The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

tea_lover

Hi SewIt :wave::wave:

angeltreats

Code, sorry, I forgot to send you a hug for your sh1tty results. A big middle finger up at it all. Not very helpful to have a mumbly doctor though... any word of when your OH's SA will be?

codemonkey

The kit has come in to his doctors but he needs to give 2 samples, a month apart and we're going away in 4 weeks so holding off until he'll be able to do that. I'm hoping our only issue is lack of ovulation from me, because at least its an answer as to why it hasn't happened so far and its easily fixed with nasty drugs which will turn me into the antichrist.

angeltreats

Funny we never had to use a kit, just a little pot and a printout to give to the cytology department at the hospital when he dropped off his sample. And we didn't have to do two, we only had to do a second one (about three weeks later) as the first one was so terrible.

I was also desperately hoping that the issue was with me, I wouldn't mind being the antichrist, half the time I'm going that way anyway.

Hubby went to Tesco this lunchtime without even being reminded and bought three tubs of soy isos for me. He is so in my good books at the moment bless him. AF is due tomorrow or Thursday so I'll be able to start taking them soon.

codemonkey

angeltreats wrote: »

Funny we never had to use a kit, just a little pot and a printout to give to the cytology department at the hospital when he dropped off his sample. And we didn't have to do two, we only had to do a second one (about three weeks later) as the first one was so terrible.

I was also desperately hoping that the issue was with me, I wouldn't mind being the antichrist, half the time I'm going that way anyway.

Hubby went to Tesco this lunchtime without even being reminded and bought three tubs of soy isos for me. He is so in my good books at the moment bless him. AF is due tomorrow or Thursday so I'll be able to start taking them soon.

How weird that the procedure would be so different. I'm guessing the 'kit' is just a pot and a label and hopefully instructions on where to take it as we need to get it to a hospital in the next city as our local hospital doesn't deal with that.

Good luck with the soy. Taking them at night helps to reduce any side effects.

teaandcakeordeath

My OH had to do two samples a week apart but I think that was standard to sort of average out the tests- sometimes if you haven't abstained you can get a rubbish result so the second routine test establishes if you really are knackered I suppose. Weird how they vary everywhere though.

Sewit welcome to our thread! It's not nice welcoming a new face but it's nice to meet you. I hope you're getting all the support you need from your OH and family. We're here if you need a rant.

Tealover. Is there any way you'd consider just being signed off for a bit to look after yourself? I don't mean to step out of line but obviously you've had a hard time of it with IVF and the m/c and I can't remember you saying you were staying off work to sort of decompress a little from it all (I remember thinking how incredible you were for getting back into the work saddle straight away!). Sorry if this is out of line, it's just that you don't deserve to feel that way. xx

mrshappy

Good morning.
I've been MIA for a wee while, busy with real work and also setting up my own business, which has taken off in the last few weeks.
Have just handed another 5 grand over to the Nuffield and things are good to go for this cycle-baseline scan and Prostap injection next Tuesday. I have lost the protocol sheet for donor cycles, but need to find it as it help get things clear in my head. Very excited, but also utterly terrified as I know how crushing a negative result after ICSI is.

tea_lover

lucy - thinking of you this morning, hope EC goes well xx.

mrshappy

Doh, I'm not good at early morning reading-good luck this morning Lucy xx

tea_lover

mrshappy - new business sounds very exciting! Hope it's all going well and you're enjoying it. Am jealous! Best of luck for when things kick off on Tuesday, will have my fingers crossed.
TACOD - not out of line at all! Am seriously tempted to try and take some time off, but tbh I'm worried that if I stop I might never get started again. I didn't take any time off during/after everything which with hindsight probably was a mistake, but now I feel if I give in to a day in bed (which sounds SO good) I don't think I'd be able to get up again.
angeltreats - am very impressed with your soy-buying hubby!

Things not great in the Tea household, as ever. OH now back in the spare room yet again. He came home last night after I was asleep (that was planned, and not a problem) but then he was so stupidly loud it kept waking me up. He then came to bed (nearly midnight by this point, I'd gone to bed at 10) and started eating a packet of crisps :mad:. I told him to shut up and he went off to the spare room in a strop. He left early this morning so didn't see him.

Am just so fed up with it all. Think it's quite telling that I've spent some time this morning making a list of who owns what furniture, and have decided I'd miss the xbox far more than him if he decided to take it with him.

But if I do decide to call it a day that really will be it on the children front. I'm nearly 35, I'd be single and childless .