The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Nicki

I do understand Big Z and I am so sorry about your news. Nothing in my post was meant to say that I don't understand how you and Tealover and the other ladies feel. I just know that some of the other ladies are grieving too, and I don't think you or Tealover would intentionally cause them extra pain, if reminded they are also here and posting and reading regularly.

bigzippy

Nicki wrote: »

I do understand Big Z and I am so sorry about your news. Nothing in my post was meant to say that I don't understand how you and Tealover and the other ladies feel. I just know that some of the other ladies are grieving too, and I don't think you or Tealover would intentionally cause them extra pain, if reminded they are also here and posting and reading regularly.

Thanks
I didn't take it like that either

I just wish everyone would post a bit more It can be a bit of a ghost town on here when everyone's quiet/down/etc... I prefer posting on here generally. I know now it's where I'm really supposed to be, but I do miss the frequency of posting that the TTC thread gets. :shhh: I don't think I can bear any more newbie BFPs for a while though...

Primmer

BZ - I do understand what you are saying. Even going through ivf now I still think I haven't fully come to terms with not being able to conceive naturally and to be honest I am not sure I ever will. Growing up you never envisage that you wont be able to do what it appears everyone else is doing. It is natural and right to feel hurt, upset, angry and a whole host of other emotions.

I stopped posting on the ttc thread months ago now as I could bear the jealousy I felt at others bfp's or the complaints that it wasn't happening after just 1 month of trying. That isn't to say the posters were wrong just that I couldn't handle it and found it increasingly difficult to be part of.

This thread may not be as fast moving but those who do post understand the struggle as they have gone through it or are going through it and I find that helps me, just knowing that I am not the only one who is going through this and that others feel the same as I do.

jujugaboo

We all at times need to rant and let off steam and thats what this thread is for but also to help with queries and shared experiences.

I haven't grieved that I will never conceive naturally nor do I get angry about it. Yes its hard and upsetting but I could be a lot worse off. I have a house, a job and a lovely husband.

I understand BZ that people think IVF is so easy but its so hard emotionally and success rates are still not that great in the UK. Its tough to put yourself through it but if its a child you want you do it.

TL - if your cow-bag I am too. The times i look at disgust at mothers shouting and swearing at their kids whilst having a fag, this makes me anrgy when I know I would be a much better mum. Its normal to feel like that it comes and goes.

I never thought it would work for me and I have had to endure 4 rounds of ICSI and 1 FET but I know people on here who have had it harder. I will move away from the thread soon as i don't want to feel like I am rubbing your noses in it as that would be the last thing I would want to do but i wan't to wait to my 12 week scan first to make sure everything is ok.

The journey is long very long.

Big hugs to everyone. x

lisawood78

Don't go Juju, you give me hope :-)

lisawood78

Bz, I've posted on the TTC thread to you, I hope it's helpful and not hurtful. I've heard all the IVF comments over the years, while still getting the 'relax and it will happen' comments, these days I have no hesitation in replying that yes, relaxing is well known for regrowing a new set of Fallopian tubes.
As for us, we are trying another full cycle (round 10) in January. Madness, I know but I can't let go, I'm not prepared to accept it, not yet x

bigzippy

lisawood78 wrote: »

Don't go Juju, you give me hope :-)

I feel the same

lisawood78 wrote: »

Bz, I've posted on the TTC thread to you, I hope it's helpful and not hurtful. I've heard all the IVF comments over the years, while still getting the 'relax and it will happen' comments, these days I have no hesitation in replying that yes, relaxing is well known for regrowing a new set of Fallopian tubes.
As for us, we are trying another full cycle (round 10) in January. Madness, I know but I can't let go, I'm not prepared to accept it, not yet x

Thanks I'm working out my standard issue response as we speak

How did they get to your eggs then? I'm more than a little intrigued now...:think:

jujugaboo

lisawood78 wrote: »

Don't go Juju, you give me hope :-)

Ahh bless you, I don't know how you do it, you are a tower of strength. Are you going to try anything different this time, have you done assisted hatching??

I will stick around for a bit longer but will always be checking on you all

fluffnutter

bigzippy wrote: »

I feel the same

Thanks I'm working out my standard issue response as we speak

How did they get to your eggs then? I'm more than a little intrigued now...:think:

I guess they still go up your mooer like normal. When I had my egg collections they pass the needle into each ovary by going sideways through the vaginal wall. AFAIK they don't go anyway near your tubes.

fluffnutter

jujugaboo wrote: »

I will move away from the thread soon as i don't want to feel like I am rubbing your noses in it as that would be the last thing I would want to do..

I feel like this too and am often wary about posting. I can't help myself though because there are often posts that I have a particular interest in/experience of and hope that my replies will help someone. Never do I want to be blase or jolly people along by saying 'look girls! What are you worrying about? It worked for me! Chin up!'. That's not what it's about. It's just about sharing experiences and support.