic and go with a full bladder, but I'd put money that they'd end up going TV) directly before my FS appt on tuesday. Getting more paranoid and anxious the closer tuesday gets... I must've been stuffing it down to try and function, for the past few weeks (especially while DH has been both stuffing it down and ceasing to function during that time!), and now it's almost tangibly close, my brain is letting me think about it again. Which leads to feelings. Which usually leads to tears.

I'm so worried they won't be able to save my tubes. I'm worried they'll tell me I need the surgery but won't put me on the waiting list til I'm 30bmi, and then the waiting list will be months long too. I'm worried they have more bad news from the hsg/scan that I don't already know about. I'm worried about a lot of things, and I know that only they can give me the answers I need, and there's no point second guessing it, or worrying about something that night never happen - but that's not how I'm wired, frankly

I can't wait for tuesday to be over with. Then at least I'll know more than I do now, hopefully with a plan of action, and can start to process it properly. :cool:

angelavdavis

Hi everyone and thanks for the lovely comments.

bigzippy wrote: »

Congratulations on your children Angela how long did the process take?

From the very start (ie contacting Social Services the very first time in July 2010) to the children moving in, it took 18 months.

I had to leave a minimum of 12 months after my failed IVF treatment before progressing the application (they want to know that you have truly come to terms with your infertility as getting pregnant while having adopted children can adversely affect the children).

They have been with us for 6 months.

tea_lover

BZ - best of luck for tomorrow. I really hope you get answers to your questions, and that it's all good news.

Re. endo - some of the blood is reabsorbed, but it can irritate the surrounding areas and lead to further adhesions as well.

EverTheOptimist

bigzippy wrote: »

How many dpo/dpt are you ETO? I catch myself thinking about symptoms I have right now, and that maybe I should do a test, and then I remember about the progesterone and the blocked tubes

I can't wait for tuesday to be over with. Then at least I'll know more than I do now, hopefully with a plan of action, and can start to process it properly. :cool:

I am 7dp3dt today, so still too early to be feeling anything and to early to test, although i may do an early test, but later this week, hubby goes away on thurs and i shouldnt be testing til next tues. But thought it would be nice for us to test together.

Sounds like you are having a really rough time of it. Thoughts are a nightmare arent they, you just can't stop them popping into your mind. then the more you try and stop them the more they are there. Try not to think about it being bad news, you don't know whats going to happen until you are there. Easier said than done i know.

Take care and thinking of you

MrsRogers

bigzippy wrote: »

Mrs rogers, I recognised your name straight away but I've forgotten your "story".:o Have they really left you for a year without inducing a period for you?!

Yes they did :mad: i kept asking but the doc said no point as wouldnt achieve anything and had to get to the root cause :mad: Flipping rubbish.

I have now been diagnoised with PCOS with insulin resistance lots and lots of blood tests and scans so been prescribed metformin. Docs sent us away with that .. .wont refer for us to FS as my BMI to high... doc basically said "you need to lose weight and a lot of it before they will do anything so no point refering you until then"

Just feel like the clock is ticking and we are treading water... fingers crossed the metformin does the trick. If not goodness knows what we'll do.

bigzippy

MrsRogers wrote: »

Yes they did :mad: i kept asking but the doc said no point as wouldnt achieve anything and had to get to the root cause :mad: Flipping rubbish.

I have now been diagnoised with PCOS with insulin resistance lots and lots of blood tests and scans so been prescribed metformin. Docs sent us away with that .. .wont refer for us to FS as my BMI to high... doc basically said "you need to lose weight and a lot of it before they will do anything so no point refering you until then"

Just feel like the clock is ticking and we are treading water... fingers crossed the metformin does the trick. If not goodness knows what we'll do.

If you're happy to tell us, what's your bmi? I am appalled they left you for a year with no period. It's known to be unhealthy for the womb lining :mad: I would ask to go to a gynae regardless, but if you're already on metformin there may be no point right now... :think: if it helps any, I started at bmi of 43 have now lost 60lbs (over 4st) and am no longer insulin resistant as a result. I can't exercise, it's all been (sensible) food control. I read a thing saying that where weight was an issue, fertility treatment was found to be no more effective than losing weight was, in something like 98% of cases. It spurred me on, to feel like every lb was improving my chances. (Although in my case blocked tubes is apparently my biggest problem now! ) They also say that losing 10% of your body weight is usually enough to restart ovulation too...

I'm not preaching, just trying to help

I would still push for a referral to your gynae/FS, actually. :think: Thinking about it, they took 9 months to actually get all the tests they'd ordered done, and in that time I'd lost significant weight. They want you to aim for a particular bmi before they'll give you clomid or ivf (ivf is the strictest) but my FS nurse told me that so long as I was showing a determined effort in getting as close as possible to the clomid bmi number, they'd show some discretion. She was right, I was all set to get clomid this time (my bmi is now 33 bordering on 32), but there's no point now my tubes need unblocking first.

HTH and wasn't too waffle-y!


Dh is freaking out about tomorrow's appt with the FS and has it in his head that they'll tell us there's nothing they can do and we'll never have kids. We've discussed how illogical this is, especially without having a lap done first etc, but it's still stuck in his head. :cool:

I'm back to wanting the surgery asap, if only so I/we (he's terrified of losing me, especially now he is an (only child) orphan ) don't have months to freak out about it

When's your scan primmer?

Tealover, thanks - I'm not gonna lie, I'm pretty convinced it's endo, and I'm rather worried about what other damage it may have done, considering the pains I get etc :cool:

mrshappy

Good luck at your appointment BZ, hope it goes as well as it can x

EverTheOptimist

Good luck today BZ. Will be thinking of you. xxx

tea_lover

BZ - best of luck for today. Will be thinking of you and your DH.

If it's any consolation (in a weird roundabout way) I've got pretty severe endo and have had for years, but ever since I first saw the FS they haven't been that bothered about it. The focus has always been on the PCOS and getting that sorted (hopefully via metformin & clomid). The endo just doesn't seem to be an issue to them. I thought after years of horrible hormone treatments and a lot of laps that that was going to be our biggest problem but it doesn't seem to be.

That was v rambly... hope it made some sort of sense lol. xx.