The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

chickpea

JuJu and Onestep - you are really both in the same boat now. Must be agonising. Symptoms/no symptoms - none of it means anything until testing, so try not to go too crazy. Sore boobs especially are *not* a reliable indication of anything!!

I'll say a little prayer for both of you (and everyone else in the 2ww.)

Sometimes it just weighs really heavy. And the worst thing is - there is literally no escape! I went to M&S cafe for a quiet cup of tea earlier - my choice of tables included one with a view of a breastfeeding newborn, one with a view of a heavily pg, and one with a view of the family with 2 under 2. I went for the view of the bump, and sat with my back to her. She was a stroker too, the worst kind.

I'm on CD12 - I'm definitely acting under the influence of hormones...just hope it's the right kind.

I'd love to go on a booze bender to tell the truth - but the old and wise part of me knows that never solved anything...tempting though.

chickpea

mokba43 wrote: »

Chickpea, im in the same boat, im a nanny of 2 gorgeous girls, one is having a sister/brother, our best friends are recent parents and my whole working life revolves around happy families and little angels.

Hang in there, it will pass. PM me if you need to chat xxx

I couldn't do that, you must need a lot of strength. Good luck to you - how long have you been TTC? (sorry if you've already posted all that and I missed it!)

chickpea

lisawood78 wrote: »

Ahh Chickpea, I think it must be the week for it as I feel awful too.
Nothing any of us can see will fix it but we're hear to listen and to send big cyber hugs to you. Hope the dark cloud gives way a little and you can see the sunshine again.
xx

Thanks Lisa - let my buy you a virtual drink. Have a glass of Champagne - because you're worth it! No virtual expense spared.

You lot on here actually are really helpful - there comes a point in RL when there's nothing more to say, or else I am just sick of trying to talk about it with people who can't comprehend or just keep telling me I should be happy with what I have in life. Maybe it's all the more annoying because I know they're right...

I wish I could pull a 2 week sickie. Or escape to a spa for a few days, maybe I'll think about that.

lisawood78

I run a toddler group and am a P/T childminder also and when of those chilren run up and gives you that big hug there are days when holding back the tears is hard, very hard.

Onestep and Juju
I hate the 2ww with a passion, it drives the most stable people potty especially with the extra hormones flying about. You know it, I know it, everyone who has ever googled it knows it but it doesn't stop the pain, AF and BFP symptoms can be the same, you may get none, you may get all and not a single one is indicative of anything. Til you get to that test or that Fat lady sings you are PUPO. Thinking and hoping for you both ladies xx

anmarj

hugs to all that are needing, colleagues wife announced in the early part of last year about them having another baby but I had to put a brave face on and congratulated him but inside I was hurting. It made me realise how much I wanted a family, and when you can't have it, it hurts like mad. I remember when I got the letter from the fertility clinc I had to hide it as I kept looking at it and crying like hell, that is how in laws had found out as I had been crying in the car just before we had got to them. I ended up hiding the letter, it was the only way to cope. Thankfully hubby has been very supportive, and has come to all the visits to the hospital even though he didn't have to but he has said we are in this together. Now I have the hsg scheduled and near to losing the extra weight I am starting to feel that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, although I feel sad that if the Clomid does not work, then we have no chance of having a child as I cannot get IVF on the nhs due to my age.

jujugaboo

Lets all go mad together in the 2ww and pass me a vodka, lime and lemonade please

Hugs and good luck to all. x

onestep

mine's a G&T please! I'll be joining chickpea on that bender in 2 weeks time if AF finds me

chickpea

I hope you don't need a real, or fantasy bender...

But if you do, I'll be ready to join you - and remember, wine is so much more than just a breakfast drink..!

onestep

chickpea wrote: »

and remember, wine is so much more than just a breakfast drink..!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

sillysausage1977

JuJu and Onestep - Hang in there guys, I totally feel your pain, this was me a week ago, remember no symptons dosn't mean anything - which does not help your sanity in the slightest. I have everything crossed for you both xxx

Chickpea - hugs to you xxx

I have my next nurses consultation booked for 2nd March, 3 weeks Friday and counting.