The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

mokba43

You think that's bad Codemonkey?! My infertility unit in hospital shares the waiting room with..... Yes! You've guessed it! Antenatal!

mokba43

Oh and sorry you have a sinus infection! Last time I bought a sterimar nasal cleaner and googled how to clean sinuses and it went super quick!

vseviour

Hi everyone,

angeltreats wrote: »

Just been to the GP and got our FS referral. Our appointment is on 3 October which gives me 6 weeks exactly to lose 1 BMI point so I fall within the IVF funding criteria - hopefully if I keep at the gym and running and weight watchers that shouldn't be too hard. That's even assuming they weigh me at the first appointment.

I wasn't weighed until we were at the stage of signing consents, and even then my BMI was 30.2, was told 'you can lose that in time!'. A friend once said 'I want a baby more than chips and cheese' and so every time I didn't feel motivated to run, I remembered that sentiment! :rotfl: Good luck!

mrshappy wrote: »

I became an auntie again at the weekend, which was just amazing, so lots of happiness and love in the family

Congrats!! - I have a new baby nephew and it's weird how I've gone from jealous to content now he's a real person. Think it helps that we're on an IVF cycle (just a few weeks ahead of you), rather than waiting and waiting with nothing in place.

tea_lover wrote: »

I was a complete cow on menopur. But I'm a complete cow most of the time anyway so hard to tell what's hormones and what's personality!

Great, I'm starting it tonight!! Poor hubby We've had a rough few weeks - flatpack furniture and IVF drugs don't mix.

Really good app with FS today though, taught how to do the jabs, fingers crossed for tonight, also got to take Buserelin from Sunday to boost the Prostap.
I also found out I've been invited to a second job interview, but it's in NI 2 days after egg collection :cool: So hopefully egg collection Wed 4th Sept, recover Thursday, fly Manc - Belfast for job interview Fri 6th Sept, in time to rest for ET in Leeds on either Sat 7th or Mon 9th. Be a miracle if this works out to plan!!! :beer: If it seems too much or schedule changes, I'm just going to miss the interview. What will be, will be and all that.
Hope everyone has a good evening, V x

Wonder_Woman

mrshappy wrote: »

Good morning, I had written out a massive post a couple of mornings ago and it vanished into thin air

WW-have they told you what the problem with hubbys vas deferens is? What have his SA results been like? My OH has no vas deferens at all as he carries a CF gene, all his SA's were zero. He had a procedure where the sperm was removed directly from the testes, I can't remember now if it was a MESA or a PESA-not a general anaesthetic anyway. (Hubby moaned about it being sore for days on end, pppffftt, what a whinge!) It cost about £1000 if you will be paying for treatment. Another SA is then done, and if it's good it's frozen, we have used it for a cycle of ICSI which was unsuccessful and we are now trying with donor eggs.
Perhaps your OH still some good wee sperm getting through, which is why they have suggested IVF rather than MESA or PESA though.


AFM-had baseline scan and Prostap injection on Tuesday night,
so that's this cycle underway, exciting and scary. My bum is really sore after the jag, I'm sure it didn't ache as much the last time.

I became an auntie again at the weekend, which was just amazing, so lots of happiness and love in the family

Hope everyone is good, I must be really lucky with my work, my line manager knows and is really supportive. I have been told to take whatever time I need whenever I need it as long as I let someone know if I'm not in. Brilliant.

Thanks MrsHappy Congrats on being an auntie again!

DH's issue is supposedly to do with a faulty valve in his tubes that means all of the good stuff is not ending up in his ejaculate but in his bladder - or so they think, although there is some 'evidence' to the contrary (excuse the TMI). I love that all of this has so far been diagnosed by the doctor having a quick fumble of his balls, how very scientific!!

Initially our fertility doctor had said that SA was a waste of time for DH and we would go straight to surgical removal, analysis of that and freezing but now turns out after speaking with them today that the surgical removal/freezing app. I thought I had booked is actually just a normal analysis. Apparently it's a requirement of our funding that this is done and if even 1 decent sperm is found, it has to be frozen and used. I just can't see how that is going to help but just means more traipsing up and down to the clinic which is miles away Weirdly hoping it's zero so that they will get on with the surgical route if that makes sense?

We would just like an idea of timing but definitely thinking more and more about going for it now although DH keeps telling me not to get my hopes up. Obsessed with watching baby programmes at the moment which isn't helping any.

t2d - crying at the doctors office is a given for me! Lol! Sorry to hear your apt didn't go well x

Silly question but what is AFM? x

Floaty

Hi Wonder, AFM means 'as for me...'

Had our first appointment with a really lovely FS. Took histories, weighed and measured me (BMI 30.6, but not mentioned), quick internal exam and a number of tests arranged. Got bloods (x2) for me, plus dildocam and HSG, and another SA for hubs.. We're on the way And I gotta lose some weight I guess!!

time2deal

Evening ladies. Congrats on being an Auntie MrsHappy - sorry I forgot to say it! I love being an aunt. The weekend before last my very good friend had another baby, which is virtually like another niece to me. My friend now has two gorgeous little girls, but while I'm jealous, I don't feel like I want those kids, I want my own!

The appointment showed still more blood being retained in my uterus. I was told that was cleared last week, but I had a period on the weekend, and it seems that I'm consistently not losing all the blood. They want me to come in again next week for a scan, and if it's still there then we have to think about other options - although I'm not fully clear what they are. Maybe putting in a stent, maybe a few cycles of hormones to force the lining to grow a lot, and then bleed heavily to train my body (doesn't that sound like fun!). Plus apparently my uterus is too small at 4cm. Nothing about me is ever too small!

If somehow the blood clears by next week then I can go ahead with the cycle, but as it's been there for a few months straight now I'm not optimistic. It's all very non-standard inside me now, so the doctors aren't sure how to approach the problem. I think I have been bumped to the top doc in the clinic, who was an oncologist, so that's good at least. He will speak directly to my surgeon so they can stop communicating via me - with one saying 'you are fully recovered' and the other saying 'you are not recovered enough'! Frustrating...

If there is still blood next week then I will also go on a long term course of low dose antibiotics, as apparently there is a big risk of infection with this blood, so it has to be solved one way or another.

The clinic are lovely and optimistic, but I has allowed myself to get excited, but now I'm back to the normal SNAFU of my life.

AFM is 'as for me'.

chickpea

onestep wrote: »

I've been on hols.. Just catching up, & seen chickpea's news.. I'm so so sorry ((hugs)). Lots of love xx

Right back at you, onestep..

At least I have had some time off work to get my head round it - if I had had to go straight back into work it would have got quite ugly with snot and tears..

Any developments with you, and your adoption aspirations?

xx

chickpea

Murray wrote: »

Hi ladies

I used to be a regular poster/lurker on this thread but withdrew when I thought it was time to rein in my TTC obsession. Anyway we didn't stop TTC and I just wanted to bring you up to date with our journey.

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Wishing you the best of luck and happiness.

Murray xx

I remember you Murray! Lots of congratulations, hope all goes well hereon in!

Peonie

Hi ladies,

There's a lot going on. It's CD 24 and the pain has started. Who knows when AF will show her witchy head.

I did not tell work about the FS appointments but told my boss about the IVF treatment straight away as I did not want it hanging over me and as my work has a fertility policy that says you should tell work straight away. My boss guessed I was having fertility problems as I've never hidden that I want children and we've been married a few years. The policy says I will get sick leave but I'm hoping they will be a bit more flexible and will let me take flexi for any daytime appointments we have.

onestep

chickpea wrote: »

Any developments with you, and your adoption aspirations?

xx

We're waiting to be assigned a SW.. We're not pushing very hard at the moment as I'm changing jobs next month, & I want to settle in there before I start asking for time off for home visits. The agency are running a course about the prospective adopters report in Oct, & we'll go to that hopefully. It's all a bit up & down really. I'm still not 100% but then I have a tendency to over think these things. I worry about spoiling what we have now.. & then I think I'd still worry about that if I got pg naturally. So we're exploring our options, & following the path. We'll see where it leads!

Glad you had some time off work chickpea. Be gentle to yourself. Have some more (hugs) xx