The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

angeltreats

Good luck today Code, will be thinking of you. Hope you actually get some useful answers.

picklekin

Will be thinking of you Code, don't leave until they offer you something, and its OK to cry in the appointment, I usually do...

time2deal

picklekin wrote: »

Will be thinking of you Code, don't leave until they offer you something, and its OK to cry in the appointment, I usually do...

That ^^^^

I always do these days... and I must admit it's relatively effective in improving treatment!

Best of luck Code. Will be thinking of you.

codemonkey

thanks ladies. Appointment isn't til later. It's one of those practices where you phone in the morning for an appointment and it took me 20 minutes to get through. I'm stupidly nervous even though they'll probably manage to fob me off again.

I hate crying in front of people. Can't just do the girly sniffle and one tear rolling down my cheek. I do the full on bright red face crumple, massive choking sobs, high pitched voice, full on snotty, and cant stop once I've started thing. It tends to freak people out but it's a genetic thing - mum, sister and nieces do the same thing. Mind you, I got made redundant once and burst into tears in the meeting and it scared them so much, they trebled the amount of redundancy pay and sent me home immediately so perhaps I should use it like that more often.

tea_lover

I look like the undead when I cry. It's definitely not pretty!

tea_lover

Grr!!! OH has just mightily pee'd me off (no change there I know!) Last time we saw the FS (6th June - 6 flaming weeks ago) she gave us a letter for his GP to give him a prescription for antibiotics. It took over a month for him to even take it to the GP, and he still hasn't actually picked up the d.amn thing. Just asked him something about it and he said "you're the doctor expert". Well yes, of course I bl00dy am, I'm the one that constantly has to call them, and make appointments, and chase things up, and actually listen to what they're telling us.

I am fuming :mad:.

The dna fragmentation test is only a week away now and he hasn't even started the antibiotics. So basically that's a complete waste of money even having the test.

ETA: called the hospital to rearrange the test for after the course of antibiotics has finished. I thought it was next week, they thought it was 5 weeks away (completely different date and time). Am now waiting for them to call back as no one has a clue what's going on. Plus they have the most irritating hold music I've ever heard. I've got a cold, my head is banging, I'm too hot and in a FOUL mood. Roll on bedtime.

codemonkey

Did you manage to sort it out tea?

Doctor's went ok. I didn't cry. I just outlined the problem, how long we've been trying etc and I have to go next week for thyroid and rubella blood tests, then CD21 tests when my body deigns to ovulate. The GP did say that they wouldn't pursue further investigations until DH gets his SA so I really hope he does it.

Also they won't give me anything to bring on ov 'in case I'm pregnant' even though I know for a fact I haven't ov'd.

time2deal

Code - first, can I say that method for getting an appointment is crazy. I know lots of PCT's do it, but I think it's insane. At my place it takes a few weeks to get a non-urgent appointment with a specific doctor, so I can book in advance, or book on the day for a non-time-specific emergency appointment. i.e. Go after 1pm and be put on a waiting list.

But.. that aside, it's sounds like the appointment went ok. The hard thing is getting our lovely partners to feel like they have a role in this. Good luck. Mine is slowly coming around, but it has taken a long time, and some serious shocks to make him understand.

Tea, how is the frustration level? I'm still in a massive argument with DH about housework. We are at 'emailling' level. But I hope that helps. Last night was the screaming at each other level, so hopefully this is an improvement. Oh the frustrations of having a partner!

I've done 1 week of WW now. First weigh day tomorrow, and I'm nervous. I had some pictures taken on Sunday while I was 'running' and OMG I have gotten SO FAT. Every time I got to pick up something now I say to myself 'two words - back fat', and put down the chocolate.

cwtw

Hey code glad I wasn't so bad. What is it about men and there sperm hey? We have to have all kinds of outrageous and undignified things done to us and answer all kinds of questions.....
I have two solutions, (1) they should come to ALL our appointments to see what we have to go through (although that may put them off bd for life and therefore ruin pregnancy chances) (2) some kind of ridiculous YouTube video including a song to encourage sa and make it seem fun and less about their man hood.... On second thoughts, not sure either would work!

Peonie

cwtw wrote: »

Hey code glad I wasn't so bad. What is it about men and there sperm hey? We have to have all kinds of outrageous and undignified things done to us and answer all kinds of questions.....

Mr P thinks people knowing knowing he had to go through 'the act' to collect s for his SA was worse than anything I've been through. But I made him agree it was not worse than me having my legs in stirrups and the internal scan.