The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

cedrickerry

Just popping in ....CD5...2nd clomid cycle (and like a woman possessed!) ..DTD for fun 2x last month( whoo hoo! lolx) and DH asking when time might be better this month. This is +ve as he held no hope of natural conception b4. He gave up smoking day after appointment so 2months now! things can only get better (see trying to be positive when all around me are pg ...including young women i work with and i have to support through all the options:eek:)

sorry was supposed to be popping and now it is lingering!

Hugs to all who need them, enjoy the weekend ....x

toniq

At last sorted my head on this one, I'm def doing a frozen transfer after holiday to tunisia in July and have started saving for a fresh ivf again if need be, we have enough frozen for 3 attempts, we are gonna go aggressive and leave 8 weeks between each so hoping to kick start my body, and if we get no-where plan next jan for our third and maybe final fresh ivf.

Im 38 in june so we r not wasting time now, im very up about the whole situation as don't have the house to really do up much more so can concentrate on this xxxxx

Really hope u r all doing ok, i have lurked on this thread as it all gets a bit raw at times, u know what i mean xxx

the frozen with drugs are arounf £850 each so we can def afford that with minimal effort but if i do have another fresh they will up the drugs and that will be well over 5k with icsi xx

I dare not think what we could have done with all this money we have spent on this xxxxxx

toniq

jiblets1 wrote: »

Hi all, I think OH and I have decided we will go private. I don't know why it doesn't seem 100% right though. It kinda seems like cheating, and we all know cheaters never prosper... We rang the clinic today and were gutted to realise we can't get a private appointment until May 20th anyway! I thought if we went private we'd be seen next week! We then also had a little scan on the web for other private options, and there seem to be very few around here. So also a bit gutted about that. And to be honest, looking at their website I couldn't make out what the hell was included in packages, what wasn't and how much it would all cost us in the end. Private with our same NHS consultant seems a lot simpler, and we already trust these people anyway. So I think maybe that's the way we'll go. It still feels odd though. And I'm not sure why.

Do you think it would be likely that if we kept ringing a cancellation might come up for sooner? Basically the difference if we go private is it'll probably be time for the big 2ww in Julyish on private and decemberish on NHS. And I did barter with my sanity that if I got 2 (I know, maybe I wouldn't need both) IVF goes in this year, my brain wouldn't go pop. So NHS = only one go this year. And private = one private go and maybe one NHS go this year. I thought it would feel simple. Why doesn't it?

If u feel comfortable just bite ur lip and wait, feeling u can trust ur consultant is crucial for ur frame of mind in ivf.

I've never managed to do more than 1 fresh ivf a year as it's too mindblowing and it takes me a while to get my head straight,

Inbetween my consultant does further tests etc,

I also don't try to think past each stage of ivf as it is so hectic and full on that i struggle.

the inital gonal f injections done my head in as they go on forever then when it is all over i wish i was back to that gonal f stage when it is all so exciting!

Hope they fit u in soon xxxxxx

ginvzt

How is everyone? Very quiet...

I am on my work trip. It is unbearably hot (went for a walk in the morning, and was sweating so much, that it was running down my face and back - and that was before 10am!!!). I am flying offshore tomorrow - and I will have to wear coveralls and boots and hard hat. Guess how hot will I feel then!

On the TTC side no news. We are skipping this month with Clomid, which feels quite good. I can concentrate on the weight loss (well, not while I am here - had pancakes with maple syrup for breakfast, yummy!) and get back to Clomid in May.

liloandstitch

Enjoy yourself ginvzt xx

lilo

liloandstitch

Hi everyone, hows it going? Im now in the 2ww

Lilo

shelly

liloandstitch wrote: »

Hi everyone, hows it going? Im now in the 2ww

Lilo

Hi Lilo

As usual I have nothing to report On CD21 so I'm in the 2ww too.

JohnnieStar

Me too Lilo and Shelly. But if I'm not pregnant this time, then we aren't going to carry on TTC for now. We've gotten into really bad rent arreas so are facing being kicked out I cnt bring another child into the world when I cant even afford to keep a roof over my head. DF really wants to carry on TTC, but I cant. Sorry for the downer x

liloandstitch

Hi JohnnieStar, sorry to hear that you are having so much trouble. I really hope you can sort it all out. Big hugs to you and DF. Lilo

Hiya Shelly XX

princess85

hi everyone i'd love to join this thread.

i'll apoligise in advance if this is a long post.

after having my DS four years ago me and my OH have never taken precautions and never had an 'accident' we have been hoping for a baby for around 2 and a half years but i have only recently tryed to pinpoint when i am fertile by using charts online,i have been doing this for three cycles now.

i am now at the stage where i am really starting to worry why nothing has happened.my OH is not my DS biological dad so i am thinking could it be him?before i fell pregnant with my DS i was TTC for around a year and a half. i joined the trying for a baby thread and someone reccomened this thread to me as i am now thinking about buying a fertility tester,i also have a doctors appointment next friday but i have no idea how im going to put all this to the dr.

any advice would be great and sorry again for the long post xx