The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

JoJo77

Welcome skintmumofone

I am in a much better frame of mind than I was a few days ago - you'll all be pleased to know. I have decided that this month will be the perfect month; good food, no alhohol, bd at the correct time, lots of relaxation and the clomid tablets. Then at least if af shows up I can't blame myself for anything. A bfp now would mean it would be born around dh's birthday. Hope the pma keeps up.

FairyElephant_2

Natalie6999 wrote: »

I am really begining to wonder if I am too old at 43 to conceive & am thinking of asking my GP if I can have blood tests to check my hormone levels & if I am ovulating.

If I find that I am too old & it is impossible to conceive then I think that I would be able to accept it in time, but this not knowing & building my hopes up each month is killing me.

Hi Natalie,
I'd say definitely go to your GP and ask for (if necessary demand!) some blood tests at least. If you think they may be difficult about it, look up the NICE guidelines and take a printout of the relevant bits (that's what I had to do in the end to get action from my GP!).
You are NOT too old to conceive at 43, but as you'll know, our fertility does naturally decrease as we get older, so you may find that 'mother nature' needs a helping hand!
Wishing you all the very best,
FE

Bunnie1982

Feeling really down today, I just feel like the things I want I can't have, and it makes me wonder if someone out there is cruelly mocking me. Don't suppose it helps matters when my IBS is playing up and I feel really tired and crabby through not getting a good night sleep. I keep having really vivid dreams where my friends keep telling me their pregnant and it's never me.

Nikabella

Just wanted to say Good luck with the laparoscopy Ginvzt.

A.x

jiblets1

JoJo77 wrote: »

Welcome skintmumofone

I am in a much better frame of mind than I was a few days ago - you'll all be pleased to know. I have decided that this month will be the perfect month; good food, no alhohol, bd at the correct time, lots of relaxation and the clomid tablets. Then at least if af shows up I can't blame myself for anything. A bfp now would mean it would be born around dh's birthday. Hope the pma keeps up.

I'm glad the PMA is back JoJo. I think we're all in need of a bit of that at the moment. :j
I'm not feeling too bad, though I'm still cross that even the clomid has failed to give me a regular period this month. I'm getting a bit of DBS, so I'm hopeing that the period will arrive soon so we can be onwards and upwards to the last cycle.
This one has been a complete waste with all the stress and complete busy-ness that OH and I have been through. But we're both teachers so summer holidays are here. As much as it means we can relax, it also brings with it the pressure of "it's holidays now, that's athe perfect time to conceive". I remember being quite upset when AF arrived after last year's summer holiday, as I had spent so long that year thinking "maybe it'll happen when we both relax in the summer".
But anyway the relaxation is coming in (slowly), and it really is helping the PMA return. Hope that the PMA can back in for lots more of us. And if we get what we're promised the lovely sunshine will be back soon...:T

spaghetti_monster

Hi all!

Have been feeling a bit low of late - AF sort of trickled in the past few days (after only 62 days and several depressing pregnancy tests!!) and seems to be just as much of a non-period as the last one..

I went to see the GP, who called a gynaecologist and the conclusion is to wait it out and come back in 3 months if things are not more back to normal. They said it was all par-for-the-course after an mc, settling back down. I guess I didn't get that fertility surge after the mc.....

I've seen a couple of people have mentioned acupuncture and I was wondering about trying some myself - get the hormones/cycle back in balance or something? Does anyone have any opinons or experience??

liloandstitch

Hiya alex w - sorry that you are still having problems it must be very frustrating. I have had acupuncture over a couple of years, and found it to be beneficial. It did help to regulate my periods. My reservation, if I have one at all, is that it didnt pick up that I had cancer. I dont mean as a diagnosis, but there was something quite seriously wrong with me, which I would have thought would have shown up in some way maybe not specifically but my body was fighting it, and I understood that this would have been felt? I dont know enough about it, but it has shaken my confidence in it - although I must say that at the time, I raved about it, I felt really relaxed and I did feel that my body was in a natural rhythmn.

I have also tried evening primrose oil which I am taking at the moment to return me to a longer cycle, after surgery I was getting a period every 21 days. After 2 months this has returned to 25 which is a vast improvement. I have also tried Agnus Castus, which is like a herbal clomid - which I found great the first time, but not helpful the second as it mucked me about.

Whatever you decide to do, make sure you go to a reputable practitioner, someone recommended if you can and if going down the herbal route, I would go to a herbalist rather than self dose.

Hope this helps in some way - if I can add anything further let me know, or pm me if you prefer

Lilo

liloandstitch

Hi everyone:hello::hello::hello:

Glad you are all getting back your PMA I though I was going to have to do a bit of this to get you all back on track

Natalie6999, I agree with FE and ask for blood tests, they can give you an indication of remaining fertility. I understood that until you are going through the menopause you were still able to fall pregnant although this reduces as you get nearer to it. Usual age is 48 - 52 apparently, so I would have said you have years left in you!!!

Jiblets1 - enjoy those summer holidays, try not to put yourself under too much pressure to get pregnant - relax and enjoy your break and see what happens. Its good to know that you are feeling more relaxed already.

Hugs butterfly lady I read it all, and ranting allowed!

Welcome skintmumofone good to have you on board

Hello to everyone else and will catch up on everything else soon!!
Lilo

Somnium

Aww hugs to all of you needing one and lots of baby dust to those who need that too. Agree with Lilo you all need to keep up your PMA. Hope everyone has lovely plans for the weekend xx

[Deleted User]

Hello everyone :hello:

Not posted on this new board yet. I'm 32, fell pg last june by accident, but we were so happy. I miscarried in Aug at 7w So as soon as I was 'better' we got busy trying again, I've been using fertility monitors and mymonthlycycles but nothing yet.

Some 'problems', I have epilepsy and take medication for it, which although are not the worst in relation to pregnancy are not the best either. I dont know if this is causing problems Speciallist nurse insists it could be worse and continue taking them. I know I have to, multiple seizures wont help me get pregnant.

Right now I'm going bonkers as DH works term time so we could be busy trying BUT I had knee surgery 10 wks ago and still not recovered. Cant bend my leg and pain so as you can imagine it's giving us some difficulties trying. Only managed 2 times throughout the feritle days I actually want to kill my surgeon these problems with my knee shouldnt have happened & I should be fit and well by now.

As you can imagine as it's been a year and no bfp and the other problems which are and might be stopping me getting it I'm going bonkers. It feels like it's never going to happen and I've had my only chance. Cant really speak to my doc about it yet, still annoying them about and working on getting the knee better.