The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

pinkteapot

time2deal wrote: »

It's annoying to have so many scans, but I think it's great to get a real insight into how your body works. I'm doing a monitored cycle now, and will definitely be making DH DTD on time if I know for sure I am ovulating! I have conceive plus at the ready...

You're right - I'm sorry if I sounded like a right moaning minnie! I didn't mean to. After all, this is all free on the NHS! Just over-tired today and a bit glum that I didn't ov when they first thought I had. I know that's completely irrational.

Sorry the internal scans are so painful for you, that's horrible.

time2deal

pinkteapot wrote: »

You're right - I'm sorry if I sounded like a right moaning minnie! I didn't mean to. After all, this is all free on the NHS! Just over-tired today and a bit glum that I didn't ov when they first thought I had. I know that's completely irrational.

Sorry the internal scans are so painful for you, that's horrible.

I keep hoping it will get better, but if anything it's getting worse. S3x is also pretty painful, but not as bad, and it eases off once you get going, IYKWIM! But it continues to be a problem, as DH is also aware and doesn't like hurting me, so it's put a bit of a dampner on our s3x life - something we didn't especially need.

The doctor gives his normal answer - wait. At least until we give IVF etc a good go, as presumably any attempts to resolve it could result in delays to further fertility treatment.

I think with the internal scans they press quite hard to get a good view, but normally its not an area where you have that many nerves so you don't notice too much.

I'm a bit down today, and the last few days, for some reason. I've gotten all stressed about lots of things that normally don't worry me too much. Money, my house is falling apart (leaking roof, flooded flooring that needs re-doing), work is tedious, and weight loss seems to have stopped again. sigh.

Part_Mouse

huge hugs to tea and t2d your both going through so much right now and continue to show so much strength and courage. xx

teaandcakeordeath

It sounds like this is taking its toll on all of us. Hugs to Tea and T2D.

Tea, have you considered couples counselling or is it something your OH won't consider at all? It took me 2 months of gentle persuasion to get my OH to the counsellor but it really helped. It gave him a chance to say what he was thinking without being worried I'd get upset or turn it into an argument. I know it's not for everyone but it might help you both work through all of the sh it! Just a thought. I used to think counselling was a load of bull but that was when I thought I was 'normal'. Turns out infertility brings everything out in the wash... My counsellor said that it's perfectly natural for the 'normal' member of the partnership to be angry at the 'problem' partner. I'm just grateful that we're both knackered so it doesn't put that extra pressure on us. It must be incredibly hard for you at the moment.

To the clomid ladies- it wasn't an option for me sadly but my FS did say that it was my trusts policy to do 3 unmonitored cycles first. He explained that it was because 'a substantial number' of women on clomid became pregnant within the first 3 months (therefore not particularly cost effective to monitor everyone) and the remainder within the next 3 months (as it can have a cumulative effect on fertility/ cycles). I know it's frustrating but the odds are in your favour at the moment so as hard as it is stay positive and don't lose heart! Also I think clomid can affect OPKs- makes them less reliable. I'm not 100% on this but I'm sure there are a couple of clomid ladies around here who could confirm that...

tea_lover

Thanks ladies - as ever! I really don't know what I'd do without you all.

Whattodonow

Hello all,

Sorry I've been AWOL for a while. Haven't had much to say. Thanks for doing the list timetodeal - means I can quickly catch up. Can you add me please?

32, ttc#1, trying for over 2 years, had all scans - OK, OH has supersperm, I have around 11 AMH, so not great. Three rounds of clomid - totally eff-ed up my cycle and effected my eyesight, so didn't complete 4th round. Next step IVF, waiting for patient info evening invite.

Thanks
x

Whattodonow

teaandcakeordeath wrote: »

Just thought- didn't mention it but at my last meeting with the FS in June I asked her what all of my test results were including AMH.

She told me it was what they consider normal (finally- one sodding normal thing!) but they disregard it now and I was one of the last patients to have it as a blood test in their hospital (Hewitt Centre Liverpool) as they found that it didn't really have any bearing on IVF. They used to use it to determine drug doses for IVF stims (low AMH= higher doses) but found that they were over stimulating women with low AMH levels. She said the link between low AMH/ ovulation/ egg quality is tenuous...

Just thought I'd post that info in case anyone worries about AMH. Though what one FS says another seems to think is bonkers!

Oooh, thanks for this TCD. My AMH test was at Hewitt too. Glad they wont be over stimming me when I get to IVF!

time2deal

So there I was doing my walk through Hyde Park, listening to my ipod on random and the Dixie Chicks came on - as it often does, there is a lot on there. I was thinking of other things, and suddenly I tuned into the words and realized that the song was about infertility. I must have listened to it 100 times before without realizing.

Anyway, for your listening pleasure

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sBj0ZobEVVA

Derby2

Morning everyone.

Can I join in too? Thank you for doing this T2D...great idea.

Derby2 TTC#1 since 09/08. 34, DH 34. Stupidly low AMH, DH fine. Miracle BFP ended in m/c 01/13. 6 rounds clomid, 4 IUI. Next step IVF-first appointment on 5th August.

Bleugh-it's horrible to see it written down like that, isn't it? 5 years TTC in September. Feel like my life has been on hold-sorry, feeling a bit eeyore again today.

Does anyone else feel like their always waiting for something, whether it be ovulation, two week wait, the next appointment. I feel like I'm on an endless merry-go-round and I want to stop and get off with everyone else!

tea_lover

So already got soaked waiting for a taxi (have misjudged the weather badly today) and am now in a meeting. Two of the people invited aren't coming - one is on maternity leave and one has really bad morning sickness. So now everyone else is having a lovely chat about their early symptoms and birth stories and how long they had off work.

Going to be a long day.