The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Wonder_Woman

Hi All,

Have just found out (well perhaps 1m or so ago) after trying for a year that DH and I will need IVF. Some lovely people on my panicked thread suggested I come over here and lurk. We have attended two information sessions since being referred but still feel that we haven't got a clue what's happening and feel very alone. Have a million questions but our consultant was not very friendly / in a hurry and didn't really feel we could ask vey much. I'm just keen to hear everyone's stories so will go back to lurking and listen with interest Wishing lots of luck to everyone that is going through this xxx

onlywayisup_2

Welcome wonder woman. Youve come to the right place. I cant help and im just a newbie myself but im sure someone with more knowledge will be along shortly.

Time2deal- sounds exciting!!! Im sure the broken piggy bank will be worth it.:)

Tea- big hugs. One of the reasons i dont have facebook because i know id be constantly doing the same. Its so hard when you find out things like that and esp when its a bit of a shock. I dont know the inns and outs obviously but im sure theres a reason youre no longer with him and im sure youre better off without him. Get a big glass of wine and some chocs tonight. You deserve it. You did not bring this on yourself and it wasnt your fault! I think because your having such a hard time you might look on it with rose tinted glasses but im sure if it didnt work he wasnt the one for you.

Floaty- i can totally relate. I was supposed to go for genetic testing this month but when i never recieved an appointment the hospital realised the doc hadnt bothered to refer me:mad:. Its horrible when you spend your life waiting for each appointment and it means so much to you but just not so much to anyone else:o

Primmer- thanks for the hugs!

Mrshappy- congrats on the auntie title! Nothing nicer than a baby in the family. There hasnt been one in our family for at least 12yrs.

Thanks for popping over abis! I remember yours from the other thread. I think its more the waiting for a possible 6+ months that bothers me atm. Just another speed bump on the road i guess. Im also worried about my health and what this could mean for the future. Theres some scary info on the net! but your situation gives me hope for me in the end.

time2deal

Welcome Wonder Woman. There are plenty of ladies here who can help. TTC, and infertility, has been the hardest thing I've ever had to face but talking about it really helps.

If you want you can do a little summary - one sec I'll find the post with all our details on it, and you can see what people normally say.

edit: I've added the list again. Let me know if anyone wants me to change something.

time2deal

IVF/ICSI/FET cycles currently ongoing.

Lucyloo: ICSI Cycle. EC 14 August.
2 embryos on board 17 August. Fingers crossed.
vseviour: IVF ICSI Cycle ongoing


Team TTC info

• Angeltreats TTC#1 since 08/12, NTNP for at least a year before that. 33 OH 33. Investigation so far: Scan & 21 day bloods for me, all ok. OH has low sperm count & low motility. Next step: waiting to see GP hopefully for FS referral.
• bigmomma051204 TTC#2 since 01/12. PCOS. One ovary due to childhood issue. Overweight, but regular 28 day cycle.
• Chickpea 40. TTC#2 since 09/09. Low AMH. 12 cycles Clomid BFN, 6 cycles ovulation induction (Gonal F + Ovitrelle) BFN. Natural BFP 06/13, MMC 08/13.
• codemonkey TTC#1 since Oct 2010. 33, DH 31. Possible problems on both sides, just started investigations into why it's taking so long.
• cwtw Ttc #1 since Jan 12, me 31 OH 32. Me: PCO normal weight and symptomless except bleeding too often; some anovulatory cycles. OH normal everything. Next Step: On inositol, first fs appt Sept 13 eek.
• Derby2 TTC#1 since 09/08. 34, DH 34. Stupidly low AMH, DH fine. Miracle BFP ended in m/c 01/13. 6 rounds clomid, 4 IUI. Next step IVF-first appointment on 5th August.
• Elsie37 TTC#1 since 02/12. 31. Next step: FS appointment 29 July
• Fannyanna TTC#1 since 05/11. 28. DH 25. PCOS. Primary infertility (not ovulating). Overweight - losing to get Clomid. Next step:Awaiting AF for HSG.
• Floaty TTC#1 01/09. 33. DH 38. No obvious fertility issues from GP tests, slightly low SA. Next step:1st FS appointment 19 Aug.
• FrozenPenguin TTC#1 since Dec 2011. 30, DH 35, Me: mild PCOS, irregular cycles and irregular ovulation. DH: low SA in all 3 areas (count, morphology and motility) and a varicocele. Currently on our fifth cycle of Clomid with the next step being IVF at the end of the year.
• goodvibes TTC#1 since 04/12. 36 OH 38. Investigation so far. Me no problems OH low sperm count. Next step: Current on 3 cycles of clomid on 2/3. Next appointment early Oct.
• lisawood78 TTC # 1 since 2003, I'm 35 hubby 38. Hubby no issues. No fallopian tubes due to ectopic pregnancies caused by severe adhesions. 9 Failed IVF/ICSI/FET cycles. Taking a break til we decide what to do next.
• lucyloo77 TTC#1 since 07/2011. 35, OH is 41. OH has low SA/motility, me no known issues. 1x unsuccessful IVF/ICSI in May 2013. Next step:About to start IVF/ICSI #2 at beginning of August 2013 (eek!).
• MrsDavo TTC#1 (together) since 01/2011. 25, OH : 35. I have 6yr old girl, he has 4yr old girl both from different relationships. MMC April 2012. Diagnosed PCOS Dec 2012 - i ovulate on my own maybe twice a year! Male slightly low. Next step: just been prescribed clomid 50mg for 6 months - awaiting day 21 blood test to see if it worked.
• onestep TTC#2 (dd 9) we've stopped actively ttc now, & are investigating adoption. Waiting to be assigned a SW
• Part Mouse TTC#1 since 2009. 29 DH 36. PCOS, blocked right tube, no ov. Waiting to start injections. Male problems as well. No response to tamoxafin.
• Peonie TTC #1 since 08/10. 34, DH 37. Severe endo. 1 MC 06/12.Next step: IVF.
• Purcy81 TTC#1 since 09/12 aged 32 DH aged 32. 2MC (Oct 12 & Jun 13) Irregular and long cycles with late OV and short LP (managed to get it to 10 days now with AC and Vit B6). Other than this no known problems on either side. Next steps Just keep trying, both MC have been confirmed by the doctor but no medical help or even testing will be forthcoming as we can get pregnant and they only test after 3MC as having 2 is "probably just bad luck"
• Picklepin TTC since July 2012. 35, DH35. No problems found on either side. Have had bloods, HSG and SA. On 4th cycle of Clomid, even though I was seen to ovulate it without it.
• Primmer TTC#1 since 2009. 39, DH 48. Unexplained infertility. Unsuccessful IVF treatment. Considering adoption but still hoping for a miracle.
• RowingGirl TTC#1 since March 2011. 30, OH 37. Regular cycles, no chronic illnesses, blood tests, SA, HSG & hysterscopy all came back normal. GP diagnosed unexplained infertility and advised us to relax & keep TTC'ing; she's not prescribed any fertility drugs. Referred to FS on 9 August. Awaiting appointment
• teaandcupcakeordeath TTC #1 since 04/2011. Me (29). BMI 31. Unicornuate Uterus, PCOS, Mild Endo. Irregular cycles. Elevated Prolactin. DH (30) Poor SA results (count, motility and morphology). Next Step: Brain MRI to check for benign tumour, Obstetrics appointment to check I'm physically able to carry a pregnancy, 2 cycles of NHS IVF with ICSI approved when results are in and BMI at target.
• Smookle TTC for approx 18 months. Aged 27. DH 29. Had laproscopy and diagnosed with moderate Endo and adhesions. All allegedly fixed and fine but still not pregnant. Regular, short cycles, ovulating 2 out of 3 times. Next step - Start IUI in November/December if still not pregnant.
• Tea Lover TTC#1 since 2009. Me - 34, endo, pcos. OH - 41, v poor SA results (count, motility, morphology). Clomid - didn't do much. One ICSI cycle - BFP then early m/c. Next step: considering egg sharing cycle in September
• theonlywayisup TTC#1 since feb 12. Me (29) pcos, long irregular cycles. OH (30) awaiting results of SA. Also awaiting fs appointment and results of possible partial molar pregnancy.
• time2deal TTC#1 since 10/11. 36. DH 36. Low AMH, Low SA - but ovulating fine. Overweight (31 BMI). Cervical cancer 12/12 (remission 03/13). IVF 01/13 9 frozen embryos. AF problems since cancer treatment. Next step: Meeting at IVF Clinic 21 August to plan ICSI cycle
• vseviour TTC#1 since 04/2011. 30, DH 28. I have irregular cycle, he has poor count, motility, etc. Both overweight. Lost 4 stone to get BMI to 30, 6 month of Clomid no joy, just been for Prostap jab, Next step: 22nd Aug and having ICSI at end of Aug.
• Whattodonow TTC#1 for for over 2 years. 32, Had all scans - OK, OH has supersperm, I have around 11 AMH, so not great. Three rounds of clomid - totally eff-ed up my cycle and effected my eyesight, so didn't complete 4th round. Next step IVF, waiting for patient info evening invite.
• Wonder Woman TTC#1 for approx. 1 year. Me: 27, no known problems, DH: 34, problem with vas deferens. Have had bloods and initial consults. Trying to decide whether we can face going ahead with IVF

Wonder_Woman

Thanks Time2deal. Here goes..

TTC#1 for approx. 1 year. Me: 27, no known problems, DH: 34, problem with vas deferens. Have had bloods and initial consults. Trying to decide whether we can face going ahead with IVF

Whattodonow

Hi WW

Exciting stuff t2d! Fingers crossed this one will do it! X

time2deal

Updated WW. I think MrsHappy's partner has something similar, although of course I'm not sure of the details. If you see her around she may be able to offer a bit of advice.

tea_lover

morning all, big wave to WW. It's not nice that we ever get newbies (iyswim!) but obviously it's lovely that we can all help each other through this.... just wish that none of us needed this place!

T2D - thanks for doing the list, it's really helpful to see where everyone is up to.

Having spoken to a v helpful andrologist we decided not to try the DNA frag test again. We've got an appt in sept to discuss an egg-share cycle but I'm still not sure if that's for us or not. Too much to think about!

lucy - thinking of you and your super-embies xx

purcy81

Good morning ladies is it ok if I join you? I know a lot of you from the other thread but for those who don't know me here's a bit about my journey

Purcy81 TTC#1 since 09/12 aged 32 DH aged 32. 2MC (Oct 12 & Jun 13) Irregular and long cycles with late OV and short LP (managed to get it to 10 days now with AC and Vit B6). Other than this no known problems on either side. Next steps Just keep trying, both MC have been confirmed by the doctor but no medical help or even testing will be forthcoming as we can get pregnant and they only test after 3MC as having 2 is "probably just bad luck"

I never imagined I would still be here without a baby when I started TTC last year and I know I've been trying barely any time compared to some but I feel a sense of resignation now. I still believe we will have a child of our own I just don't think it will be any time soon.

Smookle

Hi everyone, I was about to join the ttc thread, and then saw Wonder Woman's thread about starting IVF, and all the suggestions to come here, so thought I would lurk and follow her over!
A bit of background, I'm 27, OH is 29, we've been ttc for 18 months. Went to the fertility specialist last november and was referred for a laproscopy, which subsequently diagnosed moderate endometriosis and adhesions in my fallopian tubes. Apparently they've fixed both problems, but three months post surgery we are still very unpregnant. ( I know its only three months, but I have quite short cycles so have actually had 4 very depressing periods in that time). They wouldn't start me on clomid or anything because my tests indicated I ovulate 2 out of 3 months.
I have resigned myself to the fact that we may not be able to conceive without assistance. We would be elligible to start IUI in november, which although is only a few months away, feels like an eternity!