The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Murray

Good luck Runner & C4B! I'll be joining you for the 2ww.

jujugaboo

Good Luck runner, C4B and Murry.

If you want 2 put back in then I would request it, especially if this your only shot.

Cake4brains

Thanks everyone, we have decided to have 1 egg transferred. 2 are being frozen. Horrible decision that I never want to have to make again.

When they rang this morning they said if we had 2 put back today, the 3rd could be cultured over weekend and if it goes to blasto, frozen from Monday. The problem there is of course, we cant guarantee it will go to blastocyst so that could be 1 egg wasted. And god forbid this cycle fails we would be left with nothing.

They said if we transferred 1, the other 2 would be frozen today. There would then be an 80% chance of them surviving. So theoretically we could have 2 chances at this. A relative has kindly offered to help us pay for the FET if it comes to that

I feel so down having to decide this, particularly as my OH backs away from any important decisions that have to be made, so I basically decided on my own. Had a good cry and know I have to get myself in a positive frame of mind for this afternoon, dont want my little embaby receiving any negative vibes!

Good luck to Runnerduck and Murray for today, see you both on the other side :T

Nicki

Good luck cake4brains. When we did it, the norm was to put back 2, but we didn't get enough eggs to even put back 1. We were told then however that if they put back 2, there was a risk of triplets or even quads, as the embie is still at that stage where it can divide again to create an identical twin at the point they are put back. I have since read that the success rates are no higher with 1 or 2 egg transfers but the risk of multiples obviously is much greater. I don't know about you but I'd much prefer to have kids one at a time. Twins sounds great, but having seen people struggle with newborn twins, I know I personally would hate it. So fxd that your one nestles in nice and comfy, and that you are back in about 10 days time with a naughty early BFP.

Cake4brains

Thanks Nicki, Im getting there with the PMA!

Runnerduck

hi all hope everything went well for you today C4B

we are back, only one emby defrosted ok the other didn't make it so we've been and had the ET this afternoon, i was a bit dissapointed but at least we have one in there now for the dreaded 2ww, C4B & murray at least we will be able to symptom spot together , good luck all

Cake4brains

Hugs Runnerduck, got everything crossed for you. Hope the little one snuggles in nicely.

All went ok with us, like you said now its just a matter of waiting. Is it normal to have some slight cramping after transfer? I'm now laid on the settee with a cuppa, think I'll stay here for 2weeks!

Hope all went ok with you too Murray?

Runnerduck

hi, glad yours went well to, yes cramping is normal i had lots the first time (bfp only miscarrage) more than i did with the second (bfn) so i'm happy to feel cramps. i'm planning plenty of sofa time too over the next 2 weeks, look after yourself xxx

onestep

Good luck girls I've got everything crossed for you both

Xx

Murray

Glad today was ok for you both - Fingers crossed & enjoy your sofa time! We're still working at it the conventional way - we'll be referred for ivf in the new year if nothing happens this month. Cd15 so officially joining the 2ww as of today, the difference is that I'm not pregnant until proven otherwise like you ladies! x