The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

codemonkey

time2deal wrote: »

I'm more impacted by this silly baby than I expected. And I'm sure we will get a show and tell tomorrow too. With beaming parents.

I was doing the lists on the other thread last year, and put KMids in jokingly - she announced she was pregnant a few weeks later. Since then I've gotten further away from having a baby, with not much hope on the cards now.

Sigh.. it's feel so hard.

One of the things I hate is how quickly things happen when other people get pregnant. You can be chatting to someone - even on here - then suddenly they get a ticket on the train, and whooosh.... off they go on the train you just can't get on. Maybe I've been at this too long, but it also feels like the baby shows up so quickly, and then of course the next one appears!

And in my life, then the family packs up and moves to Australia.

this. With so many old timers graduating recently I feel like they're now part of a club I don't get to join. I feel...left out.

emmaj30

first appointment at fertility clinic in two hours... start of a long journey...

tea_lover

codemonkey wrote: »

With so many old timers graduating recently I feel like they're now part of a club I don't get to join. I feel...left out.

Code, as ever, you've perfectly expressed what I'm feeling. Sometimes it feels like even the support of this thread isn't there anymore as everyone else has already had their babies and left.

Derby2

Hi ladies,

Sorry I've been AWOL for a while...I'm still reading but haven't really had much to say. You know how it is, CD 1, ovulation, CD1, ovulation...and repeat.

I've been dreading the royal baby announcement because it would have been my due date a few weeks afterwards, something everyone kept mentioning at the time. My plan is to avoid all news websites and gossip magazines, but I'm not really sure what I'm left with! Plenty of trips to the cinema I guess!

AFM, well we have our first IVF appointment in a couple of weeks. I'm pleased it's getting moving, but overall feeling like it's not going to work (where's my PMA?!?). What I can say is since being pregnant before, it has changed my whole view of egg donation (which I suspect is the route we'll ultimately have to go down) and I would definitely look to go down this route. The main thing that puts me off is the change in the law to do with anonymity, but that wouldn't put me off enough I don't think.

Anyway, hugs to everyone.

tea_lover

We heard this morning (through a very roundabout route) that OH's dad has left his wife (of 25ish yrs) and is moving to the other end of the country. OH hasn't heard from him for a couple of months. It was his (OH's) bday last week and not a word from his dad. They've only been in contact again for the last 5 years, after OH got in touch after 25 years of no contact at all.

It makes me so angry. His dad always seems like a lovely bloke, but OH always has to do the running. He's got 9 children to 7 different women and is in sporadic contact with 2 of them. He left OH's mum when she was 8 months pg and has never paid a penny to her.

But still OH think that it's functioning sperm that makes you a dad.

time2deal

Copied from other thread:

Mrs_T_M wrote:

CD26 time2deal - Awaiting ov

CD26? Yikes - how did I get to that. I swear is was CD15 only a few days ago.

Plenty of AF pain today, weird pain as I'm still learning my cycle again, but at least a good sign that maybe after my monster last cycle I am getting back to normal.

Off to see the IVF specialist today at 12 again! Quite exciting. I'm still not allowed to TTC for a month or so, but we are meeting today to make a plan re further IVF, or use of frozen embroys etc, so I'm looking forward to it. MRI tomorrow to confirm cancer is still in remission, so please fingers crossed everyone that it comes back clear!

I'm not ready to re-start that whole thing...

tea_lover

T2D - you'll be in my thoughts and prayers. Have everything crossed that tomorrow's MRI brings only good news.

Primmer

T2D - keeping everything crossed for your MRI scan tomorrow

AFM - I am happy about royal baby as I love the royals and glad all is ok but it doesn't stop me from feeling insanely jealous that its not me who is a mum and frustrated and angry that it is never going to be my turn :mad:

good_vibes

Hi all, good luck to those who have appointments x

fannyanna

Vseviour – Hope you’re feeling a bit better today. Grrr to your sister, grrr to the norethestine and grrr to theR oyal baby. When are you supposed to be starting IVF?

Time2deal – I know what you mean about the baby. A piece of my heart broke last night when they read Prince Williams statement: ‘We could not be happier’.

Time2deal/ Code - I know what you mean about people on the forum too. I’ve taken a bit of a step back from the forum previously and I’ve ended up feeling really jealous of some of the graduates (which makes me feel really evil).

I saw a few weeks ago that I’d been taken off the lists on the other thread and it really upset me at the time. Logically I can understand why – I hadn’t posted for a while.

Sendingyou both hugs x

Emma – how exciting about your appointment. Hope it goes well.

Derby –It makes sense that your PMA would be low at the moment. Maybe in time you’ll see IVF in a more positive light. Until then just take it easy over the next few weeks – and enjoy your cinema trips x

Tea – Wow, what a situation with yourOH’s Dad. My OH’s Dad is a bit like that. He’s not really part of our life.

Time2deal – Glad to have a plan re: the IVF and I have everything crossed that can possibly be crossed for your MRI.

Primmer – hugs x

AFM – CD110 today. I am seriously p*ssed off. I went to the doctors this morning to see if they could give me something to induce AF but she just suggested increasing Metformin (which doesn’t seem to work at all for me).

She suggested calling the fertility clinic to see if the specialist can suggest something. I’m desperately waiting for AF so that I can have this stupid HSG and get it out of the way. Plus I want to book a holiday and feel like I can’t until I’ve had the HSG. At the rate I’m going I could be waiting until nextyear.