The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

lucyloo77

Tea - hun, trust me you're not the only one! The amount of times I've seriously nearly just stood up and walked out of work. And I've wished many, many times I could just run away from everyone and everything. Just get on a train and stick myself in the outer reaches of Scotland or north Wales or somewhere, away from everyone and just start again. I really do know how you feel. Huge hugs. Xx

I also agree that I'm sick of everyone in the universe being pregnant. It is not fair in the slightest. And sick of putting in a monumental effort each day to pretend to feel 'normal' when really this whole fertility thing is killing me inside.

Mokba - As for facebook, haha, I have come soooooo close to just deleting the whole thing and being done with it! Maybe i should. It also gets me down, all the pg announcements etc - I just don't wanna see it.

Hmmph, sorry for going off on a rant there. Blame the drug-induced hormones. Just kinda glad that I'm not the only one that feels like this (not that I would wish feeling crap like this on you guys either, but you know what I mean).

time2deal

Sorry to hear you are having a hard time Tea. I know the desire to run away! I'm actually kind of doing it - we are moving to Australia partially to get away from UK and hopefully change our lives and our fortunes.

Of course, the problem is everywhere you go, you go too! (And DH sticks around too... )

Rowingirl wrote: »

Good luck with your appts TCD, good vibes & pinkteapot; hope you have the outcome you want.

My work inbox is awash with birth & pregnancy emails and unfortunately I can't turn block them. Thank god for this thread - been a lifesaver chatting to you all

You know what is kind of worse - I've stopped getting them so much, as all my friends have moved on. They all have their 2.4 kids, and are getting them to school age, and really moving on with their lives. I feel so stuck miles behind, plus even if I do have kids, they will be so much younger than all their friends/cousins...

I feel like I am running to catch up, but everyone is getting further and further ahead.

tea_lover

time2deal wrote: »

I feel like I am running to catch up, but everyone is getting further and further ahead.

I know what you mean T2D. OH's sister (only a couple of years older than him) has a 2yr old grandaughter. My niece is starting secondary school. People I used to babysit are married and pg.

I feel like I'm a generation behind already.

mokba43

Time, once a "helpful" friend told me it "wasn't a race" little do they know how it really feels!
I don't wish this upon anyone!!! But man, I do wish people tried harder to step in our shoes

codemonkey

just been to see the doctor to discuss the results. He took a look at my results and said it wasn't great - I may or may not have ovulated and if I did it probably wasn't a good quality egg. I think he's referred me elsewhere - it's hard to tell cause he really mumbles, there were noises about pcos, then he took more blood and I have to go for a swab when AF is gone. I think those are just box ticking exercises cause I'm not sure what cd2 progesterone will tell anyone. He did say not to worry as at 33 there's still time and "they have ways of making me ovulate" which he said in a normal tone not a sinister villain type way and then he muttered something about 20 babies and I'm not sure if he meant I'd have 20 babies or wouldn't have 20 babies. If it's the former, I promise to share them out.

As an aside I've recently told my mum ( she tried for 16 years after my brother was born to have me so you'd think she'd understand) and she said that I should just relax and have a few drinks on holiday. I think this whole not ovulating thing might make her change her mind.

Rowingirl

codemonkey wrote: »

just been to see the doctor to discuss the results. He took a look at my results and said it wasn't great - I may or may not have ovulated and if I did it probably wasn't a good quality egg. I think he's referred me elsewhere - it's hard to tell cause he really mumbles, there were noises about pcos, then he took more blood and I have to go for a swab when AF is gone. I think those are just box ticking exercises cause I'm not sure what cd2 progesterone will tell anyone. He did say not to worry as at 33 there's still time and "they have ways of making me ovulate" which he said in a normal tone not a sinister villain type way and then he muttered something about 20 babies and I'm not sure if he meant I'd have 20 babies or wouldn't have 20 babies. If it's the former, I promise to share them out.

Hi codemonkey - I think is normal if you're referred for fertility treatment. My GP has just done the same tests (blood & swab) with me; apparently the FS uses the CD2 test results to measure my ovarian reserve or potential response to ovarian stimtulation drugs. Swab test is for chlaymedia. OH has to have HIV & hepatitis blood tests. The blood & swab test results must be less than 6 months old so mine had to be re-done. Luckily my GP was training another GP during my last appt so she explained everything in great detail.

Feel stuck in the middle at times. Workmates and friends are just starting their families but my & OH's eldest siblings are 8 years older than each of us and our nieces are in their teens now. Our eldest niece (19) just had a baby so I'm now a great aunt :eek:. OH's brother did try to hurry us along so his daughters would have more cousins but has shut up since we annouced our move to Australia .

SewIt_2

Hi everyone,

I have been a long time lurker on this thread and I would like you all to know that it has been great to read stories about others in my situation (even though it sucks we are in this situation!). Firstly I just wanted to say thanks, cause you have all helped me, even if you don't know it.

A wee bit about me, I'm 35 (just yesterday!) and my husband is 38, we've been TTC baby 1 since Oct 2011. We fall into the dreaded 'unexplained' category. I have regular cycles and I ovulate normally, and DH has great little swimmers. In June this year, we embarked on our first, privately funded, round of IVF, which was unsuccessful as we found out 3 weeks ago. I was really unprepared for this and the last three weeks have been the worst of my life. I have a very supportive DH and family (my sister has been amazing, I don't think I could have got through this without her) but I am still struggling. Just trying to get by day at a time until our review on 6th Sept. For info, I have low AMH (4) but we still got 8 eggs, 4 fertilised and two grade 7 (8 being the best at our clinic) put back at day 2. No frosties I'm afraid.

Just wanted to say hi and to see if there is any advice you lovely ladies can offer about what to ask at my review.

Also, to weigh in on the Clomid thing, I was never offered it, I was just advised to go to IVF if it didn't work after two years. We were a little impatient and went for IVF after 20 months, but I hate waiting!

So, now we wonder what to do next, another IVF or consider adoption?

Anyway, that's me,

thanks
Sew It xxx

mokba43

Nice to meet you Sew it.

I once worked for someone that went through 10 IVF's to conceive her first, 3 to conceive the 2nd. Money was obvs not an issue!
If i could, id never give up, adoption is categorically not for me; but we are all different. You know the answer in your heart

frozenpenguin

tea_lover wrote: »

I know what you mean T2D. OH's sister (only a couple of years older than him) has a 2yr old grandaughter. My niece is starting secondary school. People I used to babysit are married and pg.

I feel like I'm a generation behind already.

Me and the DH are two generations behind in our family - DH's cousin has a 23 year old daughter and last month she annouced she was expecting her first.

Meaning that my inlaws (in their 70's) are still waiting for their first grandchild yet my mother in law has to put up with her sister gloating that she's going to be a great-grandmother!
Makes me feel both and :mad:

angeltreats

frozenpenguin wrote: »

Me and the DH are two generations behind in our family - DH's cousin has a 23 year old daughter and last month she annouced she was expecting her first.

Meaning that my inlaws (in their 70's) are still waiting for their first grandchild yet my mother in law has to put up with her sister gloating that she's going to be a great-grandmother!
Makes me feel both and :mad:

My inlaws are in their very early 60s and their first grandchild is on the way (my sister in law is due in January). Meanwhile my parents are in their mid to late 70s and are still waiting, as I'm an only child and they had me late in life. I know how much my folks would love to be grandparents.

I haven't actually told my parents that we are trying, because my mum has a tendency to not let things lie and I know she would badger me constantly. It wouldn't matter that they tried for ten years themselves and never managed to have a baby (they adopted me), I know that every single phone call she would be quizzing me and I just couldn't cope with that.