The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

ginvzt

Ok, I am making a round of tea and cake. (Ok, I make it fruity tea, no caffeine).

Virtual cups of tea and cake are coming your way!
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Leopardlady

Thanks ginvzt Just what we needed, very kind of you to make it all

I am sitting at my desk doubled over, i am very glad i have an office to myself! Stomach cramps, oh well out for lunch with a friend who is getting married on Sat!! so that will be lovely

Enjoy your cakes ladies

cedrickerry

jiblets1 wrote: »

Hi all, i wonder if it's the time of year - I'm barely holding it together at the moment too. Depression are us.

Me too ...had an HSG on Friday - one tube etc. fine, but one has some kind of blockage up near the ovary end - not seeing the consultant til December, but they did say the results would be with my gp next week

OH still being hesistant with his second swimmer test (you may remember there was next to no chance of us conceiving naturally given his first test)

Feeling a bit more down than usual about the whole thing to be honest, but adopted a dog on Sunday!

ginvzt

Congratulations on the dog!!!!

I remember when we got our cat (also adopted - just over 6 months ago), it was my 'baby'.. Well, he still is, and he is definitely my cat, not OHs. I love him to bits!

emmzy

For any of you who follow the other thread youll know I have my surrogate baby Katie, Shes a wee kitten whos mum died in birth and i have bottle fed her since she was a day old shes 10 weeks today and is just like a baby crys for attention or feeding and loves nothing more than mummy cuddles Im actually terrified of cats but since we went to visit MIL and saw the then 4 tiny kittens who would have died without us I couldnt resist, they were a week early and never had a feed from mother so missed out on all the important things in the milk so the vet didnt think any would survive but wee Katies here sitting annoying my toes just now and I love her

Also found out a few hours ago that the horrible cow that OHs brother is engaged to went into labour 6 weeks early and OH has taken the afternoon off work to go to the hospital and sit with his brother So Im about to be a auntie again thats 7 neices an nephews and its really got to me that we havent got any of our own but Im holding it together(apart from earlier when I was in tears but no one needs to know that sshhh) and Ill go up and visit tomorrow with a big smile and a present(for baby not mum I cant stand her lol) and pretend Im overjoyed and not jealous one tiny bit ....

Leopardlady

Hi Ladies,

I am really sorry so many of you are suffering this month, i always find October a good month, must be something to do with my birthday (only a week away! ) although i am sure that will change soon as i will want to forget how old i am!
The weather has been beautiful today and is set to stay the same for the rest of the week so that helps me keep smiling
I have very bad stomach cramps today and my boobs are very sore, now i just have to hold out for a week before testing, not sure i can, i need to be busy to take my mind of it all, but at the moment i am alone all day with little to do, so will power is all i have!

I hope that you all have a wonderful evening

SkintMonkey

Hello all. I thought it might be good for me to join this thread and in a virtual sense meet people in a similar boat to me.

I've been off the pill for about 2.5 years and nothing - not even a late period, nothing. Two ovulation tests have shown that I'm not ovulating apparantly, so I have an appointment in December at the local fertility clinic.

I'm really scared. I'm scared that it will just not happen and I will never fall pregnant. I'm scared about all that we are going to have to go through if things are not going to be straight forward for us.

My husband and I have a strong relationship and I know we will get through anything, but I know in my mind sex is now becoming more about project B, not about us anymore.

Day to day I generally feel quite relaxed and remind myself that firstly I am only 29 (and a half!) and there are a lot of people in worse situations then us. But I'm selfish and keep coming back to us. I keep having dark moments where I suddenly feel very worried about it all. I've stopped going on facebook now as it just depresses me as all my old school friends seem to be having babies left, right and centre.

Anyway, sorry, just had to off load. Hope that is ok.

MadMac_2

jiblets1 wrote: »

Hi all, i wonder if it's the time of year - I'm barely holding it together at the moment too. Depression are us.

Ooh, so true! That really did make me laugh though when I read that, so it can't be all bad here, just feels like it!

Leopardlady, hope you feel better soon - hot water bottle and lots of TLC being assigned to you this evening, take care of yourself, x

Lilo, same goes - take care of yourself and come and chat whenever you want to, x

Ginvzt, make mine a lemon and ginger tea please, thank you! I'll be there shortly

Skintmonkey, hi and you've come to the right place, many of us seem to be feeling it right about now! So welcome to the 12+ club now renamed as the DDLCC (the Depression Due to Lack of Conceiving Club) - catchy, eh :rotfl:

You are always welcome to offload on us, that is what we are here for - I may not help much at times, but will always listen, x

Cedrickerry, I'm so jealous, but what lovely news! I have no doubt at all that your new addition to the family will help you through the dark times. I miss our dog terribly, but we just cannot bring ourselves to take on another one yet, but years later I still can smell and feel her, she was my baby and I doted on her.

Just to add to my low mood - peak on CBFM came and went, then OH decided he would make the effort, but then couldn't fulfil his side of the deal. I'll give him his due, he tried and tried and tried - but failed. So I feel like the walking wounded today, without the possible positive outcome from it all :rolleyes:

Oh well, wishing you all a lovely evening, I'm only ever a PM away if not officially online on here x

becs

Oh MadMac that was almost me last week except DH couldn't fulfil his side of the deal on ov day! So ended up with an argument rather than began! I'm so fed up with him not making any effort to improve his health, he said he'd give up booze but then found out no good unless it's for at least 3 months so took that as the cue to start drinking! Don't get me wrong he's not a big drinker, a few cans of beer a few times a week but I just feel he needs to make some effort! I have to have my tablets for the tumour, folic acid, b6, don't drink, try and eat healthily ignoring all the junk he brings in and he's doing nothing! Which leads us on to the non performance side of things and yet another month with not the maximum ammount of effort.
I think it's because he's younger than me so only 31, and he sees women having babies into mid forties so assumes we have all the time in the world. I've tried telling him that if we don't conceive in the next 6 months we won't be having a baby before I'm 38. The fact I'm only 36 now makes it scarier to me, the fact that 6 months now makes the difference of 37 or 38, particually as we would love to have more than just the 1!

caroline78

Hiya,

Just thought I would add my story. I'm Caroline and have been trying to get pregnant for just over five years now. My partner has three kids from a previous relationship who are now 17, 15 and 13. I am 31 and he is 35 and we have no kids together. I did get pregnant earlier in the year and carried it for nine weeks before losing it on the 26th May.
I have now started going for tests as I couldn't get anyone to refer me before as I was told I still had loads of time. I have had the day 21 test and apparently my protesgne level should be between 12 and 90, mines 10 !!
My period was due on Sunday/Monday and hasn't came yet, but I have done two tests and both are negative....I spend a fortune on tests on ebay, buy them in packs of 10 about every two months...lol