The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

jiblets1

Sounds like you've been doing a lot of thinking ginvzt. Sometimes it can be good to take the path where you can have some control over things. We're all sitting here waiting and hoping, with so little that we can do to actually help matters. OH and I are not actually looking at adoption yet, for me I would definately want to give 1 or 2 rounds of IVF a go first. But is definately something that is in the back of my mind, ready to hand the batton over to that hope runner. It's great that you and your husband are having a good talk about it all. (I've managed to pin OH down to saying he would consider it eventually, but he refuses to talk about it until we actually get there). It really helps you to know what actions you want to take, and again, you're having some control over things.
Don't rush into anything, and keep on talking. Well done!

ginvzt

Yes, I would like to give a go at IVF. But I think we can still 'start the ball rolling' for adoption route. As I am sure there will lots of paperwork, courses, etc...

It was OH who said should we look at adoption. We did mentioned it before, but I was glad he brought it up. He is not really sure how is the process going to go with the fertility investigations. I suspect he was thinking that after next appointment we will be on our way to IVF, but I don't think my consultant is keen on it just yet. I don't want to just go private, when if things don't happen as they should, we are entitled for it on NHS. After all, we are both paying taxes and NI.

In January it will be a year since our first appointment with GP about infertility, so I think this January we can explore 'other options'. Even if just to talk with adoption councillor and hear what they think our options are. We are both foreigners, so don't know how that would work, as I think they want to talk with the families as well (well, my family doesn't speak English, OH's only mum can communicate a bit, and brother) and find out what they think of couples' decision to adopt. Oh well, we will see - cross the bride once you come to it!

nottslass_2

meercat71 wrote: »

hi all
Just an update am now into day 7 of 2WW..
I was super lucky last time and we had a BFp after our first try but I'm not so positive this time (not that I was actually positive last time to be honest just lucky). We went in on Monday and the egg that had been doing well on Sunday had slowed down by Monday so they only gave it a 1 in 10 chance of implanting,, still I was sedated (as I have funny tubes which make smears agony) and away we went.
Apologies in advance for TMI (too much info) but has anyone else suffered from really bad constipation from progesterone? I did have it last time but it is 100 times worse..have generally had a horrible week, I get really bunged up with the progesterone and spent 4 hours on Wed night shaking and sweating and had to call the off duty doc last night as I was bleeding (from the bunged up not anything else).. I've been given glycerine suppositories for the short term but if anyone has any tips I'd be so grateful.
had a huge couple of rows with DH and generally don't know what to expect during the 2WW if it's not worked - any clues I can look out for?
sorry to be so miserable ;-(
xx

Hi Meercat,

This time last year I had my 1st unsuccessful IVF - everything went text book with great embies and they implanted 2 x Blastocysts on day 5 unfortunately AF arrived 8 days after ET So a BFN.

Next attempt - Not so good - The embryologist described my embies as " a little slow" ( developing a day behind) I actually came away from the clinic wishing that they hadn't bothered with ET -even the DR didn't seem over enthusiastic !!!

Well I'm now 32 weeks and the size of a house !!!!So please don't give up hope yet.

Sorry can't really give you any clues on what to look out for if its a BFN - personally I felt AF was on her way 5 days PT. But everybody is different, and TBH AF and pregnancy symptoms can be pretty much the same especially with the added progesterone.

I've got my fingers crossed that you get that BFP and will be stalking this thread looking for news.

Take care ,Put your feet up & remember that you are PUPO

liloandstitch

Hi all, sorry havent been posting a lot, tbh havent felt I had a lot to contribute, even though I have been reading every day. That piece was beautiful.

I think I have had a delayed reaction to the news re IVF, and have really sunk into the doldrums, and today have given in and accepted a prescription for anti-depressants - although I must be holding on to some hope as I insisted that they had to be safe to take in pregnancy!! (some hope huh!) I thought that last month I had been successful, so when AF arrived in all her glory, I had to face facts, and it werent pretty. I have started my CBFM so at least I will know that I am BDing at the right time.

So if anyone has seen my PMA, I have searched the whole world for it, with no luck! I think it must have fallen into a well and drowned.

Good luck meercat with the next week or so - as notslass says, her emby didnt look good, but it worked. will have everything crossed for you.

Lilo

jiblets1

Lilo, you've had some terrible news, it's hardly surprising that you aren't feeling top of the world. Allow yourself this time to accept what you've been told. Let yourself sink for a little while, noone says you have to keep smiling no matter what. Just don't let it last forever...

liloandstitch

Thanks jibs, Ive been heading this way for a long while tbh - the battle that you have with dwp re getting sick pay has left me really depleted, they just wont accept that I am not fit for work without making me jump through ever increasing hoops and the battle of it all on top of everything else is just one knock too many. We are going away in the middle of the week, so hopefully a bit of a rest will make me feel a bit better, and obviously the ads should help as well. Onwards and upwards as they say.

I havent given up hope, but I just cant seem to function at the moment and it seems to be outside me control, which is where, I hope, the ads help.

Thanks for your support.

Lilo

Catw0man

Ginvzt that was lovely and brought a tear to my eye.

I went back to the hospital for more blood tests today and my hcg level has now fallen to just 200:D:D:D (It was 6000 at this time last week) So glad because I really could not face more tests and ops. Have to go back for one more blood test next Monday it shouold be negative by then. Then I will be onto more tests to find out why I keep mc'ing. Also got my first counselling session next Monday too, after a long wait - it couldn't have come at a better time

MadMac_2

Oh Lilo, I'm so sorry to read that. I figured you were just hovering but sorry, I can't help with the PMA as you know mine is long gone and OH is still having to share the little I get, when I have it, to keep him going to. I'm pleased you are being treated for your depression, as it is there to help you get better, just as if you'd broken your leg. Take time to look after yourself and feel free to PM any time if you just need to offload - I'm happy to correspond by email, whatever, x

Catw0man, great news - well, as good as can be under the circumstances. At least now you can start to put this episode behind you and look forward to getting some answers and a solution I hope, x

Meercat, I'll keep things crossed for you and join Nottslass is being optimistic. You are so allowed to be feeling miserable, but hang in there if you can and try to think positive thoughts. We could really do with some good news, couldn't we! x

cedrickerry

Just wanted to pop in and say hi ...just been lurking recently. Hugs to all who need them, can't help with the PMA I'm afraid though .........

ginvzt

Well, I managed to get to the gym again!!!! I am so glad! (Knackered, but happy)

I have been out during the lunch doing the 'unhealthy' stuff - looking at baby things in Toys'r us and Mamas&Papas... Well, I need to get some sheets, duvet and possible a pillow for our godson when he comes to visit us!!!!!! That is my excuse, anyway... I am on CD25 today and had quite a temp drop this morning, so will see if AF decides to show up earlier this time. I am also a bit bloated, so that is another sign that she might be on the way. Again!