The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

tea_lover

I don't know if it's hormone-related but I am seriously close to smacking someone today. There are some real mupperts where I work... and they all seem to be in my office and getting in the way today :mad:.

I should have a nice quiet day with only me in here but no, I've got 3 people doing something to the hot water (along with a LOT of annoying ringtones), someone moving the medical equipment and trying to break most of it in the process, the irritating cleaner who stares a lot and keeps saying "time goes fast" about 100 times, and some people looking for a prayer room.

They really need to all f off. I'm locking the door behind me tomorrow morning.

And breathe.... nothing fertility-related but omg it's stressing me out today. Plus, I can't call and arrange a sperm fragmentation test with a room full of nosey people here.

Peonie

I'm away for a few days and loads of things happen. I did not want to run off without saying congratulations to squirrel.

time2deal

I had an annoying day today too tea. I know the feeling! My boss was asking me for some work, but not really saying what he wanted, and then complaining that I want producing what he wanted. Was very frustrating! But sorted in the end.

My boss is normally great, and he has put up with lots with me being sick and hormonal, so shouldn't complain about the odd bad day.

Came home to a nice letter from the Lister hospital. My previous ivf clinic. My cancer surgeon wrote to her (as I knew) but she sounded really positive. She wants me to come in for a consult to decide the right next steps. I can go down and talk through all options. While I feel like I 'know' what I want, it would be good to talk to her and get her advice.

We have to pay, but the letter reminded me how nice she is, and how invested she seems in wanting to help me. So the plan is to book in for two weeks when dh and I are free. Hopefully we can get an appointment! Exciting.

chickpea

bigzippy wrote: »

Vodka, like the others have said, be kind to yourself. Do what you need to to get through

Chickpea, how are you? :wave: Will I see you on the other threads?

Squirrel, congratulations!! :j

Onestep, good luck with this part of the adoption process, I'm excited for you!

Still keeping an eye on you guys, hope you don't mind?

Hi Big Z -

How are you?

I'm not sure I feel right going on the other thread..pg after infertility just feels...different. Not sure where I fit in anymore! Maybe it'll feel normal soon. I'm currently 8+1, my boobs are humungous, it's not even funny!

Maybe, one day, the rocky road to pregnancy will just seem like a bad dream...

I guess that's true for everyone - there will come a day 5, 10, 20 years in the future when all this will be ancient history. Funny to think about.

Anyway - to cut a long story short - maybe you'll see me on another thread one of these days!!

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Onestep - all the best of luck for the adoption process. I hope you'll find your way to the child you've been waiting for.

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And slightly belated, sorry, congrats to Squirrel and Becca!

bigzippy

chickpea wrote: »

Hi Big Z -

How are you?

I'm not sure I feel right going on the other thread..pg after infertility just feels...different. Not sure where I fit in anymore! Maybe it'll feel normal soon. I'm currently 8+1, my boobs are humungous, it's not even funny!

Maybe, one day, the rocky road to pregnancy will just seem like a bad dream...

I guess that's true for everyone - there will come a day 5, 10, 20 years in the future when all this will be ancient history. Funny to think about.

Anyway - to cut a long story short - maybe you'll see me on another thread one of these days

I'm ok - 14+1? Trying to not focus on the dates too much cos I'm at that weird stage where I just look and feel fat rather than pg, cos the nausea has mostly gone but I can't see or feel bump yet.

It's definitely weird being pg after a long journey/massive rollercoaster of infertility - I was saying to dh today, it feels almost like we've been accepted to adopt a baby in January, but we can't see it or see/feel any tangible proof and you don't know if it'll fall through, so you can't quite trust that it'll work out this time, cos it never has before...

Feel free to pm me any time, I don't post a lot on the pg threads either, just enough to try and convince myself it might actually be happening

Primmer

MrsDavo - have everything crossed that clomid works for you. I have never had it but I know it has helped a lot of people.

Little me - however long our journey is and what treatment we have we always have to have hope it keeps us going so please don't feel bad for thinking it would be your month, you are not the only one to do so. Sending hugs and hope it happens for you real soon.

TeaLover - I have those days and so sympathise with you! Hope today is a better day for you.

T2D - that is good news, I always find it helpful to talk through steps with fs as if you agree a plan it does make you feel positive and always good to have a plan!

BZ & Chickpea - glad is all going ok, always nice to hear from graduates.

tea_lover

Eek, just made the appointment for the sperm dna fragmentation test. Nervous now! Mostly because they need at least 1 million in the sample to carry out the test, and most of OH's tests have been below that. Fingers crossed we cross the threshold this time or that's £450 wasted.

Peonie

Primmer wrote: »

VUnfortunately, the manager decided that with our credit card debt meant could not proceed at this time. The credit card debts are being paid each month without difficulty and were incurred paying for ivf and work to our home.

Primmer's post got me thinking. How does everyone pay for treatment if it's not on the NHS? If our two IVF 'free' rounds don't work we'd have to consider paying for treatment ourselves and I would like to do in the best way financially. I think Primmer's way of paying for treatment via a 0% credit card was good (even if the social workers manager didn't - maybe she needs to come on this site:money:).

time2deal

We, thankfully, have savings. I was just talking to my cousin who has two kids and she was saying they were a bit skint since having the kids - so I guess having years to save without the costs means we are a little more comfortable than our child-bearing friends.

I would swap it all though. And given enough cycles of IVF I probably will have!

But seriously, I work in city in London with what I consider a silly salary but even we struggle with £6000+ per cycle. I worked out that I spent over £10k last year on health/fertility/chinese medicine etc. (Mind you, I do include the odd therapeutic massage in the health category!)

Part_Mouse

Tea really hoping you the test is helpful and there is enough there.

im back to the fs Monday with a view of starting the injections, really worried now with only having one working tube.

xx